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Feeling Lost.......

Posted by: Anonymous
Tue 7, Mar 2017 at 8:01pm
Having a Child with Additional Needs, Friends & Family, Mixed Families

Don't know where to really start. I feel stuck like I'm not moving forward I have a 1 year old and a 9 year old that has adhd and odd. My oldest has a defiant disorder where she don't likes to listen to authority. This wears and tears on my relationship with my fiance for 7 years.

I don't know what to do at this point I have had a cps case on me for almost a year because my oldest started out as being jealous of the baby. My life has been turned upside down to have to deal with this on a daily basis and the child not having no care in the world. It's so bad my family is in denial blames me for her reactions and why she acts the way she do.

So, now I don't know by next month if I will have my kids because my oldest child don't won't to do right. I'm always sad depressed crying. But feel like I'm not getting anywhere. I can't keep a job because my child likes being bad getting in trouble. I've lost many many jobs behind this and I don't know what to do. I want to get her professional help outside the home because I feel like i can't do it.

I constantly say the same thing over and over again. I just feel like I don't have no drive I don't won't to lose both my children because one wants to act up and be bad all the time. I never seen a child who can be so manipulative and make people believe her lies and make me seem like I'm the bad parent as if I'm not giving my all to help her.

I put her on medication she goes to therapy but nothing is working I want to give up but i don't because that's my child but what about my other child...Can someone shed some insight because I've been dealing with this for a very long time where I've gotten so stressed and depressed it has put me in the hospital.

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  • Cc jaybee (moderator) Flag

    I felt very concerned about you when I read your post.
    I'm sorry you feel you're being blamed for your daughter's behaviour. That's not helpful to you or your daughter. It sounds as if, through school or wherever, your her difficulties are known about so she's getting some help with this but it sounds like you feel this isn't enough, right? Not sure what to suggest except that you let those working with her know how well it's going.
    However, just as your daughter needs help, you too need support to help protect and improve your own mental health. I guess the first place to look for that would be your GP. Also, those working with your daughter may have information about sources of support and help, perhaps even some respite care, for you. They may also know of parents' groups and networks of other mums and dads with children with similar difficulties.
    Have you had a look around online for websites that offer advice and help?
    Here's a link to one that I found but you may be able to search out others:
    I hope this helpful. Do let us know what you think.
    Meanwhile, take care.

    Thu 9, Mar 2017 at 2:21pm