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insecure, unappreciated

Posted by: Anonymous
Tue 10, Jan 2017 at 9:31pm
Work, Housework, Affairs and Jealousy, Videos, Communications in relationships, A Psychologist's Perspective, Living Apart Together

my boyfriend and i live together. he works all week except weekends and im a stay at home mom at the moment. he says i am ungrateful because he works and i still accuse him but i think he is ungrateful because i think my job as a mother is work too and he dont appreciate all the little things i do for him (cook, clean, sex) i am very insecure because i feel like he dont acknowledge me enough on facebook and feel like he puts himself out there for other women by the things he posts. i always accuse him of talking to other people on facebook and ignoring me because his profile says online and he doesnt respond to me. we have been fighting alot over my insecurities and he has taken all his stuff out of our room and is now in a room upstairs, i feel so hurt and want him but he is saying he wants air and for me to realize he dont do nothing but work and come home. i feel like him going upstairs like that is giving him privacy to talk to whoever. what do i do? i only want him and i pray he isnt talking to anyone else. i need help, i dont wanna lose him 🙀😿

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  • Cc jaybee (moderator) Flag

    Thanks for your post. I'm sorry to hear you are so unhappy.
    It sounds like you don't really trust the reasons he has given for moving his things into another room. I'm just wondering if you can imagine that what he says is true, what might you need to do to help him to feel he could come back to your shared room?
    I know it's a 'big ask' but you may have to leave your suspicions to one side and see if that helps to get your relationship back on track.

    Thu 12, Jan 2017 at 9:17am
  • User-anonymous ajwood1 Flag

    Hey there,

    I am very sorry to hear you’re experiencing problems. I hope you don't mind me reaching out, but I thought you might be interested in the project I am working on.

    I am a producer at Double Act Productions - we make documentaries for the BBC and CH4. ( We are currently working with university experts to help film and test a new social robot that is being developed for use in the home.

    The robot is called Jess, she is able to hold a conversations with people and learn from social interaction. Jess may be of help to people in relationships that are experiencing difficulties. She is a non-judgement voice that listens and answers your questions.

    This is purely for internal research purposes and won’t appear in the public domain. If the project interests you please email me on I'd just like to have a friendly chat to see if you're right for the project :)

    Alex Wood
    Double Act Productions

    Thu 9, Mar 2017 at 2:25pm