First off, congrats. If you’re debating when to embark on your honeymoon, that means you’ve just ripped off a seriously successful sequence of events.
Found the right person — check. Got engaged — check. Rocking one of the freshest classic men’s wedding bands from ManlyBands because your a$$ just got married — check.
Now it’s time to head off to an exotic locale for some newlywed sexy time. Or is it? Most couples bounce to honeymoon-town right after their marriage. But even though honeymooning right after the wedding is the common move, that doesn’t make it the right move for you and your new spouse.
We’re here to help you make that call. So let’s weigh the options and determine whether you should bounce now or a little later.
Consider the Costs
Weddings are not cheap, at all. Neither is a good honeymoon. So if the wedding expense is going to leave you feeling a little tight, it might be best to save the big trip for a later date. Give yourselves some time to get your money right before you head out on the honeymoon you deserve. The lag can also give you plenty of time to accrue fresh airline miles — you know, if that’s your thing.
Another note to consider regarding costs: If you want to save a little bread, you should honeymoon outside peak travel time. In general, flights are most expensive during the summer and around Christmas. You should also conduct a little research specific to your desired destination. Find out if prices are a little more appealing during certain times of the year.
So if you’ve just dropped a huge amount of cash on a peak-season wedding — late spring through early fall — you might want to consider an off-season honeymoon, when prices tend to get a little sexier.
The Wedding Was a Grind: You Need to Get Away
Some weddings leave couples feeling absolutely taxed. Months and months of planning. So many little details to consider. So many different cohorts tugging on you: in-laws, wedding parties, college friends who still party like they’re 22.
It’s just a lot. It’s so much, in fact, that it can be kind of easy to forget the point of the whole damn thing. So if all that tangential stuff has been in your face for too long, heading off on a romantic honeymoon — just the two of you, finally — may be just what the doctor ordered.
On the other hand, if that wedding wore your asses down, you might need to chill a minute before you embark…
The Wedding Was a Grind: You Need a Minute
What, now we’re saying you need to recover from the wedding blitz and decompress a minute, a$$e$ on the sofa before you head out? Are we talking out of both sides of our mouth? Sort of?
Really, we’re just trying to provide a dash of realism so you can make the best decision. Lots of weddings can be stressful indeed, especially when you’re dealing with a big affair with scores of attendees or a mother-in-law from hell. And after a wedding that feels more like a traumatic event than a celebration, some couples need to sink into the sofa and not do a damn thing for a while.
It’s all about y’all’s stress response. Know yourselves and plan accordingly.
Is It Now Or Never?
While the now-or-later debate rages, you need to keep an important component about existence in mind: Life is not quite as predictable as we’d like it to be. At this point, it may seem like you can hold off and delay your honeymoon for six months, maybe a year. Your schedules are flexible. Your commitments are slim.
But that can all change in the blink of an eye. A demanding new job or a promotion can suddenly wreak havoc on your schedule, making a trip seem impossible. Or maybe you’ll get to baby-making a little bit quicker than you anticipated.
Having a baby on the way can make a honeymoon seem quite a bit less fun or even financially imprudent. And then a honeymoon with your newborn along? Eh, doesn’t sound so great.
The point is: You don’t know what’s coming your way or what life is gonna throw at you in the coming days.
So, newlyweds, the best time for your honeymoon might be RIGHT NOW.
Do Something Special, No Matter What
If you do decide to postpone your honeymoon for a bit, we have an important ask: At the very least — the absolute bare minimum — give yourselves a minimoon. This can be the equivalent of a staycation, a day or two post-wedding celebration that gives y’all a chance to simply be together.
Hit the town and eat a little too much. Pop your flask and drink a little too much. Do something sexy. Do something fun. Whatever you do, do it together. Just the two of you. Don’t simply turn on your heels and report right to your workaday existence. Let the joy of matrimony encircle you for a nice little chunk of time before you clock back into the mundanity of the day-to-day.