The new season is finally here, and as you get ready to clear out the wardrobe, dust around the skirting boards, and look towards the uplifting summer months ahead, why not take some time to consider how you might put some ‘spring’ into your relationship too?
Last winter was stressful for many families. Growing unemployment rates, widespread benefit cuts, and the (albeit expected) stress of Christmas have taken their toll on more than just bank balances – they’re affecting relationships too.
Money worries can cause couples to stop communicating and let’s face it when all you can see are bills on the horizon, the future can look pretty bleak.
But if your relationship is getting you down, there are some simple techniques you can use to help you view things in a more positive light, whatever the cause of the problem. And by focussing on the good things instead of the bad, both you and your partner are more likely to feel happy in your relationship. Here’s why.
When people feel positive emotions they feel closer and more connected to others around them. If someone is thinking positively they are more likely to make a favorable judgment on someone than a negative one.
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For example, if a person in a negative frame of mind asks their partner to pick up some groceries on the way home from work but they forget something on the list, that person may get annoyed that their partner was forgetful and start an argument. However, someone with a positive outlook would have a different reaction – they’d probably thank their partner for making the effort to go to the supermarket after a long day at work and accept the item was forgotten due to tiredness rather than inconsiderateness.
But this is just one small result of taking a positive outlook. Thinking favorably about your partner’s actions will not only reduce arguments, but it’ll also help you like them more. People that like other people tend to be more sociable and willing to help, which will, in turn, make other people think favorably about them. This is the start of a positive cycle that can strengthen relationships…
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And it doesn’t even take input from your partner. By criticizing less and paying more compliments you can help make positive changes to your relationship on your own. Often we’re nicer to people who serve us in shops than the people living in our own home; recognize the good things your partner does and thank them for them.
Talking about your partner’s good points will make you value them more. And all that praise will help put them in a positive frame of mind, meaning they’re more likely to think warmly of your relationship too. So although it may seem unnatural at first, next time you think your partner’s brilliant at something, even if it’s just the DIY, tell them.
