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A Great Boyfriend Turns Uncomprehensible When In A Fight

posted Thu 2, Apr 2015 at 5:37am

I feel like explaining the fight we just had is going to sound very ridiculous... I have a beautiful, wonderful, caring boyfriend who I know loves me so much. We've been dating for 1.5 years, an...

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Getting on Better with my Partner, Communications in relationships, A Psychologist's Perspective

Scared/bored/confused/depressed

posted Thu 2, Apr 2015 at 12:58am

Apologies for the awful title, as I'm sure is not uncommon my issues are complicated and I'm not sure how best to sum them up but thank you for reading... Aged 28, together for 12 years so bas...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Getting on Better with my Partner, Living Apart Together

Made things even more confusing

posted Wed 1, Apr 2015 at 8:28pm

Three months after break up with my ex who I am still very much in love with and very much wanting to have back, I slept with another guy almost to test myself and whether I can begin moving on. It...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment, Life transitions, Communications in relationships, Sex and Affairs

is this love? which is love?

posted Wed 1, Apr 2015 at 7:45pm

I am dating a man who is very much in love with me, adores me, knows me, is tolerant of me, fulfills my longtime wishes for sexual companionship and someone to desire me - but we don't have a ton i...

Tags: love,desire,decision,choose,feeling
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Caught in a complicated situation whilst dating two guys!

posted Wed 1, Apr 2015 at 12:54pm

So I've been seeing two guys at the same time. The first one I was dating a while ago but it ended after three months. Two weeks later we reconnected and have done for the last two months. It start...

Tags: complicated,double dating,relationship,commitment
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment, Sex and Affairs

How should I ask him out??

posted Wed 1, Apr 2015 at 12:42am

Hi, I'm very shy and at work I see a guy come in all the time (a customer) who I find very attractive and I want to ask him out but I'm too shy to do it. Would it be okay to write my number on a...

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Making a Commitment

HELP, back to dating and dont understand guys

posted Wed 1, Apr 2015 at 12:21am

opinions please!! I have been single for 10 months now and this dating thing is awful... ok I have been talking to this guy I met online for about a month now. he was recently on vacation with his...

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Communications in relationships

I Don't Even Understand This Myself ?!

posted Tue 31, Mar 2015 at 9:51pm

I'm new to the forum, am hoping to get some advice from an outsider .. Ok, so, around 3 years ago I had my last conversation with my then boyfriend (we'd been very on/off). I hung up the phone (n...

Tags: Help
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Friends & Family, Making a Commitment, Life transitions, Communications in relationships, A Psychologist's Perspective

Commitment Issues, Attracted to other Women

posted Tue 31, Mar 2015 at 9:33pm

My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We live together in a rented property. We've been together since we met at University and are both in successful jobs, and we're now looking into...

Tags: commitment,issues,attracted,other,women,woman
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Making a Commitment, Communications in relationships, Sex and Affairs

Distressed and struggling

posted Tue 31, Mar 2015 at 7:54pm

Hi everyone, I'm new in this forum. I feel I really need some advice and help with my self. I am divorced and 42 yrs old. No kids. I was dating for 4 years and then I met my boyfriend. I have to ...

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Getting on Better with my Partner, Communications in relationships

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please help, urgent, not much time

posted Mon 30, Nov 2009 at 2:19am

ive been with my girlfriend for 7 months, nearly 8. we met on bebo, by pure accident. we have always loved each other, and our relationship is very deep. we have never met, but talked on the phone,...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

why won't he meet my family and friends?

posted Mon 30, Nov 2009 at 4:18pm

Hi - don't know if anyone else has been in this situation and can advise? I have been with my boyfriend for 14 months, we met at work and still work together. We were friends for about 6 months...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Friends & Family

love

posted Thu 3, Dec 2009 at 10:28am

Hi, really not sure how to start this conversation but I met my boyfriend 3 years ago and hes a great guy. Completely different to wot ive had b4. I have 3 children from 2 different marriages the ...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

Advice am i being stupid

posted Thu 3, Dec 2009 at 11:43am

Hello everyone, like all the posts on here i am after some advice. I have been with my partner for 7 years and we have a little girl who is 2. We met on a chat site. 5 months ago he had an af...

