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    before 3 months i met with a girl then we both fall in love and recently i did come to know that she has a BF and involve in kissing and all

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    im an english women dating a muslim guy he is so jelous and he says i need to accept it as its his way is this right ?

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      It sounds like you feel uncomfortable with this and you don't think it's right. Being very jealous can be part of controlling behaviour. He says it is his way, it maybe his way but you don't have to accept it. What do you think?

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    My girlfriend says she loves me, but loves her ex. She admits her life and her baby's life is better with me, but she can't get over him.

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      It will probably take her time to get over him, and it does sound as if she wants to be with you. Why don't you post more details of the situation on the Relationship Forum to get some advice from other users, you definitely won't be the only one to be in this situation!

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    Can 30yrs gurl had 3 months sex life ever, back in 2011 have no pain in 1st intrcorse but have pains 2nd time pentration rite aftr 1st 1?

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      I'm not sure that I understand the question you're asking. I think you will have more response to this if you provide some more details and also post it on the Relationship Forum.

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      • User-anonymous sid2013 Flag

        I got married few days ago. The girl is 30. She was married back in 2010 for only 3 months and then got divorced. She has told me that she was a virgin at the time of that marriage. After the breakdown of that marriage she has never had any sex at all until now. On the first night of our marriage when we had sex, she had no problem with penetration and enjoyed it. The second time we had sex, she was gently trying to push me or stop me from penetrating. When I asked why she said that it was hurting her.
        I am unable to understand why it was hurting her the second time and not the first time?
        I have this feeling that she was lying in support of her statement that she has not have sex for the last 3 years. Maybe the first time she was planning to do this drama about hurting but forgot to lie since she was enjoying it to much If it was to hurt shouldn't it hurt the first time? It really does not matter to me if she did have sex since her last marriage but lying to me is a big issue since I have not lied to her about anything and don't intend to do so in future.
        I really need to know so the relationship is free from doubts. I cannot confront her since she will only deny it and I will still be without an answer.
        Please help

        Sat 18, May 2013 at 10:20am
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    how do you deal with someone who is bullish?

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    is it a good idea to go to 'Relate'?

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      Relate is an excellent helping organisation if you and your partner are experiencing relationship difficulties - but there is also Marriage Care (see www.marriagecare.org.uk) which is also excellent and only asks for donations and tends to have shorter waiting lists. Good luck with your counselling.

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    should i date a recovering drug addict

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      This is a difficult question to answer and I am also interersted in why you have asked the question. If you are only thinking of having a 'mates with benefits' relationship then you would have an open ended option and could leave yr friend quiet easily. If, however, you have fallen in love with this person then you need to be or are probably aware of the potential difficulties in front of you both.
      Its good to hear that yr friend is a recovering addict but what if yr friend goes backwards in their recovery, this could make for a very difficult relationship. Yr friend will need a lot of support to continue their recovery and I am wondering what support you have around to keep that support going. Perhaps you might want to explore what help is out there for you if you see the possibility of a long term relationship. Any addicts or recovery addicts need strong commited support from all around them. Sorry if this sounds hard but its better to be aware of what you will be getting into if you proceed.

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      • User-anonymous annie123 Flag

        had to get rid of all my friends and he checked if i had any letters or messages then he said lets move away and not tell anyone only my daughter i have a friend Stu i had not to have contact with him and he was always thinking stu was following us i was head over heels in love with him then the dole said he had to go to work i said well you could get a nice job local he said no he could not go to work thinking what i was doing and who would be coming he would go home and go to work his head could not handle me here all day so he left me when leaving he said he did not want responsibility or a relashionship that was 1 week ago i rang him he could not say he loved me and he told me not to ring i have not eaten and i feel so ill i loved him so much daft me rang him again he said he would meet me and ring me that day at 5 he did not ring he did not love me did he you fight for the one you love i thought he would miss me and come back we were together 24 7 for 2 years he had to go everywhere with me i am so ill i cannot get my head round it i dont want to live i am lonely i want him

        Wed 15, May 2013 at 12:42pm
      • User-anonymous annie123 Flag

        i met him 2 years ago i liked him at the first he told me he had been on drugs 20 years a drug dealer in prison twice but i liked him and he was a very nice man came from a good home. i got to know him better and he was so nice. seemed honest caring loving did everything for me wanted to be with me all the time i lived on my own before long he moved in with me he was on the dole he gave me all his dole he was not allowed to have money on him he told me everyday he loved me he would never leave me it was frightening he loved me so much then he said marry me every day we got engaged i was his girl he said we did have few rows and he would go home but came back i h

        Wed 15, May 2013 at 12:28pm

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    10. My boyfriend chats to other girls on Facebook and hides it from me, then tells me I'm paranoid. Is this normal or is he up to something?

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      I've had a similar situation. You should definitely request answers from him. If he is just speaking to them because he is i.e. bored at work it is less worrying than if he does that during the time you and him are meant to spend time togehter.

