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• Irene Flag

  Fist all the question you have are natural, but no one can tell you what to choose. What i can do is give you insite to my life. As someone who has been on the other end of there partner having feelings about someone else this is hard for everyone. The other guy likes you and will want to see you, the boyfirend doesnt know something is wrong even if he suspects, and you dont want to hurt anyone and somes the truth hurts. The hard part is you have to let your boyfriend know about whats going on. If he finds out that you didnt tell him and continue having feelings about the person he will be hurt and all trust will be lost, but admitting that its just feelings and that you never want anything to come between you and that nothing happened besides flirting (if thats the truth always tellt he truth) then you have a chance to work with him to rekinel the relationship. Also you are young he might be worried about the same stuff you are about college. Crushes and such can happen all the time you are human, attraction is natural but you cant prentend its not there, you will end up resenting your current boyfriend and putting the new guy in a terrible possition. If you want to be with your boyfriend and no one else then distance yourself from the other guy, no calls, no texts, dont even talk about him to other friends. But again that you have talk to your boyfriend and be completly honest to him and yourself. -- If you dont think I know what i'm talking about i understand but right now im the girlfriend whos boyfriend never told her and just found, and as a result of him never telling me things never stopped and they talked about being in love and sleeping together, nothing ever happened but sometimes the though hurts more, tell him he might be hurt at first but trust wont be lost completely. I hope this finds you well and this work out in a way thats right for you.

  Thu 16, Aug 2012 at 5:26pm
• Anonymous Flag

  I completely agree with the comment above, i've been on both sides of the coin. I finished my last relarionship of 8 years because i had started having feelings for someone else, nothing happened between me and this other person before I ended my last relationship, but the fact I had trted having feelings for someone else was indicatuve enough for me to know that my last relationship wasn't right. That doesnt sound like your situation tho so im not saying that's the right move for everyone. Me and my ex had a lot of problems before this, so it was like the last straw for me, to know I had to move on. It was hard but it was worth it. But in my present relationship, my current partner had started to become attached to another person, and even though he denied it I saw evidence in messages between them that proved differently. Your partner may not have any idea that you're having feelings for someone else, but they might also know and be secretly hurting. Speaking from experience your partner will have more respect for you if you come forward with your feelings, tell him how you feel, if you're completely honest with him and yourself then you can work through it, but it will be harder if you try and deny your true feelings. If things are good between you and your partner, you can work through it, like me and my partner did. If not then perhaps your current relationship might not be right for either of you. Noone likes feeling second best, so if you cant stop thinking about this other person, then you should be honest with your partner. But i would certainly advise not to approah this other person until you have sorted things out with your current partner, that way, whatever happens, you will know you've done the right thing by your current partner.

  Fri 17, Aug 2012 at 11:00am