I am so frustrated and have no idea what is going on because it seems like no one else is in a similar situation :(.
My boyfriend and I have been with each other for two years and in the beginning, it was very exciting and our sex drives were sky-high. We experimented often and introduced each other to new things! It was amazing. We’d have sex at least once a day.
After about 7 months, I realized that he kept saying ‘I’m tired’ a lot when I’d initiate sex. After a while, it got worse and I would have to ask for sex (not good). We are now having sex about once every two weeks…
We’re in a loving, committed relationship and I know he is smitten with me just as I am with him. I know he isn’t cheating. I don’t think he is gay but I am so confused!
He said that he is completely attracted to me and he gives me compliments every day but said he thinks that he is just ‘comfortable’ in the relationship so doesn’t want it often. He also said that he thinks he may have over-stimulated his penis from watching porn so much in the past. He also said that he never really liked sex that much but he didn’t want me to think that he was weird… He went to see his university doctor who said it was ‘normal’ but I know that it definitely IS NOT!
I read back on our old conversations from when we first got together and he wrote that he jokes that he thinks he’s a ‘sex addict’ – what the hell.
He eats VERY healthily, exercises around 4 times a week, drinks ‘WHEY protein’, doesn’t take steroids, doesn’t smoke, only occasionally drinks, doesn’t do drugs, has a great family/friends/life, he is always positive and is such a lively and fun person so he doesn’t seem depressed.
I have spoken to him about it numerous times but gave up. I brought it up to him again today and told him to visit a better doctor because it really bothers me – and it does :/ he is the greatest person I know yet this stupid thing is ruining it for me and making me feel unattractive and bored. I don’t want break up with him over that because he is perfect in other ways, it’s just really upsetting me and I feel like nothing will change 🙁
Any thoughts, please.