I need help. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 6 years. We live together and spend most of our free time together. Lately, I haven’t been feeling quite right about our relationship. I’m in a place in my life where I’m just not happy – job, social life, and girlfriend. I don’t feel like her and I connect on much anymore. I seem to nag her about chores all the time, she gets mad at me really quickly, we watch too much TV together, and don’t go out much anymore.
I’m moving across the country in 6 months to go to medical school so we both feel like time is running out. This topic is a real sore spot for us both – we cry every time we talk about it. After 6 years I still haven’t popped the question and have no desire to, and I know if I did, she would say yes.
She loves me but lately, I’ve been feeling almost guilty telling her I love her. I haven’t been feeling the spark. I want to save this. I want to make her happy, but in 6 years we’ve both changed – grown up – and I feel like I can’t do that.
Can I fix this or am I just being selfish for keeping her?
Thank you so much.