Finding time together is a struggle for lots of couples. If you’re juggling work, childcare and housework on a daily basis, ‘quality time’ together is probably little more than a distant memory.
But the Christmas holidays offer a great opportunity to spend some much-needed time as a couple; so why do so many of us find we can’t get through them without a few festive showdowns?
After spending thein each other’s pockets can take a lot of getting used to.
If you stop work for Christmas and find it difficult to relax and just be in each other’s company, try not to worry too much – you’re probably just adjusting.
Why not take the opportunity to make the most of all things Christmassy and inject some festive romance into things? Take a trip to a Christmas market and cuddle up outside with a cup of mulled wine. Or, if you’d rather keep things cozy indoors, why not set a date to decorate the tree together? Getting the house ready for Christmas will not only give you a sense of achievement but a feeling of togetherness too.
Nights out and festive fun
There’s a lot for couples to look forward to at Christmas: parties, work dos, and trips to the pub are all plentiful, but this can sometimes cause jealousy, resentments and guilt too.
If one partner is stuck at home looking after the kids or entertaining family members it can often feel like only one of you is getting to experience the fun of it all. Throw any pre-existing trust issues into the mix and Christmas nights out could lead to some pretty explosive arguments.
Try to make sure you both get the opportunity to socialize this Christmas and, if possible, get a babysitter in so you can enjoy some of the parties together. If you’re worried about affairs, take a look at the Affairs and Jealousy section of this site here.
The money will be an issue for lots of couples this Christmas so avoid finances ruining your festive cheer by discussing your budget in advance. Agree on how much if reasonable to spend, or go down the really romantic route and decide on homemade presents instead.
Remember, the best present is rarely the biggest or most expensive; it’s the thoughtful gift that shows you know your partner intimately.
For more advice on planning your budget and avoiding money arguments, read our Christmas money guide.