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advice please

Posted by: Anonymous
Sat 7, Jan 2017 at 3:48pm
Making a Commitment, Living Apart Together

My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 5 years. We are currently still seeing each other off and on. I would like to work things out but it feels like he is just using me for sex and money. He often ignores my texts and calls, says he doesn't get them. He does live in an area with sketchy service. I believe he has started lying to me now. He refuses to discuss the relationship (or arrangement). Should I just give up? Or should I withhold sex and money and see if he still comes around? He says he wants to wait and see what happens, but if no effort is being put into a relationship I don't see where anything will happen. Just confused and hurt at this point. I cannot tolerate being lied to.

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  • Ss AdamRHI Flag

    Honestly - it sounds a lot like him not wanting to take responsibility.

    How come you allow him to use you for your money? Does he not have his own job?

    Refusing to discuss the relationship (or arrangement) is a huge indicator of lost interest.

    Once you start withholding sex and money I'm sure he'll change, although that's not the type of change you want.

    If he acts differently when you withhold him of those things - you'll know that's all he was after.


    Sun 8, Jan 2017 at 3:48pm