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Jealousy and Trust

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Some jealousy is normal in a relationship – it’s one of those things that tend to come with having a heart. However, there is a point when jealousy can become toxic, or even abusive – it can make your partner feel like she isn’t worthy of your trust, or make her feel like she can’t trust you with her thoughts and feelings.

Have you ever:

  • Noticed that your partner is scared to tell you what she thinks, or disagree with you?
  • Stopped her from seeing particular friends or family?
  • Told her what to wear or not wear in ways which made her feel frightened, picked on or upset?
  • Accused her of flirting or having an affair if she spoke to a man or stayed late at work with a male colleague?

If you have done one or more of these things, particularly if you have done several of them or one in particular regularly, you’re crossed the line from having a pulse to endangering your relationship, and hurting your partner.

It’s time to take action and seek help: everyone wants to feel loved in a relationship, but sometimes the best way to show you love someone is by trusting them, and enabling them to trust you.

Breaking patterns of behaviour and being more trusting of each other can take work and some difficult discussions so why not have a look at some of the articles on Trust issues on thecoupleconnection.net to get you started. (link to Jealousy and Trust articles on cc.net)

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Comments

  • User-anonymous Anonymous Flag

    Have you ever though how few advantages and rewards there are for being virtuous!!! Being responsible for yourself is far more rewarding. Only put yourself out to be loving and kind if your WANT to be. Not in the hope of anything coming back. 'Cos it won't. BUT it may be something you would like to do for someone - in which case it is very valid. Do you agree?

    Sat 7, Feb 2015 at 6:26pm
  • Cc lizraymond Flag

    Lies are really toxic in any relationship, aren't they? What do you think would happen if you simply stopped asking him where he has been and why? Like - just stop being interested in what he's been up to. For a while, that is. Just doing something different might provoke a change, and from there further changes might be possible. You still have your own choices to make during this process.

    Tue 16, Dec 2014 at 6:02pm
  • User-anonymous angel2404 Flag

    My partner lied to me about who he was right from the start of our relationship but i gave him the benefit of the doubt and gave him a second chance..but he just keeps lying to me about everything to where he has been to where he has gone and now i find out that he lied again about an ex and where he went one day...he says down the road to buy a present for him brother but he then told me he went somewhere completely different.

    Should i stop trusting him all together he has lied so much and it hurts so bad that i dont believe anything he says anymore

    Fri 7, Nov 2014 at 3:25am