My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 5 months now. The majority of that time we have lived together also. We’ve had ups and downs that have led us to break up several times (his family doesn’t like me because I’m from a whole ‘nother social class and race, his friends don’t like me for that same reason either). He’s my 2nd serious relationship, and I’m his first…everything.
Recently, he and I broke up because I’ve been a key figure in my city’s Occupy Wall Street protest. We had tried to make time for each other, but we just constantly fought. So about four days ago he broke it off with me (made me pack up my stuff and leave our apartment etc), saying he felt like I had left him when the Occupation in our city began [a month ago].
While we were broken up those four days I grew closer to one of the people I had been working with at the Occupation of my city and found out he had liked me since the day we met (just a little over a week ago). This guy and I really click, and he understands me more than I think my bf does [or will ever]. There are a few things about the other guy though that I know will never work out, and I love my bf far too much to just give up on him.
I feel guilty as hell though, for even talking to another person despite the fact it was on a break up [which I thought was the real “end”]. I’ve told my boyfriend about the other guy, and that I’m not going to leave the protest. I’m worried about hurting one, or both of these guys. I love my boyfriend and I really truly care about the other guy.
I just don’t know how to tell the other guy that I’m back with my boyfriend and just want to be friends. During the time my bf and I were broken up, I told him I wasn’t ready for a relationship again…he told me that was ok, he’d wait around for me (the guy hops freight trains to and fro). I’m sorry if I’m rambling…I’m at my wit’s end.
Help me, please?