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I met another guy during a break up, but now my bf and I are back together, help!

Posted by: Anonymous
Mon 21, Nov 2011 at 5:37pm
Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 5 months now. The majority of that time we have lived together also. We've had ups and downs that have led us to break up several times (his family doesn't like me because I'm from a whole 'nother social class and race, his friends don't like me for that same reason either). He's my 2nd serious relationship, and I'm his first...everything.

Recently, he and I broke up because I've been a key figure in my city's Occupy Wall Street protest. We had tried to make time for each other, but we just constantly fought. So about four days ago he broke it off with me (made me pack up my stuff and leave our apartment etc), saying he felt like I had left him when the Occupation in our city began [a month ago].
While we were broken up those four days I grew closer to one of the people I had been working with at the Occupation of my city, and found out he had liked me since the day we met (just a little over a week ago). This guy and I really click, and he understands me more than I think my bf does [or will ever]. There's a few things about the other guy though that I know will never work out, and I love my bf far too much to just give up on him.

I feel guilty as hell though, for even talking to another person despite the fact it was on a break up [which I thought was the real "end"]. I've told my boyfriend about the other guy, and that I'm not going to leave the protest. I'm worried about hurting one, or both of these guys. I love my boyfriend and I really truly care about the other guy.

I just don't know how to tell the other guy that I'm back with my boyfriend and just want to be friends. During the time my bf and I were broken up, I told him I wasn't ready for a relationship again...he told me that was ok, he'd wait around for me (the guy hops freight trains to and fro). I'm sorry if I'm rambling...I'm at my wits end.

Help me please?

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  • User-anonymous Anonymous Flag

    hi sweetie.
    looks like you have already made the decision about who you want to be with, i had almost identical situation a couple of years ago, broke up with a GF and met someone else, the thing is at the begining of a new relationship all you want to see are the great points of someones pesonality, its new fresh and exciting and you get swept way thinking that this person is really into you.

    i got back with my GF after a 2 month split, letting down the girl i'd met as best i could, only to break up with her again a month later, by that time the girl i'd let down was in another relationship.
    just make sure your breaking up issues are settled before you make you desision. x

    Wed 23, Nov 2011 at 12:03pm
  • User-anonymous happyend Flag

    Hi all... I want to tell you my story that is almost the same situation.
    So I was with my GF 3 years. When we went to university we were in different cities and we started to have problems and argue most of the time.
    Like students we talked on phone and argue most of the time. I met one girl (Anna) and we talked for my problems with my GF and we started to going out and after couple month we had something like relationship. In this time I was keeping talking with my GF (still GF). For a week we went back home from the university and we decide to broke up. And I was with other girl 2 years.
    One day I met again my ex love and I broke up with Anna.
    Now I'm living with my ex GF and from 2 years. And we are planning to get married this summer and we are so happy.

    Tue 5, Apr 2016 at 8:57am