It sounds like you could do with some support. Are you sure he would be the best person to contact? Do you have a close friend or relative who might help? You could ask him for help...but what happens after the tough time is over...would you be able to deal with losing him again if that is what happens. Only you can decide if you are willing and able to take the risk.

It hard to say what he means from very little information, if i were you i would explain to him what you want (if you still want to be with him) and tell him you'll give him time and space for awhile while you both figure out if you really want to be together in this time don't speak to him and give him a chance to realise if he misses you. After time if you realise you two want to be together great, if not then you have to accept that he just wants to be friends.

Maybe it would help if you were able to say this to him...i. e that you don't think he cares for you! I wonder which of you initiates the once a week contact...what would stop you from asking for what you want from him. Why not post on the forum and see what others think?

You don't say how long ago this was. It is certainly possible to learn to love again if trust can be rebuilt. It sounds like you rally want the relationship to be like it was before but you have doubts.

You don't say how long ago this was. It is certainly possible to learn to love again if trust can be rebuilt. It sounds like you rally want the relationship to be like it was before but you have doubts.

It sounds like you aren't sure that your boyfriend is really committed to you and he's still looking for someone else? Why not post your question on the forum and see what others say?

It's not surprising he feels like this given his experience. It may be that your love may help to heal his pain and take the risk of marrying in the future. However, it might not happen...it is hard on you...but at least he is being honest. Looked at another way, he may well be saying he is more likely to have a successful relationship with you if he does not marry. Why not post on the forum and see what others have to say...it can help to hear from people who have experienced something similar.

It sounds like you feel he takes you for granted...are you good at giving his love and attention....maybe you could ask him for what you want? Why not post on the forum and see what others think?

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Hello friend how are you and your family? hope all is well with you,my name is Deborah, i will like to establish a good relationship with you.deborahadamu19@yahoo.com
please reply back on my email so i can so i can send you my pictures and tell you more about me.
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Deborah

Has he been betrayed in the past? sounds like pstd ...reassure him and be an open book about everything, show him he's worth feeling better about having a trusting relationship.

Has he been betrayed in the past? sounds like pstd ...reassure him and be an open book about everything, show him he's worth feeling better about having a trusting relationship.

It's so hard to rebuild, especially when there's no apparent cause. Why do they do it? There's quite a lot of stuff on the site about building trust - I've found it helpful, I hope you do too. The video clip is good too - well worth a try.

It's so hard to rebuild, especially when there's no apparent cause. Why do they do it? There's quite a lot of stuff on the site about building trust - I've found it helpful, I hope you do too. The video clip is good too - well worth a try.

Try to relax together; nothing will kill the mood more than pressure. Then see what happens.

see a GP

Perhaps he's stressed or unhappy about something. Try talking to him.

Your wife must be aware of her mistake so you bringing it up again in arguments will only torture her. When a partner in a relationship cheats it natural that it takes time to trust him/her again and it takes a lot of effort for both. I would also suggest to see a third person to help you, counselling is probably the best idea.

You can’t forgive if you can’t forget look at affairs and jealousy lots of people have been through it, get some counselling.

Have you sat down and really talked about why the affair happened, is there an aspect of your relationship that caused this in the first place? Counseling may help you reconcile your feelings.

Sure, you will be able to cope as young parents; even older parents need support from family and friends whhen they have a baby. Three years is a good length of time to know someone quite well. Good luck for both of you!

Of course - you have more energy than older parents. This is a magical time don’t let others spoil it for you

Becoming a parent is not easy and you will need support when it comes to money for example - but that's the same for most parents. If you're both committed you will be able to cope.

What about suggesting counseling?

Give her the space and give her time to miss you......it might work....good luck.

Maybe ask to try a trail seperation? They seem to work for may people i know.

I'd like to say no but maybe you have trust issues?

I'd like to say no but maybe you have trust issues?

I'd like to say no but maybe you have trust issues?

He could "talk" to someone online on the Listening Room on this site from 8.30 Sundays and every weekday evening and 4.30 on Saturdays. I wonder if he is always flity with women? It may be that he could learn other ways of being with women. It would be interesting to know why all these women fall into his arms, wouldn't it?

Your partner could try "talking" to someone online on the Listening Room on this site which is open from 8.30 pm during the week and on Sundays, and 4.30pm on Saturdays. I just wonder if he is always "flirty" with females? He could try learning other ways of being with women, rather than seeing them all as possible sex partners. It would be interesting to know how all these women fall into his arms, wouldn't it?

Some counselling might help. You could get in touch with an organisation like BACP either online or by telephone to find a counsellor near you. His GP might also offer NHS counselling. or group self discovery sessions. Another suggestion is that he gets in touch with the Listening Room on this site which opens at 8.30pm during the week or 4.30 on Saturdays. There is the possibility of "talking" online to a counsellor on the Listening Room.