My girlfriend and I just seem to argue all the time. We have recently moved in together and she says she has opened her home to me – however, I feel the total opposite? Whenever I try to help with housework, for example dusting and vacuuming and tidying up- I get told off for not putting things back EXACTLY where they were (I do)? or that I am doing it wrong / not her way? So I have given up – what’s the point if I am doing it wrong – I won’t waste my time trying to help IN HER HOUSE – because that’s what it is – hers – I feel like a lodger.
I’ve tried talking to her, but get told I’m being stupid / I’m the one with the problem – if I don’t like it I can leave???
Also, whenever we have an argument, she goes running off to her family and discusses every aspect of our relationship. When they tell her how to handle it, she comes back with..’ my sister agrees with me / my mom thinks you should do this..’ – exactly how many people are acceptable to be in my relationship with her? Even at family outings, her family look at me ‘knowingly’ / can see what’s going through their heads.
Is there any hope or am I just wasting my time? I’m tired of putting myself on the line and constantly being vulnerable as it feels like its constantly thrown back in my face?