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I don't know what to do

Posted by: Anonymous
Mon 12, Jun 2017 at 11:59am
Becoming a Parent, Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Communications in relationships, Sex and Affairs

Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 4 years, we have never had any breaks no problems and have been extremely happy. Back in December 2016 I discovered that I was pregnant which shocked us both but we decided to keep the baby as thats all we ever wanted. We have recently moved in together and live in a lovely little house and are enjoying decorating our little girls bedroom. I am now 30 Weeks pregnant and my boyfriend has been slightly off. Last week I discovered a fake facebook account that he had made on his phone, I confronted him and of course he denied it at first. I read through some of the conversations on there and I couldn't believe what I was reading, he was pretending to be a different person, someone he had made up in his head and he wants to be that person. He broke down in tears and said things like I hate myself, me being 30 weeks pregnant decided to get away from that stress and upset because I didn't want to stress my unborn daughter. We visited a counselor and she told us that he has a cyber sex addiction. I have never heard of this before and honestly my emotions are all over the place I don't know what to think or do, all I can think about are the conversations that he has had with women and I feel so unloved and unwanted. Has anyone ever been through this?

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  • Cc jaybee (moderator) Flag

    I'm sure you've done the right thing to put your own health and your child's health first. I feel sad for you having to face this at a time when you want to be enjoying the excitement of your baby arriving soon.
    Do you think your partner recognises that he has a problem that he needs help with? How would you feel if you knew he was doing something to tackle it?

    Wed 14, Jun 2017 at 11:07am
  • User-anonymous Lucy08 Flag

    My partner has admitted to having a problem but unfortunately I have discovered that he has had this problem since he was 14, he's 23 now. He has been seeing a counselor for the last 2 months due to depression and he is seeing her again today. He says that he is going to do whatever he can to get better and sort this problem out but I feel so betrayed and I wonder if he will actually tell his counselor about his problem, because i'm not there to hear it i just don't believe him anymore, he has lost all of my trust.

    Me and his mother have taken away all devices which can connect to the internet but this is driving me loopy and i'm always on edge. I love him and want to be with him but what if this doesn't stop? I deserve to be happy and i don't want my child to be brought up in that kind of environment where her parents are never happy and always arguing.

    Wed 14, Jun 2017 at 11:39am