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    My boyfriend accused me of cheating a While ago We got into an argument last night and he wanted to leave. He's my first love. What do I do or say?

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      Transparency will help, no lock phones or at the very least he has passwords. Maybe he feels insecure because of something he feels he isn't getting from you. Find out what his love language is and start implementing things to both address his love language and meet his needs. Sometimes a cooling off period is require to calm down and reflect on what happen. Just speak honestly and respectfully.

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    My boyfriend accused me of cheating a While ago We got into an argument last night and he wanted to leave. He's my first love. What do I do or say?

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      if you really want this guy to say then you just tell him that you love him and don't want to loose him because loosing him would be like loosing the capability to breath and that you can't go through the rest of your life knowing that you had that one chance to save a relationship that really matter to you yours and that you need him more then you ever needed anyone before

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    My boyfriend accused me of cheating a While ago We got into an argument last night and he wanted to leave. He's my first love. What do I do or say?

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      first off if you doesn't trust you enough to thank that you would cheat on him then you really don't need him because who would want someone that can even trust you that's not a relationship that i would want to be in but if you truly can't loose this guy then tell him how you feel that you can't stand the thought of loosing him that if you was to loose him it would be like loosing the capability to breath that and that you couldn't go though life knowing that you had the chance to save the relationship with a guy that you had real first feelings for but you let him go because you couldn't find the right words or do the right thing that would make him stay make him know that he is worth all of the time you spend together

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    i love my gf but i dont want to lose her, she cheated and im still her how do i move on and accept her now? she hates repetitive questions & I do that

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      If you truly love her than forgive yourself first and then forgive her. Do not blame yourself for her choice, but try to understand the reason behind it. Show empathy, but you have to take her answers as the truth. Stop focusing on the infidelity and focus on rebounding. Let go your pride, ego, and drive to be right these three things are relationship killers. True love endures, its patient, its kind, its forgiving.

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    my girlfriend cheated on me we stop talkin for 2DAys seperation was hard. b4 I nagged her bout if she luvs me.she says yes but now tired of hearin it

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      Give her space, you already got confirmation that she loves you. Just back off and give her time. You are in panic mode and are only doing things that are driving here away. Stop and start working on yourself to make you better for yourself and better for her.

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    my girlfriend cheated on me we stop talkin for 2DAys seperation was hard. b4 I nagged her bout if she luvs me.she says yes but now tired of hearin it

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    My guy of 17 years has asked for us to separate. He says that he loves me but isnt in love with me anymore. The spark is gone. HElp

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      The question you should be asking yourself is whether is falling in love with somebody else or not. Just incase you need some help as regards this..let me know
      cheers

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      The question you should be asking yourself is whether is falling in love with somebody else or not. Just incase you need some help as regards this..let me know
      cheers

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      Let me assume…this must be your story:

      Once upon a time, you were 2 bodies but 1 soul...the perfect soulmates...Maybe the best couple in the area...nothing could separate you.

      But then something happened and your soulmate transformed into your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. After a long period of hurting separation, now you are dying to get your ex back. You are remembering those beautiful moments with your ex and crying and sad for what happened to two of you?

      Well,

      Patching up with Ex isn't that tough or impossible. You just need a perfect and invisible strategy to get ex back without giving any idea that it was a strategic move instead of a random emotional move to get the ex back. This guide is perfect to get help in making that strategic move to get your ex back.

      So, how will you get rebound relationship and get ex back? Well, there is a simple way to make the dream come true. You just need to follow this simple guide about how to text your ex back so as to get him or her back in your life.

      Get your 'Text your Ex back Guide: https://goo.gl/BKoK95

      Positive Points:

      Step-by-Step Plan to Get Ex Back
      Content can be downloaded in three formats (PDF, audio clip and video clip)
      Containing Tips to strengthen relationship
      100+ Text Message Templates
      Negative Points:

      Require efforts and time investment
      Not for people that want to get ex back overnight
      you will not get your ex in just one night instead it will teach you a step by step plan to get your ex back. If you follow these tips then you surely win your ex back and even you don’t need to wait for your ex to make the first move. Don’t forget you have 60 days money-back guarantee in case if you feel it is not working but I am sure you never even feel that!!

      Maybe this guide too couldn't help in your particular case. But what if it worked? You can't take a chance by leaving this opportunity as After-all nothing is greater than love. Am I right or not?

      So Grab this opportunity right now and get your soul back in your life and make it heaven again:

      Learn how to use tiny little text messages sent from the cell phone you have in your pocket right now to crawl deep into your ex-boyfriend's or ex-husband's or ex-girlfriend's or ex-wife's mind and reawaken his or her passion, love and desire for you literally at the push of a button. Even if your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend won't answer your calls, emails or texts now, you'll be amazed at how quickly his or her attitude towards you changes once you learn these simple secrets.

