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He's lost interest

Posted by: Anonymous
Mon 20, Mar 2017 at 4:51pm
Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment, Communications in relationships

My partner has completely lost interest in sex with me. To give you a background on our relationship, we have been together for 4 years but we broke up for just under a year during that time because he wasn't ready to commit. We have been back together for almost a year and we don't live together. Up until about 3 months ago we were having regular sex and were close and intimate. But since around Christmas things have been strained and we have only been intimate once in 3 months. We still cuddle but kissing and sex has been non-existent. I have addressed this with him and told him I'm worried but he just says all couples go this way after being together for a few years and that we're just going through 'a dry spell.' He says he's still attracted to me and that he's just stressed and busy with work so sex is the last thing on his mind. But I feel like we can't continue in a sexless relationship as it's important to me and I feel unattractive and frustrated emotionally and physically. It's really getting me down and it's got to the point where I'm losing interest in him and the relationship too as I can't see a future if it remains this way. I don't want to be in a 'friendship'. I'm really not sure what to do. Should I walk, or give it more time and effort?

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  • User-anonymous Boohoo Flag

    give him time, i have been and am in a similar situation, stress can be a killer for men. Be patient. It is hard, but if he is still kissing and cuddling you, he still wants you x

    Sat 25, Mar 2017 at 1:43am
  • User-anonymous k Flag

    I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. In the beginning we had sex about 3 times a week. Now, we only have sex about twice a month if i am lucky and if we both are feeling up to it. We have a great relationship with or without sex. Life gets in the way sometimes but as long as your relationship is great without sex then I would just give it time. Stress can really be a downer for guys. If it lasts for months then I would consider talking about how important it is to be intimate that way with each other. Sex is a big role in relationships and definitely helps the woman feel better about herself. Don't be too hard on yourself, men can be difficult but just remember your beautiful!!

    Mon 27, Mar 2017 at 10:12am
  • User-anonymous Bohoo Flag

    I disagree with k, sex is important in a relationship. It's about feeling connected and intimacy. It's important to tell your parter how you feel

    Sun 26, Nov 2017 at 10:17pm
  • User-anonymous Boohoo Flag

    Also how you feel in all this is so important and he does need to know! Depression is tough but you also have feelings xx

    Sun 26, Nov 2017 at 10:55pm