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    10. My boyfriend chats to other girls on Facebook and hides it from me, then tells me I'm paranoid. Is this normal or is he up to something?

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      I've had a similar situation. You should definitely request answers from him. If he is just speaking to them because he is i.e. bored at work it is less worrying than if he does that during the time you and him are meant to spend time togehter.

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      he's up to something, if you just ignore this and carry on, he'll do it again and again ans one day you may up reading something you dont want to read. Dont let him do this to you, your dont deserve that, no-one does. Talk to him, dont moan or argue, make it clear that its you or he has change.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      ofc he is up to somehing

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      • User-anonymous ponderingpolly Flag

        maybe its an ego thing, he may be upto something, or maybe he just likes the buzz of having a secret, however if he is dishonest generally and secretive about many things, then maybe that might be a worry. My husband before he passed away was very protective about his phone, it was his, not mine, I found that difficult to deal with, I felt there should be no secrets between us, and that it must mean there was something untoward in there, however he left his bill lying around (on purpose) for a kind of safety net for me, if I felt the need to check on him, He wasnt upto anything, just felt his privacy was invaded if I checked his phone. He was probably right too!

        Fri 6, Feb 2015 at 9:28pm
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    9. When’s the right time to propose? We’ve been together four years and he’s still not popped the question.

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    I love my partner but can't stop thinking about this other guy at work. Is it possible to forget him, or should I leave my partner for him?

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      Get to know the guy at work and you’ll probably realise your partner has many good qualities you have forgotten about.

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      • User-anonymous Anonymous Flag

        If you say that you love you boyfriend but keep thinning about a guy at work, you need to figure out why. What is going on at home? When we are either unhappy or avoiding issues at home, it can make us look at situations around us and remember how simple things were in the beginning. Take time to really figure out what is going on for you here. If you love you boyfriend, you owe it to him (and you) to figure out what is going on and to try to resolve things. I know it's wonderful to be seduced by the romance of this other guy...but think about what you have and what you want before you act. Good luck.

        Mon 30, Jan 2012 at 9:46pm
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      Get to know the guy at work and you’ll probably realise your partner has many good qualities you have forgotten about.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Ovs there's a problem in your relationship for you to be thinking about another guy maybe you should take sometime out for your self

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      imagine not being with your partner, would you be happy? you may be going through a bad patch with your partner and this other guy may seem like an angel, dont tell your partner about this guy, imagine if it was the other way around, think carefully, whatever will make you happy.

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      Don't leave your partner for this guy, it may just be a school girl/boy crush

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      Don't leave your partner for this guy, it may just be a school girl/boy crush

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      fyfd

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    I'm 19 and pregnant by my boyfriend of 3 years. We're overjoyed, but everyone tells us we're too young. Will we cope as young parents?

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      Sure, you will be able to cope as young parents; even older parents need support from family and friends whhen they have a baby. Three years is a good length of time to know someone quite well. Good luck for both of you!

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      Of course - you have more energy than older parents. This is a magical time don’t let others spoil it for you

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      Becoming a parent is not easy and you will need support when it comes to money for example - but that's the same for most parents. If you're both committed you will be able to cope.

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        You will cope even if you do it all yourself, i was in the same position and the same age, it worked for a year then we split and i brought my daughter up myself, with no help from any one, it turns out we are so close, and she always tells ,me im a brill mum, attimes i would cry and climb the walls but its worth it and its hard. You will be fine, good luck x

        Sat 28, Jul 2012 at 8:32pm
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    Wife had an affair, but I want to forgive and try again. Problem is I can't seem to forget and I bring it up when we argue. How do I move on?

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      Your wife must be aware of her mistake so you bringing it up again in arguments will only torture her. When a partner in a relationship cheats it natural that it takes time to trust him/her again and it takes a lot of effort for both. I would also suggest to see a third person to help you, counselling is probably the best idea.

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      You can’t forgive if you can’t forget look at affairs and jealousy lots of people have been through it, get some counselling.

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      Have you sat down and really talked about why the affair happened, is there an aspect of your relationship that caused this in the first place? Counseling may help you reconcile your feelings.

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    My in-laws are a nightmare; always sniping, never friendly. Anyone got any tips for getting them on side?

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      They will come around when you have your first child, enjoy your reprieve.

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      Try and work out if you have any shared interests you could do together to form a bond.

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      • Cc lizraymond Flag

        It is really lovely of you that you want to have a friendly relationship with them even though they have been unfriendly. They may fear that you will take their son away from them or may by shy of you. You could try responding to a critical comment with "Oh! Don't you like it? I thought it was just the thing" or you could try asking them about themselves. Things like where they lived as children, how they met, etc.

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    I've just discovered my partner looks at porn on the internet. I'm hurt as he promised he never would. Should I consider it cheating?

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      its not cheating and tell him not to promise you if he cant keep it and explain how it makes you feel.

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      Guys look at porn. It's an unfortunate fact of life. Being allowed to fantasize also takes a degree of pressure off of the partner.

      With that said, there are some problems. First, he broke a promise. It was a promise he shouldn't have made, but he still should have talked to you before you found out yourself.

      What concerned me more than that is that he promised in the first place. He probably knew he wasn't going to keep it. It makes me wonder if he'll just tell you anything you want to hear.

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      • User-anonymous Anonymous Flag

        Ive found explicit pictures on my boyfriends phone a couple of times and I've just told him to delete them becuse I don't want to see that type of thing. I told him I don't care what he does in his spare time, but it's hurtful to see them still on his phone because I look nothing like these women and it dents my confidence! He explained it's just a guy thing and I believe him. I don't think it's anything to do with you, it's just something they enjoy..I agree with you though it's not nice to see and at first does kind of feel like you have been betrayed!

        Mon 2, Feb 2015 at 3:12pm
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      I am going through exactly the same with my partner. I first found out when i was nearly heavily pregnant with our daughter. he used to watch it before he went to work for 7am most mornings. i found the dvd he watched.another time i found his dirty tissue what he left under the coffee table! and then found out months later (after trying to regain my trust in him by never doing it again) that he watches it on the internet. I am always looking at his history on the computer to see what he has been looking at. sometimes he looks at sexy girls pics on facebook. I just dont know how to block feeling so betrayed by him, we are never close in the bedroom because of my mental issues with this

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      its not cheating and tell him not to promise you if he cant keep it and explain how it makes you feel.

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      It's horrible to discover but I wouldn't call it cheating. Tell him how it makes you feel and ask him why he feels the need to do it. He may be able to reassure you.

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        its not cheating and tell him not to promise you if he cant keep it and explain how it makes you feel.

        Thu 8, Dec 2011 at 10:03pm
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      A promise is a promise …isn’t it?

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      No, but you definitely need to speak to him and tell him how you feel about this and the impact it will have on your relationship with him.

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