      If you still have any doubts, then my personal suggestion is to confirm by yourself by checking in detail here: https://goo.gl/BKoK95

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      Let me assume…this must be your story:

      Once upon a time, you were 2 bodies but 1 soul...the perfect soulmates...Maybe the best couple in the area...nothing could separate you.

      But then something happened and your soulmate transformed into your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. After a long period of hurting separation, now you are dying to get your ex back. You are remembering those beautiful moments with your ex and crying and sad for what happened to two of you?

      Well,

      Patching up with Ex isn't that tough or impossible. You just need a perfect and invisible strategy to get ex back without giving any idea that it was a strategic move instead of a random emotional move to get the ex back. This guide is perfect to get help in making that strategic move to get your ex back.

      So, how will you get rebound relationship and get ex back? Well, there is a simple way to make the dream come true. You just need to follow this simple guide about how to text your ex back so as to get him or her back in your life.

      Get your 'Text your Ex back Guide: https://goo.gl/BKoK95

      Positive Points:

      Step-by-Step Plan to Get Ex Back
      Content can be downloaded in three formats (PDF, audio clip and video clip)
      Containing Tips to strengthen relationship
      100+ Text Message Templates
      Negative Points:

      Require efforts and time investment
      Not for people that want to get ex back overnight
      you will not get your ex in just one night instead it will teach you a step by step plan to get your ex back. If you follow these tips then you surely win your ex back and even you don’t need to wait for your ex to make the first move. Don’t forget you have 60 days money-back guarantee in case if you feel it is not working but I am sure you never even feel that!!

      Maybe this guide too couldn't help in your particular case. But what if it worked? You can't take a chance by leaving this opportunity as After-all nothing is greater than love. Am I right or not?

      So Grab this opportunity right now and get your soul back in your life and make it heaven again:

      Learn how to use tiny little text messages sent from the cell phone you have in your pocket right now to crawl deep into your ex-boyfriend's or ex-husband's or ex-girlfriend's or ex-wife's mind and reawaken his or her passion, love and desire for you literally at the push of a button. Even if your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend won't answer your calls, emails or texts now, you'll be amazed at how quickly his or her attitude towards you changes once you learn these simple secrets.

      If you still have any doubts, then my personal suggestion is to confirm by yourself by checking in detail here: https://goo.gl/BKoK95

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      Let me assume…this must be your story:

      Once upon a time, you were 2 bodies but 1 soul...the perfect soulmates...Maybe the best couple in the area...nothing could separate you.

      But then something happened and your soulmate transformed into your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. After a long period of hurting separation, now you are dying to get your ex back. You are remembering those beautiful moments with your ex and crying and sad for what happened to two of you?

      Well,

      Patching up with Ex isn't that tough or impossible. You just need a perfect and invisible strategy to get ex back without giving any idea that it was a strategic move instead of a random emotional move to get the ex back. This guide is perfect to get help in making that strategic move to get your ex back.

      So, how will you get rebound relationship and get ex back? Well, there is a simple way to make the dream come true. You just need to follow this simple guide about how to text your ex back so as to get him or her back in your life.

      Get your 'Text your Ex back Guide: https://goo.gl/BKoK95

      Positive Points:

      Step-by-Step Plan to Get Ex Back
      Content can be downloaded in three formats (PDF, audio clip and video clip)
      Containing Tips to strengthen relationship
      100+ Text Message Templates
      Negative Points:

      Require efforts and time investment
      Not for people that want to get ex back overnight
      you will not get your ex in just one night instead it will teach you a step by step plan to get your ex back. If you follow these tips then you surely win your ex back and even you don’t need to wait for your ex to make the first move. Don’t forget you have 60 days money-back guarantee in case if you feel it is not working but I am sure you never even feel that!!

      Maybe this guide too couldn't help in your particular case. But what if it worked? You can't take a chance by leaving this opportunity as After-all nothing is greater than love. Am I right or not?

      So Grab this opportunity right now and get your soul back in your life and make it heaven again:

      Learn how to use tiny little text messages sent from the cell phone you have in your pocket right now to crawl deep into your ex-boyfriend's or ex-husband's or ex-girlfriend's or ex-wife's mind and reawaken his or her passion, love and desire for you literally at the push of a button. Even if your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend won't answer your calls, emails or texts now, you'll be amazed at how quickly his or her attitude towards you changes once you learn these simple secrets.

