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Why wouldn't he sleep with me

posted Sun 31, Aug 2014 at 12:13am

After reading through blogs and sites, not finding the answer I'm looking for, I ask the question myself. My little story: Two and half years ago I met him on holidays, 1 year distance relations...

Tags: sex,relationship,libido
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Sex and Affairs

Individual Self-Help Truisms vs Relationship Truisms

posted Sat 30, Aug 2014 at 6:09pm

EDIT: I'm not sure why it's posting anonymous. I am not clickong on anonymous post. my username is aurelios1201 and my fname is aurelio. Hello, New to forum. Nice site. :) I was wonderin...

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Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment, Communications in relationships, A Psychologist's Perspective

I Know this guy is real whom i have met online but i don't think he is faithful

posted Sat 30, Aug 2014 at 3:19pm

okay so the thing is that my long distant boyfriend who is from the another country, whom i met in a depression website, 10 months ago, i have decided to tell about him to my parents and when i did...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Sex/Intimacy and romance, Friends & Family, Communications in relationships, Living Apart Together

I am not trying to resolve a painful dilemma but have been confronted by something entirely new to me.

posted Sat 30, Aug 2014 at 10:57am

*** up front, please do not respond to this with social or psychological opinion, particularly that of the current Western milieu *** I am a 32 year old American man living in the UK for a brief...

Tags: emotional bonding,impending marriage,physical punishment per her suggestion.
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So confused about a breakup, need help!!

posted Sat 30, Aug 2014 at 8:03am

Hi everyone I hope you don’t mind the lost post, to be honest I am kind of a mess. My ex and I have a very complicated relationship. I was 22 she was 18, we met while both working at a grocery stor...

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I feel guilty for feeling unhappy

posted Sat 30, Aug 2014 at 7:29am

Over the past couple of days I've started to feel unhappy in my relationship, and I've been racked with guilt for feeling this way as he says I'm his soul mate and it would absolutely destroy him i...

Tags: Guilt,relationships,unhappy,confused
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Communications in relationships

Age differences

posted Fri 29, Aug 2014 at 9:52pm

I just wondered what people's views were on age differences in relationships. I'm 40 and female and strongly attracted to a guy who is 62. When I say strongly attracted, I mean I love him. We have...

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(Very long post!) We discussed 'numbers' (previous partners) and lies were told

posted Fri 29, Aug 2014 at 9:14am

Hi all, I'm in desperate need of advice and fear I'm heading towards a state of depression. I'm a 26 year old guy from UK and my dearly loved girlfriend is 24. She lives in the UK (soon to live ...

Tags: sex,partners,numbers,jealousy
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Making a Commitment, Bringing up Children Together, Life transitions, Communications in relationships, Sex and Affairs

She's my best friend and I love her so much, but I want to leave?

posted Fri 29, Aug 2014 at 5:46am

This might be long, sorry in advance. For starters, I'm bisexual. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. We started dating the year after we graduated high school, and it's co...

Tags: bisexual,college,indecisive,worry,perfect relationship,best friends,stay together,break up
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Clear my mind

posted Thu 28, Aug 2014 at 8:10pm

Hey everybody. This is my story: I have been 'dating' a guy for 5 months now and he has me all smitten!! We are not official as wanted to get to know each other before anything serious. He is m...

Tags: dating,confused,serious,fallen
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Finding Time for Each Other, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment, Communications in relationships

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i dont know what to do with my girlfriend and porn

posted Mon 23, Nov 2009 at 9:48pm

I've been seeing my girlfriend for about two years now, in the past couple of weeks we have been discussing porn. I've shown her the stuff that i watch and we've watched it together, however she ...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

I like this girl i haven't long met and she likes me back but.....

posted Tue 24, Nov 2009 at 9:53pm

hiya, (my name is tom) if u have the time could anyone be patient enough to read this it is pretty long. sry just say a few things so u can understand:- i'm 16yrs old and i just started full-...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

not sure where to turn?

posted Wed 25, Nov 2009 at 9:27am

hi there guys, just joined today and was asking myself the question yesterday that I so need someone else's persepctive on this otherwise I feel I will go mad here. I have been with my partner o...

