We have been together for 10 years mostly happy and content and get on fantastically… I have 3 kids now 27 24 and19 none living at home. My partner has 2 now 36 and 24 none living at home. Our main problem is my partners 24-year-old she is very dependent and possible NPD doesn’t get on with anyone and doesn’t keep friendships and any living or work situation always ends up bad and everyone else’s fault but hers. She doesn’t take responsibility for anything like bills fines washing banking eg car registration expired license expired got kicked out of rental for money issues etc etc. she doesn’t like me and never has, she has recently moved state at the expense of her mum but still can’t manage anything herself so always problems wherever she goes. She rings about 3 to 8 times a day for problems like I washed my pants and they won’t dry and I have to go work what can I do or I’m at the station going to work and I have no money for train these are sometimes at 5 am.
She lived with us short period before going interstate and caused lots of trouble in the household I eventually told her to leave as she would help with money or anything she went to her 36 yr old sisters and caused trouble in the house there also so was asked to leave.
My issue is my partner can’t see the manipulation she does and continues to do everything for her and it is all my fault and it’s Christmas and 24 has been here causing problems again now to the point of my partner is leaving me because I don’t like her daughter. I love my partner with all my heart and soul and I don’t want to end a 10-year relationship because of this little upstart. I have tried talking to my partner and so has her 36 years old telling her she is giving up on her own happiness for this selfish little bitch.
My partner is my life but I’m heartbroken and lots of harsh words have now been said. I don’t know what I’m going to do now… And there is so much more to this story I could nearly write a book
I need advise on how to either fix it or end it and repair my heart