Advice for my engagement and future with my fiance
I am a 29 year old woman who is working and engaged to a great man. The thing is,, out of the 3 years we've been together, he was unemployed for the half,that is 1.5 years. He is made redundant at the beginning of May after he worked for 6 months in a multinational company at a sales and marketing position and we had our wedding date set for November before. After he was made redundant, I had a talk with him and told him that we could postpone our wedding until he finds a decent job. He refused this and said that we were not postponing. Here we are in the middle of August and he is sill looking for a job. My family started to get worried as they see me in uncertainty. We have gone through this before and just when we thought he found a job that he was happy with and that earned him money, we had the same thing again. I want to ge married to my fiance but it is getting harder and harder to be supportive of him ( I mean not financially but emotinally) because the situation is getting on me, too. Maybe I would not feel this way if it were not for the second time but I realize that I just want to have a life in which we are both working. I can not think of getting married without him findng a job. He agrees with me on this but nothng has changed since May. I am tired of waiting for him to find a decent job and frankly, I started to think that he is not doing all he can to find one. My quesion is this: Should I give him an ultimatum saying that if he finds a job until a certain time, we will get married on our date but if he can not, we will moveon with our lives? it is not that I just want to get married but that I can not take it any longer emotionally. Thanks for advice.