      If you still have any doubts, then my personal suggestion is to confirm by yourself by checking in detail here: https://goo.gl/BKoK95

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      You have to change yourself in order to change him. Take a look at what you may not being doing and the things you are doing in terms of meeting his needs. Find out what his love language is and slowly implement things that address his love language. Do Not overload him, again start slowly.

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    I'm worried my fiancé looks at porn. Its on his website data on his iPhone, he completely denies it. Is he lying to me or telling the truth?

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      It seems you already know the answer to 'is he lying to me?' Does it upset you that he watches it? It may sound like a heartless question but some people don't mind at all and others are horrified by it. If you're worried about it then maybe having a discussion with him about what is accpetable to you might help. Trust is an important aspect of a relationship and it sounds as though you're not too sure whether you can trust what he says. There are some good articles on trust on the site - might be worth having a look at them. I hope it works out for you.

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      • User-anonymous twink Flag

        I have always known my husband has used porn every now and then it didn't bother me as I knew he loved me and we had a great sex life. But 8 years ago things changed he got more and more into it by the time I found out he was addicted to it and all the other trappings that go with it (web cams, sex chat rooms, and sex dating sites) . Now after 25 years we are splitting up. I have read so much about porn addiction now it seems to be one of the biggest reasons of break ups nowadays I'd just advise caution.

        Tue 19, Mar 2013 at 9:22am
      • User-anonymous mindyloves Flag

        I agree with Charlie.....I have been married for 33 years and all my happily married friends and myself have expoerienced this...its normal...and as long as its ok with you then he will not hide it or lie..it does not lead to affairs ....that will happen if he wants to wether he watches porn or not...all young boys look at it from age 12 or so. always have done and probably always will...but if you are not happy then its something you need to tell him...chance are he will then hide it as he clearly wants to do it then you will have a cycle of distrust and end up splitting up...the alternative is you accept it as harmless fun and curiosity. Just cos we don't have the need for it as men do doesnt mean we are right...do you want to be right or be happy???

        Fri 15, Mar 2013 at 12:55pm
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      Does it matter maybe he is embarrassed about it most men look at porn I would just not make a bug deal out of it

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      It seems you already know the answer to 'is he lying to me?' Does it upset you that he watches it? It may sound like a heartless question but some people don't mind at all and others are horrified by it. If you're worried about it then maybe having a discussion with him about what is accpetable to you might help. Trust is an important aspect of a relationship and it sounds as though you're not too sure whether you can trust what he says. There are some good articles on trust on the site - might be worth having a look at them. I hope it works out for you.

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    My man of 2years has started to get too complaisant! How can i fire him up to realising what he has?

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      It sounds like you feel he takes you for granted...are you good at giving his love and attention....maybe you could ask him for what you want? Why not post on the forum and see what others think?

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      • User-anonymous CS88 Flag

        Hi Sinead!

        Thank you for your quick response :)

        I have posted on the Forum titled (Overcoming the mistake) Have a read if you can! Be great to hear what you think. Unfortuantely my partner had made a mistake (of cheating) a one off incident when under a huge amount of pressure in our relationship (that was VERY toxic at the time!)
        We are now trying to move forward and overcome this situation but i am finding his efforts are not as id wish for - he is not an overly emotional individual and also finds it hard to express feelings/emotions/reassurrance etc so this obviously doesnt help. In his defence, he has never been able to articulate his feelings too well so its not a sudden change. I just feel especially 'needy' of this at the moment (after what happened) and also want him to realise what he really could have lost (if i had not decided to forgive him)

        Thanks Sinead!

        Tue 7, May 2013 at 12:03pm
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      Hello friend how are you and your family? hope all is well with you,my name is Deborah, i will like to establish a good relationship with [email protected]
      please reply back on my email so i can so i can send you my pictures and tell you more about me.
      ([email protected]) (deborahadamu19AT yahoo(.)com)
      Hope to hear from you.
      Deborah

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      Hello friend how are you and your family? hope all is well with you,my name is Deborah, i will like to establish a good relationship with [email protected]
      please reply back on my email so i can so i can send you my pictures and tell you more about me.
      ([email protected]) (deborahadamu19AT yahoo(.)com)
      Hope to hear from you.
      Deborah

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    Am I wasting my time?

