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My fiancée isn't very sexual. I tried to tell myself it doesn't hurt, but it's starting to really bother me that he never initiates anything. Help?

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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    It can be difficult when our partner's sex drive is different to our own. You seem to have been very patient with your partner but are now finding it really is beginning to cause you concern. I'm wondering if you have tried to discuss this with your fiancee because I guess you are considering settling down for a long term commitment. If this is the case then trying to resolve this issue in your relationship now will really bring benefits for you both in the future. Once you have had a chance to talk to you partner maybe a check up with his GP maybe a good start and then possibly a therapist. If there is some underlying problem that your fiancee needs help with, with you being a supportive and understanding fiance, it will have an impact that moves you towards a better relationship. Perhaps posting on the Forum may help with additional support from the wider community or maybe some counselling with either Marriage Care or Relate to enable you both to discuss your relationship in a confidential and supported way. I wish you and your fiancee well.

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    It can be difficult when our partner's sex drive is different to our own. You seem to have been very patient with your partner but are now finding it really is beginning to cause you concern. I'm wondering if you have tried to discuss this with your fiancee because I guess you are considering settling down for a long term commitment. If this is the case then trying to resolve this issue in your relationship now will really bring benefits for you both in the future. Once you have had a chance to talk to you partner maybe a check up with his GP maybe a good start and then possibly a therapist. If there is some underlying problem that your fiancee needs help with, with you being a supportive and understanding fiance, it will have an impact that moves you towards a better relationship. Perhaps posting on the Forum may help with additional support from the wider community or maybe some counselling with either Marriage Care or Relate to enable you both to discuss your relationship in a confidential and supported way. I wish you and your fiancee well.

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