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      he's up to something, if you just ignore this and carry on, he'll do it again and again ans one day you may up reading something you dont want to read. Dont let him do this to you, your dont deserve that, no-one does. Talk to him, dont moan or argue, make it clear that its you or he has change.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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    I love my partner but can't stop thinking about this other guy at work. Is it possible to forget him, or should I leave my partner for him?

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      Get to know the guy at work and you’ll probably realise your partner has many good qualities you have forgotten about.

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      • User-anonymous Anonymous Flag

        If you say that you love you boyfriend but keep thinning about a guy at work, you need to figure out why. What is going on at home? When we are either unhappy or avoiding issues at home, it can make us look at situations around us and remember how simple things were in the beginning. Take time to really figure out what is going on for you here. If you love you boyfriend, you owe it to him (and you) to figure out what is going on and to try to resolve things. I know it's wonderful to be seduced by the romance of this other guy...but think about what you have and what you want before you act. Good luck.

        Mon 30, Jan 2012 at 9:46pm
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      Get to know the guy at work and you’ll probably realise your partner has many good qualities you have forgotten about.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      imagine not being with your partner, would you be happy? you may be going through a bad patch with your partner and this other guy may seem like an angel, dont tell your partner about this guy, imagine if it was the other way around, think carefully, whatever will make you happy.

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      Don't leave your partner for this guy, it may just be a school girl/boy crush

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      Don't leave your partner for this guy, it may just be a school girl/boy crush

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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    I've just discovered my partner looks at porn on the internet. I'm hurt as he promised he never would. Should I consider it cheating?

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      its not cheating and tell him not to promise you if he cant keep it and explain how it makes you feel.

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      I am going through exactly the same with my partner. I first found out when i was nearly heavily pregnant with our daughter. he used to watch it before he went to work for 7am most mornings. i found the dvd he watched.another time i found his dirty tissue what he left under the coffee table! and then found out months later (after trying to regain my trust in him by never doing it again) that he watches it on the internet. I am always looking at his history on the computer to see what he has been looking at. sometimes he looks at sexy girls pics on facebook. I just dont know how to block feeling so betrayed by him, we are never close in the bedroom because of my mental issues with this

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      its not cheating and tell him not to promise you if he cant keep it and explain how it makes you feel.

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      It's horrible to discover but I wouldn't call it cheating. Tell him how it makes you feel and ask him why he feels the need to do it. He may be able to reassure you.

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        its not cheating and tell him not to promise you if he cant keep it and explain how it makes you feel.

        Thu 8, Dec 2011 at 10:03pm
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      A promise is a promise …isn’t it?

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      No, but you definitely need to speak to him and tell him how you feel about this and the impact it will have on your relationship with him.

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    how do i use the listening room? really need to talk to someone

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      Hi, click on 'The Listening Room' below. This tells you the times it is open....8.30 every weekday night.
      At 8.30 the message will simply be 'I want to chat' so click on this and the Helper will respond..sometimes there is a queue..so get on asap. Good Luck!

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      Hi, click on 'The Listening Room' below. This tells you the times it is open....8.30 every weekday night.
      At 8.30 the message will simply be 'I want to chat' so click on this and the Helper will respond..sometimes there is a queue..so get on asap. Good Luck!

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      Hi, click on 'The Listening Room' below. This tells you the times it is open....8.30 every weekday night.
      At 8.30 the message will simply be 'I want to chat' so click on this and the Helper will respond..sometimes there is a queue..so get on asap. Good Luck!

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      Hi, click on 'The Listening Room' below. This tells you the times it is open....8.30 every weekday night.
      At 8.30 the message will simply be 'I want to chat' so click on this and the Helper will respond..sometimes there is a queue..so get on asap. Good Luck!

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      Hi, click on 'The Listening Room' below. This tells you the times it is open....8.30 every weekday night.
      At 8.30 the message will simply be 'I want to chat' so click on this and the Helper will respond..sometimes there is a queue..so get on asap. Good Luck!

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      Hi, click on 'The Listening Room' below. This tells you the times it is open....8.30 every weekday night.
      At 8.30 the message will simply be 'I want to chat' so click on this and the Helper will respond..sometimes there is a queue..so get on asap. Good Luck!

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    My boyfriend and I have been together for six months, is it too soon to move in? We're both 23.

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      Yes. Enjoy going out with each other. There will be plenty of time to move in together if it’s right

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      After six month you're still in the "honeymoon period", maybe wait a couple of more month before moving in together - there are still so many things you still can't know about each other.

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      Only you know when the time is right. You should see how things go over the next six months and get to know each other a bit more.

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      Yes, you should see how things go over the next six months, get to know each other a bit more then see how you feel.

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    My girlfriend's pregnant, just found out she still speaks to her ex, any advice on how to handle this please?

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      Chill out, she's only speaking to him, after all she has decided to have a baby with you.

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      Chill out, she's only speaking to him, after all she has decided to have a baby with you.

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      Carefully, you and she are very vulnerable at the moment

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      Ask why she still feels the need to talk to him, and tell her how it makes you feel. It could all be perfectly innocent.

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    9. When’s the right time to propose? We’ve been together four years and he’s still not popped the question.

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