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Is my girlfriend manipulating and lying to me?

Posted by: Anonymous
Sat 15, Jul 2017 at 6:08am
Sex/Intimacy and romance, Communications in relationships, A Psychologist's Perspective, Sex and Affairs

Relationship of 7 years, when we first met she said some quite strange things. Mainly around how great her ex was in bed and that it never got boring but that he treated her like garbage.

Sex between us has always been unsatisfying to me, she is never really interested and will make up all kinds of excuses.

I have spoken to her about this on multiple occasions over the years.

Usually she says something along the lines of "I need to feel loved and cared for" etc. I have lavished her with plenty of love and affection and it makes no difference.

She also contradicts herself, she was with her ex who she couldnt get enough of who basically didnt make her feel loved, yet with me she is saying this is a requirement.

I brought this up with her and she said

"it wasn't true what I said, I dont know what I was thinking"

she then said

"Do you want me to tell you I am a lesbian, is that what you want?"

She uses this disassociation tactic quite a lot. When I bring up something (and there is ALOT) that has happened which annoys me for some reason, she will use the same excuse "I dont know why I did that".

Is there any point in continuing with this? Is she just incapable of telling the truth?

At this point I am seriously considering severing the relationship. Its not just about sex, its about trust. She just never seems to be able to explain her actions, its always "I don't know why I did that". What kind of person is this?

Selected other issues include

Flirtatious behaviour with my friends
Arguing with friends spouses for no reason

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  • User-anonymous Boohoo Flag

    If i can be honest, a girl or guy should never talk about ex partners and especially in a sexual nature. must make you feel so insecure and feeling compared constantly.

    what does she want? she sounds very avoidand and unable to face her fears. guess you need o ask yourself do you love her enough

    Thu 27, Jul 2017 at 9:15pm