My partner and I have been together for 6 months. He told me truthfully at the beginning of our relationship that he has several factors that seem to affect his ability to have sex. He had brain cancer 9 years ago and part of his pituitary gland was removed. Post cancer, he has low testosterone levels, is on 2 different anti-depressants (Cipralex and Welbutrin) as well as 2 different blood pressure meds and has been taking Dexedrine tablets and spansules long term by day and sleep aid at night (zoplicone) long term as well. His cancer shrink has told him he has to take these meds for the rest of his life. Without them, he just wants to sleep all the time.
He went through cancer treatment at age 39. He is 48 now. This man is wonderful, fun, supportive and loving/affectionate. He tells me I’m beautiful and sexy, loves to kiss me and hold me. He also loves to pleasure me in bed with his hands and mouth and he seems to enjoy my orgasms. He says he loves to do this for me and I can have it this way as much as I like. I know he is doing it just for me because he admits to having no desire for sex. He has also admitted to being afraid I will leave him if I don’t have enough sex. My sex drive is very healthy. He says he thinks I’m sexy and wants me, just cannot show it with an erection. This feels so strange to me as I’m used to having sexual partners on equal terms of sexual enjoyment. He has touched me in the most intimate ways, yet he leaves his underwear on during sex and doesn’t like me to look at him naked or touch his naked penis. He does let me touch and stroke him through his underwear and occasionally he does get a little hard.
We have talked about Viagra and I found out he has used it with someone else in 2011 and 2010. He says he can have an orgasm with the Viagra, but it is not great. I was all gunho to try this and really looking forward to it. I told him this. He recently got a prescription for Viagra and set up a date for him and me to try it. At the last moment, he decided he didn’t want to and is now asking me to be patient. He says it will happen eventually. I have been left hanging. My heart led me to this man and although it is a hard road ahead, I want to make this work. Need help coping with his life on meds and lack of intercourse and now him making me wait for intercourse with the Viagra.