Whether you and your partner are planning a night out in a restaurant or just an evening at home in front of the television, a glass of wine or a bottle of beer can help the two of you relax and unwind. But, as most couples know, indulge in one too many and an argument can easily unfold.
Alcohol is one of the main causes of conflict between partners. According to research by travel agency ebookers.com, over a quarter (26%) of British women blame alcohol for any arguments they have with their partners while on holiday.
As people drink they lose their inhibitions and sometimes feel more confident voicing any issues or problems they have with their significant other. This can range from bickering about minor grievances to full-on slanging matches, and in some cases can result in physical violence. But while it’s important for couples to air their issues from time to time, arguing after drinking rarely leads to a problem being solved.
To try and stop these conflicts arising, here are a few tips:
Talk about your problems when sober
Alcohol can help people open up and become more communicative, however it’s much more practical to discuss any issues you have with a clear head. A reasoned argument requires active listening skills – often the first thing to fly out the window after a couple of Gin and Tonics!
Why not take a look at our Tips for Arguing Better article for advice that could help you and your partner argue more effectively, in the sober light of day.
Break the routine
According to research by the University of Cincinnati, married women drink more alcohol than divorced or widowed women, this is often because they try to match their husband’s alcohol intake. If routine dictates that you and your partner get through a bottle of wine most evenings, why not break from it and cut back a little? You could go for a walk, to the cinema or to the gym together. Adding variety to your daily or weekly routine will even help keep your relationship exciting.
Eat while drinking
Food can slow down the rate your body absorbs alcohol. Eat regularly before and during drinking to stay sober.
Follow the government’s daily unit guidelines
If you don’t want to cut alcohol out of your diet, make sure you drink responsibly. The recommended daily intake for men is 3-4 units a day (equivalent to a pint and a half of 4% beer) 2-3 units (equivalent to a 175 ml glass of 13% wine) for women . By staying within these guidelines, you’re less likely to become intoxicated and as a result, less aggressive.