As the number of older adults who are single continues to rise, it’s never been more common to start dating in later life.
Whether you’re recently separated, bereaved or have been single for a long time, you may have some worries about starting a new relationship.
In this article, we’ll go through some of the common worries late in life daters may have and offer some tips and advice. But to start off, here are a few key facts:
- In a US survey of unmarried 57-85-year-olds, 14% said they were in a dating relationship
- The number of men over the age of 65 who are getting married has increased by 25%
- Cohabitation is becoming increasingly common among older adults without marriage
Do we want the same thing?
When entering into a new relationship, you need to be honest with yourself and your new partner about your intentions. You may want something casual, or you may be hoping for something long-lasting. Whatever your intentions, be sure to discuss these with your new partner – but also be open to change. You never know what the future holds and your expectations for the relationship may alter over time.
Will sex be the same as it used to be?
Research shows that people who enjoyed having sex throughout their 30s and 40s are more likely to continue an active sex life into later life. One report found that 84% of over 50s are sexually active.
However, it’s important to have your health and wellbeing in mind. Sexually transmitted diseases for people in their 50s, 60s and 70s have doubled in the last decade. So when you have sex with a new partner, make sure to discuss contraception methods and have condoms etc handy, just in case!
What about the family?
If you are a parent, chances are you no longer have childcare commitments to think about.
That being said, you may be concerned about introducing your adult children to a new partner.
If you think the relationship is becoming serious, talk to your children and tell them your feelings about your new partner before introducing them to him or her. Chances are, your children will be happy that you’re moving on and finding someone new.
If your children are hesitant, just be aware that they are only looking out for you – much in the same way you looked out for them when they were first dating!
Inheritance is another common concern for older people in new relationships. If you and your partner have children, you may decide to keep your assets separate so that you can pass on your inheritance to your sons, daughters and grandchildren. Your other half may have a different opinion on this matter, so be sure to discuss this together.
For more advice read:
- What mature couples say about happy marriages
- The impact of retirement on mature couples
- Dealing with sex and intimacy issues as a mature couple