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Help Please

Posted by: NG1989
Sun 14, Jan 2018 at 3:08pm
Money, Becoming a Parent, Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment, Bringing up Children Together, Communications in relationships

Advice Please. My partner & I are 8 year's together. But his views for the future is different from mine. I want to get married and start a family together. He does not want to get married, and says that he doesn't even know if he wants children yet. After eight year's I think he should know if he did our not. I do not know what to do anymore it is getting me down alot and we can't seem talk about this our it's a argument and I always seem feel like the bad one , he says he loves me but if he truly loved me would he not be willing to marry me & start a family. And when it comes to money unless we are going half on something he is not willing to do our get what is needed. Need some advice please I love him very much but is this going to end badly? I feel at times that maybe he doesn't love me if he did would he not compromise.

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  • User-anonymous cokieniecole Flag

    Hello BG1989,

    I think that you have answered all of your questions. You know the answers. They are tough to accept but it is good that you understand. Eight years in a relationship is a big investment and is more than enough time to know what you want and don't want. A relationship of such commitment should be carefully evaluated for any hope of continuation but you also have to be ready to face the cold truth, moving on. If you want to start a family and your partner doesn't, that is a huge gap between the minds. If your future looks completely different from his after eight years, you are wasting time. A turn around for compromise is not completely nonexistent but should be addressed immediately. I hope that you two can have a meeting of the minds and everything works out but be prepared to move on to a life that you have envisioned and meeting someone who share the same.

    Cokie Niecole

    Mon 15, Jan 2018 at 5:24pm