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Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment

feel like im in limbo

posted Wed 25, Nov 2009 at 1:01pm

Hello, im new here and just wanted to ask for advice on a situation i have. I have been married just 6 weeks and my husband has been having 'chats' with a female friend. She herself is married and ...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

Please Help Me I'm So Messed Up!

posted Thu 26, Nov 2009 at 12:05pm

This is the first time since I found out that I have posted on a website, but it has got to the stage where I can't go on any longer without help. I am 35 years old, married for the second time ...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner


posted Fri 27, Nov 2009 at 1:16am

Me and my partner met on a chat site over 3 years ago and I was his 1st serious relationship and he was my second. Two years prior I had just come out of a violent relationship and had a son with h...

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Making a Commitment

please help, urgent, not much time

posted Mon 30, Nov 2009 at 2:19am

ive been with my girlfriend for 7 months, nearly 8. we met on bebo, by pure accident. we have always loved each other, and our relationship is very deep. we have never met, but talked on the phone,...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

why won't he meet my family and friends?

posted Mon 30, Nov 2009 at 4:18pm

Hi - don't know if anyone else has been in this situation and can advise? I have been with my boyfriend for 14 months, we met at work and still work together. We were friends for about 6 months...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Friends & Family


posted Thu 3, Dec 2009 at 10:28am

Hi, really not sure how to start this conversation but I met my boyfriend 3 years ago and hes a great guy. Completely different to wot ive had b4. I have 3 children from 2 different marriages the ...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

Advice am i being stupid

posted Thu 3, Dec 2009 at 11:43am

Hello everyone, like all the posts on here i am after some advice. I have been with my partner for 7 years and we have a little girl who is 2. We met on a chat site. 5 months ago he had an af...

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Affairs and Jealousy

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Having an affair but can't leave marriage

posted Sat 31, Jan 2009 at 9:57am

I really need someone to put my life back on track, to turn me back into the mother and wife I once was... a year ago, all that matters to me was my family whom I took pride in and would do a lot f...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

Trying to right my wrong but so unhappy

posted Mon 2, Dec 2013 at 4:45pm

Hi my marriage became very one sided and I ended up being a single mum whilst married. Friends and family told my husband how things were but his answer was " she's well trained " and " she's alrig...

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Affairs and Jealousy

What do I do now?

posted Wed 21, Apr 2010 at 4:17pm

I have just recently split up with my husband of 10 years, we have been together for 13 years in total. We are very lucky and have 2 wonderful children together. Throughout our married life we re...

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Affairs and Jealousy

7 months on and don't feel any better after betrayal....

posted Mon 16, Mar 2009 at 10:07am

.....if anything I feel worse as the more I think about it, the more deception I see! My husband had been seeing a friend of mine behind my back for months and he was also e-mailing a woman off ...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

Is sexual attraction and friendship enough?

posted Sat 15, Sep 2012 at 1:17pm

Hi everybody, ive been on here before in search of back again lol So im 23 male, and have been seeing/sleeping with a girl who i have alot of history with, we go back along way lots...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment

after all the posting, i just had to make my own thread... on-topic but not seeking advice

posted Wed 2, Jul 2014 at 8:25pm

This whole posting thing can be like a nightmare... this may get long... feel free to zip out at any point. I'm male 57 Synopsis: a little over a year ago a friendship with a co-worker went bey...

Tags: relationships,friendships
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Friends & Family, Word from the street

Newbie help please?

posted Mon 9, Jun 2014 at 10:50am

Not sure if anyone can advise but here goes. Brief history, married 34 years, 4 grown up kids, financially ok and seemingly happy. Wife had an affair 20 years ago but worked through it and stayed t...

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Affairs and Jealousy

My boyfriend doesn't initiate or want sex.

posted Wed 11, Mar 2009 at 6:19pm

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now. We love each other and get on amazingly well. However...he doesn't initiate sex with me. In the day he can be all over me, hugging and kissing m...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner

Found my boyfriend wanking

posted Mon 8, Dec 2008 at 10:18pm

<p>Help - I don;t know what to do.&nbsp; I just found my boyfriend wanking over a girl online.&nbsp; He was using his webcam and it eas obvious they were both at it.</p> <p>Please help, I feel so ...

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Affairs and Jealousy

My Wife's secret affair with her boss!!

posted Mon 10, Aug 2009 at 11:46am

Hi all..Ive just discovered my wife is having a sexual relationship with with her Ex boss, this has torn my world apart completely. When she started working for this company 5 years ago she was war...

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Affairs and Jealousy

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