I really need some advice and reassurance here. I seem to be falling in love with another woman and its driving me crazy.
I currently live with my partner of 8 years and we have 2 wonderful children. I do love her very much but over the last couple of years have felt she is not as interested in me, emotionally or especially physically. I try to talk to her but she says she still loves me and wants me as much as ever- her actions, however, suggest otherwise.
About 6 months ago I met a woman at work and there was just instant chemistry and rapport – we have so much in common and like all the same things. She is the same age – 40 and divorced with 2 kids. We went out for coffee and I told her I was in a relationship, she seemed disappointed. We haven’t discussed our feelings for each other but have been out for coffee a few times since hoping we can be friends – but the attraction thing is just so strong that it’s impossible to switch off. The other day we went for lunch after a business meeting and it was lovely – shes such a good company and there’s so much chemistry and rapport its scary. When we left we had a brief hug and walked away in silence and unspoken disappointment that we can’t just get it together.
I can’t stop thinking about her now and wake up not being to sleep! Since our little hug, she’s not replied to my emails – I think she is trying to leave it so she doesn’t get hurt. I couldn’t leave my partner given our situation and the kids and I still do love her but my feelings for the other woman are driving me crazy, I seem to be thinking about her all the time.
Ideally, we could just be friends but I can’t turn these feelings off and I’m pretty sure she feels the same.
What should I do and how can I stop thinking about her all the time?!