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Affairs and Jealousy

How can I stop these feelings?

posted Sat 5, Dec 2009 at 2:36pm

My husband and I have been together for 21 years. It's always been a close knit relationship and everythings been great. Hubby had a career change and now works with mainly women. Felt slightly ins...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

relationship problems....pregnancy

posted Sat 5, Dec 2009 at 2:39pm

Hi guys. My partner and I found out a few weeks ago that we are expecting. She is now 13 weeks gone and has suddenly decided that she is never going to be happy with me and has left. When we found...

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Making a Commitment

Should I stay or should I go?

posted Sun 6, Dec 2009 at 2:39am

I am in a dilemma as to whether I should leave my husband or stay for the sake of keeping the family together. I have been with my partner for 22 years, married for 17. We have 4 marvellous chi...

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Becoming a Parent, Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner

Is there a difference between a girlfriend and partner behaviour?

posted Sun 6, Dec 2009 at 9:35pm

I really would like someone to tell me whether I am unreasonable or not. So here is my way of finding an independent opinion, away from friends and family. I was married for two decades before I...

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Housework, Getting on Better with my Partner

in limbo

posted Mon 7, Dec 2009 at 1:11pm

Hi, im new here. im having problems with my relationship that are making me feel i want to run away, i wont right now, ive always been a bit of a fighter with these things and im not quit ready to...

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Housework, Becoming a Parent, Affairs and Jealousy

Should I give up?

posted Tue 8, Dec 2009 at 4:53pm

I have been with my husband 17 years (married for 13). To cut a long story short, my husband does not appear to be physically interested in me anymore. Not had a physical relationship for 3 years....

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

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Having an affair but can't leave marriage

posted Sat 31, Jan 2009 at 9:57am

I really need someone to put my life back on track, to turn me back into the mother and wife I once was... a year ago, all that matters to me was my family whom I took pride in and would do a lot f...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

Trying to right my wrong but so unhappy

posted Mon 2, Dec 2013 at 4:45pm

Hi my marriage became very one sided and I ended up being a single mum whilst married. Friends and family told my husband how things were but his answer was " she's well trained " and " she's alrig...

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Affairs and Jealousy

What do I do now?

posted Wed 21, Apr 2010 at 4:17pm

I have just recently split up with my husband of 10 years, we have been together for 13 years in total. We are very lucky and have 2 wonderful children together. Throughout our married life we re...

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Affairs and Jealousy

7 months on and don't feel any better after betrayal....

posted Mon 16, Mar 2009 at 10:07am

.....if anything I feel worse as the more I think about it, the more deception I see! My husband had been seeing a friend of mine behind my back for months and he was also e-mailing a woman off ...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

Is sexual attraction and friendship enough?

posted Sat 15, Sep 2012 at 1:17pm

Hi everybody, ive been on here before in search of advice....im back again lol So im 23 male, and have been seeing/sleeping with a girl who i have alot of history with, we go back along way lots...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment

after all the posting, i just had to make my own thread... on-topic but not seeking advice

posted Wed 2, Jul 2014 at 8:25pm

This whole posting thing can be like a nightmare... this may get long... feel free to zip out at any point. I'm male 57 Synopsis: a little over a year ago a friendship with a co-worker went bey...

Tags: relationships,friendships
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Friends & Family, Word from the street

Newbie help please?

posted Mon 9, Jun 2014 at 10:50am

Not sure if anyone can advise but here goes. Brief history, married 34 years, 4 grown up kids, financially ok and seemingly happy. Wife had an affair 20 years ago but worked through it and stayed t...

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Affairs and Jealousy

My boyfriend doesn't initiate or want sex.

posted Wed 11, Mar 2009 at 6:19pm

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now. We love each other and get on amazingly well. However...he doesn't initiate sex with me. In the day he can be all over me, hugging and kissing m...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner

Found my boyfriend wanking

posted Mon 8, Dec 2008 at 10:18pm

<p>Help - I don;t know what to do.&nbsp; I just found my boyfriend wanking over a girl online.&nbsp; He was using his webcam and it eas obvious they were both at it.</p> <p>Please help, I feel so ...

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Affairs and Jealousy

My Wife's secret affair with her boss!!

posted Mon 10, Aug 2009 at 11:46am

Hi all..Ive just discovered my wife is having a sexual relationship with with her Ex boss, this has torn my world apart completely. When she started working for this company 5 years ago she was war...

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Affairs and Jealousy

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