Hi,
My boyfriend says he doesn’t trust me on small things. He says he trusts me totally on important things.
For example today we were in town together and I said let’s go home. He asked if I was bored with him and I said no. I think there is an unconscious process in my mind that starts when something could upset him (there the fact that I could be bored with him) and then my mind just blocks it out like if its not even possible at all (I think this happens because at the beginning of our relationship he used to be very difficult when he was upset and used to get upset about a lot of things. He has changed now but the process still happens.)
So he says that he thinks I am lying, that I am actually bored with him and that he can’t trust me. And because of principles, he is upset about it. It’s tricky because I feel that saying that I am bored with him is too harsh and I can’t bring myself to say it. Even if his company was not the best. I feel that he wants me to be brutally honest all the time and I do not know how to do that, especially as there is this unconscious process all the time…he complains about me sugar-coating thing. This only happens with small things but ends up creating big arguments.
I am wondering if what I do is normal, if not what could I do to change it?
Thanks a lot
