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    I love my bf but i dont trust him when hes so close to his ex but i dont know how to tell him

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      Your question is interesting when you say you say you dont trust your partner? Why not? You need to think about that question first and then think how and when you might have the conversation with your bf. The Forum is a good place to ask the community for help. Good luck

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      Your question is interesting when you say you say you dont trust your partner? Why not? You need to think about that question first and then think how and when you might have the conversation with your bf. The Forum is a good place to ask the community for help. Good luck

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      Your question is interesting when you say you say you dont trust your partner? Why not? You need to think about that question first and then think how and when you might have the conversation with your bf. The Forum is a good place to ask the community for help. Good luck

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    Shes off and on. She calls me and tells me she made a mistake and wants to be with me, and then she changes her mind. We were in deep love.

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      If she was "in deep love" why would she be on and off?

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      she isn't sincere with you

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      This is hard for you as she keeps seeming to change her mind. As soon as you think she's back - she goes again. I wonder if a space apart might be the answer. It'll be hard to do, but it might help you to move on a bit, and help her to decide what she wants. When you're always available for her, she doesn't need to think about what it might be doing to you. You need to be considered in the relationship too. So, one idea is to take a break for a while (you decide how long) and then start again and see how you both feel.

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    I have been married for a little over a year and I have realized I have controling behaviors. How do I change and save my marriage.

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      if you what to form a habit of regular exercise, don't think and talk about how hard it is, but think about the results you will have if you are persistent.one of the ingredients of forming good habits and breaking bad ones is focusing on what you want to do and not on what you want to stop doing.

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      • User-anonymous Jim123 Flag

        You should really check out the website THEFEMININEWOMAN. you will see why!!!! Especially the respecting your man article

        Sat 14, Mar 2015 at 8:02am
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      Its great that you can see you have controlling issues...that is the beginning of change. It may be that seeing a relationship counsellor will help you both manage them in the marriage. They are often tied in to feelings of insecurity.

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      You could try to find a psychologist for this. I know not everyone can afford one but its a thought.

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    How do I say to my boyfriend he needs to contribute some money to food as I have been feeding him every night for weeks.he stays over as well.

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      Sit him and make sure you dont talk in a harsh way but very calm in a love tone so as not to ruin your relationship. Tell him honey i have just 5dollas but i need 20dollas to buy food stuff i dont know the way out? U will wait for sometime to hear what he will say and if he doesnt say anything then u tell him that,honey pls can u help with any amount to support me pls. Make sure u speak in a calm way because u dont know tomorrow maybe he is still your helper

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      Sit him and make sure you dont talk in a harsh way but very calm in a love tone so as not to ruin your relationship. Tell him honey i have just 5dollas but i need 20dollas to buy food stuff i dont know the way out? U will wait for sometime to hear what he will say and if he doesnt say anything then u tell him that,honey pls can u help with any amount to support me pls. Make sure u speak in a calm way because u dont know tomorrow maybe he is still your helper

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      This is what you say - "there is no food tonight as I cannot afford it. If you cannot take us out for a meal, then I am sorry but you cannot stay tonight" Good luck! (Find someone else more generous - I am afraid this one won't change).

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      • User-anonymous tuhot Flag

        Sit him and make sure you dont talk in a harsh way but very calm in a love tone so as not to ruin your relationship. Tell him honey i have just 5dollas but i need 20dollas to buy food stuff i dont know the way out? U will wait for sometime to hear what he will say and if he doesnt say anything then u tell him that,honey pls can u help with any amount to support me pls. Make sure u speak in a calm way because u dont know tomorrow maybe he is still your helper

        Fri 12, Jun 2015 at 10:07am
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    What do I do when I am in a relationship, however someone else likes me and I like them back? I have never been in this position before.

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      if you like him and he likes you then you should go for it but just ask yourself 2 things is he worth your relationship and do you love your boyfriend if you love your boyfriend stay with him because love is not worth leaving behind if those feelings are not there as much as they use to be and you have more feelings for this other guy now then go for him but just make sure that you are making the right decision because the wrong decision can affect your life badly if you get to involved

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      You need to ask yourself how does this person treat you is he loyal don't be disloyal to him that's not fair

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      It's hard to give a helpful reply without knowing more.
      Being in a relationship doesn't mean we can stop liking other people. It's quite natural to feel attracted to others from time to time. But being in a relationship means the liking can only go so far before a mutual attraction becomes cheating, which is destructive to relationships.
      Are you willing to take this risk?

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    My ex husband and I have just gotten back together,we were married 26 yrs he insists on keeping in touch with an old lover on facebook I am distraught

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      If hes committed, and loyal why would he still keep a old lover on facebook? If he was committed, and loyal he would have kept them in the past, and not in his present.

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      How about you ask you husband to include you in this relationship. I can fully understand why you are distraught. If either of you has a friendship, this can be shared. Invite this old flame over for supper or something. This does not mean that every friendship has to exist as a couple friendship, but that both partners know about all that goes on and that it is totally open to both. Secrets are poisonous to a loving relationship.

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      To georgehoward4u.

      I see you have placed several advertisments for [email protected], on posts from genuine callers on this site. It is totally against our terms and conditions that this site is used for such purposes. Please would you stop doing this. Thank you.

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    My girlfriend of 2 years wants to take a break because she is unhappy. We have an 8 month old daughter and I've come to find out recently by going th

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      Taking a break with a child involved becomes challenging when you have to decide who the child will primarily stay with, which of course will hurt the other parent. Most of all this hurts the child who has to now alternate homes. Talk to her about living under the same roof to coparent. She can Date whoever she wants and so can you, but you act as a team for the child.

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      • User-anonymous funnysunny Flag

        Try to discuss it with her. Actually, it's not clear what problems you have and why your girlfriend is unhappy. Remember, that your beloved daughter is the first girl in the world you need to take care of! If your girlfriend's complaints are not that critical, just try to somehow correct your behavior. I don't think that her state of mind is permanent. Only 8 months has passed after giving birth to a child - it can be just a depression. The one thing I know for sure is that leaving your daughter with her mom all alone is the worst thing you can do, cause your little girl really needs your love nd affection right now.

        Fri 22, Jan 2016 at 4:02pm
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      Honestly, I've known ny daughter's father 8 yrs, been with him 7, and like your relationship we're beyond the point of needing a break but we have a 16mo. Old baby so I get it. I think it definitely hurts the kid when the parents seperate to please themselves. What I'll do soon and maybe you could also, is have a conversation about not being in a relationship but possibly just living together to raise the child so the child doesn't have to spend alternate weeks in different homes. Lord knows I can't stand my daughter's father but are you strong enough to deal with your partner for the child's sake?

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      Why not post on the forum...where you have space to give more detail of your situation...so that you get a fuller response.

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