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5 year relationship over

Posted by: Missd24
Sun 13, Aug 2017 at 1:59am
Life transitions

Where do I even begin? It's been nearly 2 1/2 months since I lost my best friend and love of my life. I'm 25 he's 28. My ex (I still have a hard time saying that) boyfriend and I split after 4 1/2 years together, 6 months living together. I can say that our relationship began as a young couple.. carefree, having fun, intimacy, going out late.. etc etc. eventually things became official and we spent as much time as we could enjoying life together, finishing our degrees (both commuter students working full time). Stress was a factor and I can say that at times I had a short fuse. I wanted to see him as much as I could, but schedules got in the way. We never got an apartment, but he had roommates for two years before moving back home for another two to save for a house. Over a year ago he asked my ring size. At this point I had been through the bitter feelings, tears, and constant wonder of WHEN engagement would happen. I even read books to help me handle it!! I didn't want to be pressuring... though I still voiced how much I wanted to spend my life with him. House hunting, saving, going through the motions together. 2016 we finally moved into a home. He always said he'd take the next step when we lived together. I didn't like it but I went along with it anyway. Bitter feelings came back... I put in SO MUCH to this house and paying bills, but nothing to show for it. I felt like commitment was never going to happen. I suffered from anxiety during college and into the move. I felt alone... moving in was supposed to be happy.

Long story short he graduated with a degree in engineering shortly after moving in. He became very self centered, never including me in anything and even asked that I give him space. I temporarily moved out and we only saw each other on the weekends. He officially ended it on Memorial Day weekend. I'm torn. He just stopped loving me. It's like the house and graduation day were his two main goals and if I didn't make him happy 90% of the time then I was ignored and on my own... just totally different person, we both cried and went through the first week of the split supporting each other. It's been soooo hard. He hasn't spoke to me at all! Two months and no contact.

What is going on?? I figured after this long, he'd be ready to talk again. Maybe he'll figure it out someday.

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