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      Listen to your friends. It may be the age gap, but he doesn't seen right for you. By taking him out and buying him nice things you may think you're being the perfect girlfriend but things like that should never influence someone's feelings for you.
      I am 24, and I dated someone pretty similar for about 9 months, he was texting a girl and I tried to convince myself it was nothing but all that does it cause you to be paranoid and doubt everything he says and does which isn't healthy.
      I left that relationship and although I was sad, I was so much better off for it!
      You'll know when it's right, be honest with yourself, are u truly happy? Or are you forcing it because you think you really want this?
      I am the most idealistic person ever, I dream of the perfect husband with the house and kids and in some ways that makes me my own worst enemy because when things aren't perfect I panic, I think you may be a little like me. Things won't always be perfect but if I'm honest with you, I think you need to move on and think about you! Sorry if its not what you wanted to hear.

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      I hate to say it but you probably are. He said he wasn't ready to be in a relationship, and he is investing attention in someone else. He is keeping you at arms length deliberately. Keep looking for someone that will return your love.

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      You might be better posting this on the forum...where others are more likely to respond. What really stuck out for me when I read your post was that you said you were not good enough for him. That is unlikely to be the case...you write as an articulate,intelligent and warm young woman. Low self esteem rarely helps a relationship...and maybe you need to deal with that separate from the relationship. On the issue of his texts to another woman...it is usually a mistake to go looking at a partners communications with others...However, your intuition seemed to be telling you something wasn't quite as you wished. If he is not being honest with you, is it possible for you to allow that fact to help you love him less? If he is behaving in an underhand way...he certainly doesn't deserve to be loved for it. It is also worth taking on board the fact that even if he is not being underhand...you might be showing him your dependence on the relationship to such an extent that he feels fearful of it. What do you think?

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    During oral sex my b/f removes the condom and insists I swallow his cum. If I say no he makes me so I just let him. How can I get him to leave it on?

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      If you are not happy with doing this, it is sexual abuse and there is no way you have to do it - tell him before you have sex with him again that you are not going to do this and if he then makes you do it again, please leave him, it is totally unacceptable to be abused in this way. If you need help leaving, talk to Womens Aid at www.womensaid.org.uk Please don't put up with being treated like this.

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      • User-anonymous Mary_Beth Flag

        Unless you're in a BDSM relationship, this is abuse. If you are in a BDSM relationship... use your safeword. If he ignores it, you need to get out.

        Tue 22, Nov 2016 at 1:29am
      • User-anonymous India Flag

        He shouldn't make you do anything.

        Mon 8, Jun 2015 at 5:41pm
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      I absolutely agree with the moderator. This is abuse. And if he can't see that and enjoys having you do what feels uncomfortable sexually, imagine the lessor ways in which he may violate your boundaries. This is a red flag. Tell him he can keep the condom on, or he can skip fellatio. I am not saying I feel a particular way about the topic, but I am saying that you are worthy of being respected for your boundaries. And if he moves on because of it, that may be to your benefit in the long run.

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      • Blue_eye_1680x1050 HeartLight Flag

        A small addition: If you knew a female you cared for, a daughter, niece, best friend, a neighbor...were experiencing this very thing, what would you say to them? What thoughts would you have about it happening to someone else?

        Fri 6, Jun 2014 at 5:40pm
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      you can tell him youre not comfortable with that- and you feel better having the condom there. if he insists he takes it off, you can tell him that its really unfair that he's making you do something you don't want to do

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    Depressive partners insecurity issues

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    how to deal with ladies that lead you on

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      I don't know what is behind your question...but my first thought is that you have a choice about whether or not to follow! However, I am sure its more complicated than that...why don't you post on the forum with more detail?

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      I don't know what is behind your question...but my first thought is that you have a choice about whether or not to follow! However, I am sure its more complicated than that...why don't you post on the forum with more detail?

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      I don't know what is behind your question...but my first thought is that you have a choice about whether or not to follow! However, I am sure its more complicated than that...why don't you post on the forum with more detail?

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    How do I stop my girlfriend's silent treatment?

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      Best to talk to her about it when she is not giving you silent treatment, tell her how much it upsets you, and ask her to be honest with you when something upsets her and talk to you about it. Going silent and sulking is quite childish, would be better if she could tell you what is wrong and give you a chance to sort it out!

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        Thank you for your advice it really helped but now we have other problems.

        Wed 30, Jul 2014 at 9:35pm
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      Best to talk to her about it when she is not giving you silent treatment, tell her how much it upsets you, and ask her to be honest with you when something upsets her and talk to you about it. Going silent and sulking is quite childish, would be better if she could tell you what is wrong and give you a chance to sort it out!

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      Best to talk to her about it when she is not giving you silent treatment, tell her how much it upsets you, and ask her to be honest with you when something upsets her and talk to you about it. Going silent and sulking is quite childish, would be better if she could tell you what is wrong and give you a chance to sort it out!

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