Hi all, I’m in need of some relationship advice. I’m feeling really blue about this. So here it is:
I’ve known this wonderful guy for over a year, and was previously with another guy but knew him as my friend. I’ve been single for a few months and am ready for a new relationship. So, I started hanging out with this friend, let’s call him Brandon. Brandon is amazing, he’s funny, smart, everything I’m looking for in a man. We hung out as friends, but he would always make sexual jokes and be extremely flirty with me. He told me I was the “girl everyone wished they could have” including him. So one night, we started cuddling, and it felt really right and we ended up making out all night.
He had been interested in this other girl previously, but he has explained to me that she didn’t live nearby and that she would be leaving out of state to college and even if he wanted to date her she wouldn’t be available for six months … once we kissed Brandon intimated that he would rather have me anyway, so I thought she was history. I asked him explicitly “Would you want to date me?” and he said “yes”. We were taking it slow and weren’t official yet, however every time I saw him we made out and acted sexual/flirty/caring towards each other. He acted so into me I couldn’t imagine he had doubts.
The other day I made a sex joke and he said: “that would make things too complicated.” I was surprised and told him he should have said something before we kissed, then he said something to the effect of “I’m really confused right now, I don’t know what I’m doing about [the other girl], there’s a lot of different ways things could go right now. You and I may still date in the near future, we may not, I’m just confused right now.” So I told him I was disappointed and would need space, but would be there for him.
I’ve really started to care for him deeply, I haven’t felt this way for a long time and I think I’m falling for him. I can’t understand why he won’t just take me – he said he’s wanted me for a long time. I’m right here, the other girl is not. To be honest, and I’m not trying to be mean, but she really is not that cute. I guess I’m just jealous because I have looked so hard to find a guy that I feel this way about and I thought he was certain he wanted me too. What should I do? Will he come to his senses? How should I act?
Thanks guys <3