I’m new to this site and to be honest I don’t know where to start.. I have been married for 7 years have been with my husband for 10 years. We used to be so close we have never had anything in common with each other apart from the deep love we shared for each other.
So everything else never seamed to matter a great deal. But this past year things have been different the closeness we had is no longer there. We hardly ever make love he has lost his libido. And everything else has gone with it. The hugs the kissing has just about dwindled away too. And that’s what I miss more than anything, not the sex but the hugs and kisses. He knows how I feel and he knows I’m not happy I have told him. He just thinks its because we have been together a while and these things happen. And he thinks there is nothing wrong in our relationship. He is in a comfort zone. We never go out together we do nothing together. Most days we only spend about 10 min together in the same room.
The one good thing we don’t argue very much. And a good few months ago he joined a chat room site so he could talk to other women. He says he is just talking and finding out how other people live. Then he downloaded another chat thing that one of his women friends told him to go on so they could see each other. And as most of you will guess I wasn’t very happy. And he removed the download. But he doesn’t think there is anything wrong.
Then he wanted a webcam and I have just discovered him on a dating site that has a webcam with 3 photos taken off the webcam. But he says he doesn’t know how to use the cam. He says he is only chatting to people he’s not doing anything wrong. And he’s not been on the site for a while. He just doesn’t understand how hurt I feel. I have told him in the past if we were as close as we used to be then maybe it wouldn’t bother me so much. He thinks I’m just being daft that I’m just worrying over nothing. Is it me am I making a mounting out of a mole hill.
All I know at the min is how I’m feeling. And that’s not very happy. Does anyone else think I’m just being daft for feeling hurt?