He can go out with anyone; he always comes home late. He ignores me. Eish, what kind of devil did I marry? He isn’t mine but ours! Oh God, This is not the man I married! Indeed, I made a mistake!
Does this describe your man? If you have yes as an answer, then worry not. After reading this article, your man will be ‘yours’ and not ‘ours.’ He will walk with you, come home at the expected time, and always pay attention to you. Let’s dive in.
Observe Body Cleanliness
Ladies should dress to impress their husbands. Men love clean women. Do you iron your clothes and those of your husband daily? How often do you change your hairstyle? Always keep smart, from your head to your shoes. Keep your husband’s clothes clean too. Unless you are unwell, please don’t allow your house-help to clean your husband’s clothes or brush his shoes; this is your work. If you don’t keep standard body cleanliness, you can be sure that other clean women will get your man’s attention.
Observe House Cleanliness
Have you ever known that cleanliness attracts men? How do you arrange your house? Your house should always be clean and well-arranged:
Kitchen: This is an important room where we prepare our food. The kitchen also serves as a storeroom for foodstuffs. Whenever you use any utensil, wash it. Don’t wait to clean them when cooking the next meal; this is laziness, and you’ll attract insects in the kitchen.
Bedroom: This is a private room for you and your husband. It should be neat. It would help if you changed beddings daily. The bed should be welcoming, the pillows and bedsheets having a sweet aroma. Please don’t share your bed with your children from 1 to 3 years; let them have their own.
Sitting room: This is a room used mainly by all people in the house. It is the first room visitors will land. As a mother, ensure it looks neat. If a child places a spoon, plate, or toy anywhere, ensure you pick and put them in their rightful place. Don’t allow children to turn the sitting room into a playing field.
Bathroom: We tend to forget this room when it comes to cleanliness. To avoid a bad smell, make it always dry. Ensure you drain all the waters after use. Do not share the bathroom with the entire people in the house; if you do, ensure you cover your husband’s inner wears; don’t expose them.
Toilet: This is one of the rooms that need very close attention. Your washroom should be clean and always perfumed. It would help if you had proper cleaning agents to leave no stain on your toilet. I advise you to use some of them harpic power plus disinfectant and a shiner brush. Use plenty of water in the loo to ensure proper waste drainage.
I know you have a house-help, but leaving all the household maintenance to that girl is tempting your husband, and you know the consequences.
Prepare Him Quality Meals and on Time
You understand your husband more than anybody else. Who else do you expect to cook for him? You may complain you are from work and extremely tired, then leave all the cooking to your house-help. Always remember that your husband married you, not your maid.
If you think cooking and serving your husband will tire you, then sit and watch the game! Your husband will withdraw his concentration from you to the house-help or prefer eating in a hotel daily. Who will you blame for this? Your children, your house help, or your husband? If this isn’t what you want, then be active in the kitchen and serve your husband quality, flavorful, and satisfying meals. On a full stomach, a man works wonders for his wife.
Involve Him in All You Do
Ladies like a surprise, which is good. But, always learn to involve your man in your planning. If you are employed, ensure your husband knows what you earn. Don’t hide your payslip from him. This will make him feel part of you.
Budget together to avoid blames and misunderstandings. Avoid impulse buying. It should be our money, not your money! Whatever I have is ours, not mine; whatever he has is ours, not his. There should be no secret between you two. I know this may sound inapplicable but try it. You’ll unlock some potential treasures from your husband. Yes, you are the key!
Be Excellent in Bed
You know what I mean. Offer quality sex to your husband. Please don’t behave like you are tired or he is disturbing you.
Cooperate and do it as you’ve never done, and you won’t do it soon. No man will hate his wife for that. Call him sweet names during the action. Kindly don’t leave him unsatisfied, but ensure he reaches the climax. After you are through, ask him any question you ever thought was hard for him to answer. You’ll be surprised!
He will answer it with a smiling face and in a detailed form. Excellent and complete sex makes a man have a sound sleep.
Is one round enough for the night? Well, this depends on you two. If you need more, seduce your husband; if he needs more, cooperate. You’ll both enjoy it. Denying your husband sex is permitting him to receive it elsewhere. Why? Because men can’t survive without sex. To them, sex is food.
Call Him Sweet and Romantic Names
You have a right to this. Your husband belongs to you, and you belong to him. Don’t fear what people may say, don’t mind what they think. The thing is, this is my husband, not our husband. Call him any sweet and romantic name – sweetheart, sweet darling, sugar, darling, cake, babe, king, cutie, my life, and so forth. Tell him how you love him.
Engage him in romantic text messages even when at work. Use words like, I love you, honey, I don’t know who I could be without you, you mean my life, I can’t compare you with any other man, nothing feels comforting to me on earth, like having you, you are my God-given, thank you for marrying me, thank you for being a father to my kids, etc.
He may not reply as you expect, but the fact is, the romantic words are falling deep in his heart, and he’s joyfully meditating on them. Keep on proving your love to him, both in verbal and action. He will reciprocate, and believe me, his love towards you will be unconditional. Sweet and romantic words add value to love.
Don’t Compare Your Husband to Other Men
This is a mistake many ladies make. You want your husband to behave like your friend’s husband, which cannot work. I married my husband; I didn’t marry her husband.
Characters cannot be the same. Income cannot be the same. Learn to live under the capacity of your husband’s income.
Encourage your man for who he is, what he has, and what he does. Don’t disrespect your husband simply because he earns little money compared to your friend’s husband. Inspire him, and he will see sense to work harder. Be that shoulder where your man can lean on. A wise lady never discloses her husband’s weaknesses. In this, he will remain unique to you.
Ladies, men are a treasure to us. Treat them like kings. Respect and submit to them. Let them feel that they own you and everything you have. Let them feel you value them. Let their position remain the head, not the neck.
Apply the above tips to your husband, and I assure you that he will not only be your husband but your friend too, and will always stand in his position to defend you. Then you’ll join me in declaring that, ‘my man is mine alone.’