I have recently separated (temporarily) with my partner of 7 years. We have been married for 5 years and have no children. I am 31 and they are 28. We are both females. Recently I have slumped into a really low point of depression and this has been the main reason for our break.
As I am being treated by my doctor for the depression and I start to talk to a counselor some of the issues that have added to the depression are based on my partner. So some background info; when we first started dating, as most couples do, our sex life was great, frequent, fun but most importantly for me, equal, I could please her and she could please me. In the past few years, this has stopped, at first it was just her not wanting anything from me, which was hard to deal with but not unheard of so, at the time, it was fine.
Now however there is no intimacy at all! I have brought this up with my partner and the answers are the same (tired, busy or too painful – this is referring to an illness I suffer from and after the fact, I can hurt!). When I address the issue of me pleasuring her I am not given an answer, she just doesn’t like it/want it, etc. this makes me feel awful, especially when in the beginning it was great!
So, there you il have it! One of the many questions: Can this be fixed?