Hi, I’m a 25 year old man with some issues with my girlfriend. I’m posting here because I don’t know if I’m crazy or if my girlfriend is. Or maybe we both are.
I’m a deployed vet of 2011 and before then I was single for roughly 2 years and had not had sex in that long until January 2012 when I met my current girlfriend. We used to have sex so often it was great. I started working my old job that I had before I deployed and even as hard as it was I always made time for sex. I know that in some people they become “too tired” from work to have sex but I’m not one of those people.
I still find her to be the love of my life and every day she comes home from work I’m so happy to see her. I always figure shell want to lay with me and talk, kiss, and eventually have sex but lately this just hasn’t been the case. I don’t find myself to be too selfish about the sex, I don’t beg for it and I try not to get mad, but when it starts being once maybe twice a week I get frustrated, start having trouble sleeping, and I’ll even sleep on the couch because when she makes me stop I don’t even want to be near her.
Now why I think I may be wrong for wanting sex so often is because right now I’m unemployed and looking for a job so while I’m not doing much, so I think about her more and when she finally comes home I just want her, but like I said, even when I was working I wanted her daily.
She has complained to me a lot that she is fat, as much as I could tell her she’s not. I’ve heard that women who are insecure of their selves are less sexual, like they think their man will judge her by that?
She does randomly get touchy and grabby and even sexual but it seems to only be while I’m busy on the phone or playing with friends online like she’s looking for that thrill.
For the past two monts she started playing an mmo video game she used to play, maybe it was to allow me to play my video games more I don’t know, but now that she’s playing it again, it just seems to be all she really wants to do is play. I’ve told her before that I don’t like her playing it because it seems to take time away from our relationship but it starts arguments that don’t get solved.
I guess as couples get older they become less sexual and eventually resort to routine and hobbies to stay busy, I think I’ll always want sex. What scares me is that life is so long and I’m only 25 and I want sex this much. How am I supposed to stay with this person when things are already getting rough a year and a half into the relationship?
I’ve had to do things just to keep my mind off her because the last thingies want to do is push her away because of my feelings. I’ll go on a drive or mow the lawn or even masturbate when it’s been long enough.
Also she’s shown serious signs that she wants to have kids within the next 2 years and I’ve told her were not ready, especially with me unemployed.
I’ve seen dozens of guys through google search with my problem and I’ve even gone on sites where the woman says HE won’t have sex with her and its annoying to read that there are so many people refusing sex.
I’m nearly 100 percent certain she isn’t cheating and fulfilling her sexual needs elsewhere because she told me from the very beginning that she is a bit clingy and gets attached easily which I was ok with. I know her complete work schedule and I know when she’s stuck at work for another half hour, were always talking and she nearly never gets out with friends and when she does she tells me.
I feel like she’s just happy touching me randomly and giving me only a couple kisses here and there. She spends almost all her time playing her game and I feel like she doesn’t need me anymore. I haven’t really served a purpose to her lately. It is weird though, whenever I’m gone for the night she tells me she misses me and she’ll even send me nude pictures through text.
This is probably all jumbled and confusing but I’m tired and can’t sleep, I’m hoping someone can help me. Just an hour ago she turned me down so I got frustrated when she turned me down and fell asleep, and I came to this website.
I’ve read that simply ignoring your girlfriend will frustrate her and make her more likely to have sex with you but I don’t want to play stupid games to get what I want and I don’t want to make her miserable just to get sex.
There are people out there who complain that they get sex from their partner now only 1 or 2 times a month. I’d go insane or leave her. Someone help me.