Some jealousy is normal in a relationship – it’s one of those things that tend to come with having a heart. However, there is a point when jealousy can become toxic, or even abusive – it can make your partner feel like she isn’t worthy of your trust, or make her feel like she can’t trust you with her thoughts and feelings.
Have you ever:
- Noticed that your partner is scared to tell you what she thinks, or disagree with you?
- Stopped her from seeing particular friends or family?
- Told her what to wear or not wear in ways which made her feel frightened, picked on or upset?
- Accused her of flirting or having an affair if she spoke to a man or stayed late at work with a male colleague?
If you have done one or more of these things, particularly if you have done several of them or one in particular regularly, you’re crossed the line from having a pulse to endangering your relationship and hurting your partner.
It’s time to take action and seek help: everyone wants to feel loved in a relationship, but sometimes the best way to show you love someone is by trusting them and enabling them to trust you.
Breaking patterns of behavior and being more trusting of each other can take work and some difficult discussions so why not have a look at some of the articles on Trust issues on thecoupleconnection.net to get you started.