What started it?
Hi all, I'm Alan, the last year has not been good for myself, partner or family, 2016 started with our daughter being bullied at school, it got so bad, we had to involve the police, who really did nothing, as did the school, we moved her to a different school and we now have a happy and vibrant daughter with a totally different outlook on life with a lot more friends who are all good and they get on well. Following this, we lost our family dog due to an odd occurrence, he had a spinal stroke and had to be out to sleep. After this, there were two more incidents involving the police, non of our doing, but had and still has, far few bing problems, this has left my partner and l at each others throats at times. During the year, my partner's health hasn't been very good and her mother has had many trips to the hospital, constantly going to the doctors, changing medication and generally not being well herself. We had a water leak in the yards which was not attended to by the local authority and left us with a lot of water causing damage inside the house, even though the leak was outside. Because this was not dealt with, it caused more stress in the home and there was bad feeling all round.
Every week we had problems and issues developing, eventually, in mid-october, l had a nasty siezure, luckily l was in the local surgery at the time and was dealt with quickly and efficiently. I was taken to hospital and was very delirious, by the time l had any sense about me and had an idea of who and where l was, l was convinced it was 1984 and l was 23 years old again. Another problem was, l had no memory from then up to the present day, l would say that only about 10% has returned and is causing me really big scary moments, my partner and best friend has been filling a lot of the gaps, but l cannot remember the birth of our children, getting together with my partner, an accident in 1986 which left me with life and physical changing infirmaties, another accident in 2008, which l cannot remember, left me with spinal injuries which further exacerbated my previous injuries and a constant battle with back and joint pain every day. Following the seizure, I've been getting treatment and have to have an EEG and MRI scan in the next month or so. My driving license has been suspended, so I'm virtually useless and housebound, my partner is having to spend more time with her mother and I'm not in a condition to do very much at home, this is leaving her with almost everything to do, its wearing her down physically and mentally. It's also playing on my mind, as I cannot do anything. Recently, our finances have taken a bit due to the DWP cutting my benefits after knocking me off ESA and putting me on JSA following a medical, because l appealed their decision, theyve halved my money. This has had so much of an effect on me, I've become withdrawn, angry, short tempered, argumentative, in fact, down right horrible. Ive become so hung up on these issues, it's caused a huge rift with my partner, she wants me to leave the house and live elsewhere. This is understandable and l can understand her feelings and request, l have approached the local council for a property, so it's a case of waiting for them. My local doctor is in the process of arranging counselling g for me for both my well being and medication, as the doctor thinks my meds might be having an effect on my behaviour.
I could go on and on, but wouldn't stop, could or would any of the learned members please advise me on what l could or should do, to help my plight, get my life back on track and hopefully mend my relationship.