1. How do you feel about arguing?
A - I think we should argue, but only about things that are important.
B - I prefer to avoid arguments than ‘rock the boat’.
C - Sometimes I enjoy a good argument with my partner.
D - I tend to shut down when I’m angry and stop communicating.
2. How similar are you and your partner?
A - We’re the best of friends and do most things together.
B - We respect our differences and often agree to disagree on things.
C - We’re both individuals with our own unique identities
D - We’re very different and often criticize each other’s faults.
3. What’s your preferred outcome at the end of an argument?
A - Find a compromise that suits us both.
B - I’d rather agree to disagree to start with and avoid an argument all together.
C - Talk my partner round to my way of thinking.
D - We rarely find a way to resolve our disputes.
4. Which of these sets of words best describe your arguments?
A - Talking, consideration, compromise.
B - Reluctant, awkward, unresolved.
C - Passionate, intense, debate.
D - Defensive, criticism, attacks.
5. How do you make up after an argument?
A - We come away satisfied we understand each other a little better.
B - We rarely let things get to the stage that we need to make up.
C - With some fun and romance, making up is the best bit.
D - It’s difficult to make up; sometimes we don’t talk for days.
6. How honest are you with your partner in an argument?
A - I share my feelings openly, but I’m always tactful when doing so.
B - I often keep my thoughts to myself rather than bother with an argument.
C - I’m very honest and sometimes end up offending them, even if it’s not my intention.
D - I tell my partner exactly what I think of them, which often escalates things further.
7. What do you enjoy most about your relationship?
A - Our solid friendship.
B - It’s an easy ride, we don’t need to try too hard.
C - The passion and excitement – there’s no shortage of romance with us.
D - We used to be happy, but it doesn’t seem like there’s much to celebrate at the moment.