Take your time and work me slow, because I’m that kind of girl who needs that kind of guy that can last. Don’t need a man around if he’s throwing down too fast, you gotta work me slowly… sound familiar? That is a song by the former girls’ group Xscape ‘Work Me Slow. If you follow the tips in the song, you will have all the right slow sex moves. It starts by talking about setting the mood by playing some music and pouring some wine. Once you set the mood, you can slide off my clothes and touch my body everywhere. We will go into how you can have some mind-blowing sex by taking it slow in our article below. You can also find some fantastic tips on Hookup Websites.
Why You Need To Have Slow Sex
Let’s be honest; there are those times you need a quick release. The frenzy and passion from a quickie session can be extremely satisfying. However, it is essential that you take the time to slow down and think about how you can achieve more pleasure with your partner. Slow sex is less about reaching a climax and more about connecting with your partner. The orgasm you will achieve due to the buildup of sexual energy will be amazing. You will also enjoy longer-lasting stress relief. You also get the chance to truly explore each other’s bodies and connect at a higher level.
Steps to Having Slow Sex
Setting The Mood
The mistake many people make is trying to set the mood when they get to the bedroom. However, foreplay starts way before you are both in that bed. Try sending your partner some flowers or chocolate during the day. Call each other and have some phone sex with promises for more, later. Prepare his or her favorite meal and draw a bath for both of you. Offer a massage to ease away the tensions of the day.
When you get to the bedroom, you must set the mood. Don’t be in a rush to take off your clothes and get into the ‘wham bam’ mode. Explore each other’s bodies while fully clothed, and use your hands and mouth to pleasure each other. Oral and hand stimulation with the clothes on can be very exciting. Rub, pinch and gently bite her nipples through her clothes and see them stiffen with desire. Use your hands to stimulate his shaft through his pants, and you will get the same reaction.
This is also the right time to use sex toys if you are into that kind of thing. Handcuffs, blindfolds, strawberries, and cream work well during the foreplay session.
Important tip: Leave the electronic devices out of the bedroom so that you avoid any distractions. The environment should also be romantic, so consider the use of scents, candles, and flowers to create the right ambiance.
When The Clothes Come Off
When the clothes are off, you get the chance to explore each other further. At this point, the sexual tension will be quite high, and you may have the desire to start having sex. You must, however, hold off for as long as you can continue to savor the sensation of touching each other. At the point of penetration, it should be all about lengthening the session. When you practice edging or holding off an orgasm, you will achieve a better experience for both of you.
Maintain plenty of eye contact because it helps heighten the mood. Having slow sex requires that you listen to each other. Only then can you learn what your partner likes, and in the same way, you can communicate what you would like them to do.
Important tip: Undress each other slowly so that you build the anticipation. Do a striptease or sexy dance as you drop your clothes one by one? You can also heat up the session by masturbating while your partner watches.
Slow sex is all about Being adventurous and taking the time to explore your partner. You get to try different positions and can uncover your partner’s love language. In exploring your partner’s body, you can discover hidden areas that will trigger a fantastic response. In the words of the Xscape song, ‘it’s more than pleasure, it is ecstasy. You could also incorporate sex toys into the session. It could be something new that you have always wanted to try. Do not put any pressure on each other and allow yourselves to be open. Your partner may, for example, want to try out something that you’re not particularly comfortable with. It is all right to express yourself so that you can both reach an understanding.
Important tip: Have an honest discussion with your partner in advance about what you’re willing to do and what you’re not comfortable with. It allows you to set clear boundaries that will help avoid any awkward situations in the bedroom. Shopping for sex toys can be fun and a great way to explore new territory. It is also a great way to overcome any reservations beforehand.
After The Sex
We have had so many people complain that immediately after sex, their partner will roll over and fall into a deep sleep. It can leave you feeling empty, and quite honestly very bad. With slow sex, intimacy does not stop when you both climax. Hold your partner close and bask in the afterglow. It will help build a connection with your partner even more.
Important tip: You must keep the conversation going. While talking about sex for some people may be awkward, it is essential if you hope to achieve better intimacy within your relationship.
Slow sex is all about taking the time to appreciate your partner and learning to please them at a deeper, more emotional level. It requires that you set the right mood and be willing to listen to each other. The best part about slow sex is that you can be as adventurous as you wish. You get to include sex toys, food, and other pleasure-inducing activities in the session.