This can happen with new parents as the dad may feel left out. You don't say what ages the people in your question are. Why not post on the main forum where I'm sure you'll get more answers.

If neither of you are in a relationship now, and no one else would be hurt by this, then what have you got to lose?

he thinks your family hate him,...... perhaps he is afraid they will react to him or treat him in a biased way because he dishonoured his marriage vows.

Many men have a roving eye, and a lot of them might return to the woman in their life that is their solid rock or soft target.

its a hard one because for many women, if a man has been introducing them to unknown body fluids without considering their position, that means it is over.

if the man deserts the marital home, the average woman would take that to mean it is over.

what makes your husband uncalm?
why do you need his permission to talk to your family?
why are you in your relationship?
what is the benefit of this liaison to you?
are you happy?
are you dependent on him for support financially?

if you are asking when to know if it is over, then it is likely it is over.

some people give what you call a last rag chance and set a timeline to see if their partner changes or if things improve or if dialogue improves.

they also will sit and speak to each other about the failures and weaknesses they perceive and the difficulties they are afraid of and concerns they have about each other.

They also agree to set goals and boundaries and ground rules which will pace their relationship and agree that if after all that dialogue its not working then they will mutually part ways.

Marriage is not bondage, so concentrate on what is important, you you you

next thing is you and him and how you relate to one another.

keep your mind clear and settle down and both be adults and work it through.

the man is not horrible, he is just doing what he likes.

if he really wants you then he will get with the program, or if he wants to go then open the door.

in my time, i have met women who had to get on their knees and bet their man to go and let them be, don't become a footmat of an emotional wreck

the golden rule of relationship thriving is dialogue

if that fails, groundrules

if that fails milestones to change

if that fails assessing the stakes

if that is done reevaluate and give a last rope

if you can make the rope long

if he hangs himself, bury him.

did he have the affairs recently or have things been ok in last 4 years....also its interesting that he wont or does not want you to talk to your family...maybe they are a better judge of his character and he knows it. Is he controlling and manipulative?...and what do you mean when you say he is horrible?

Relocating children at 6 is a fairly easy thing to do. Are you reluctant for other reasons. It would have added benefits if you lived together like shared responsibility etc. give it some real thought I did it and my children settled really well 400 miles from the rest of the family

Counselling can help you understand at what is going on between you, identify the changes you want to make and help you work towards those goals. If your gf wants to go to counselling with you, it's a very good sign. All relationships go through changes and stages particularly as love matures and you move from 'romance' to a deeper and more mature relationship. The video 'changes and stages of relationships' under relationship insights is pretty good ...why not have a look.

That sounds a pretty good start. Or, you could add, I know we decided to wait but now the situation has changed..... Why not post your question on the forum?

Have you let him know how you feel? If not it might. Be worth saying something like ' I love it when you kiss me' ...give him lots of positive feedback when he does! Do you kiss and hug him? Why not post on the forum and get the opinions of others in the community?

Let go, don't text him back. He might begin to realise what he wants then, if you keep playing his game then he'll keep playing too.

depends on what things you want

Look at what went wrong the first time and think of ways together to prevent those things from happening again. Openness, honesty and affection are usually the best ways to ensure a happy relationship.

Look at what went wrong the first time and think of ways together to prevent those things from happening again. Openness, honesty and affection are usually the best ways to ensure a happy relationship.

Give her time... girls need to hear nice things to feel good. Sounds stupid but tell her you love her and you never wont to fall out again... little things make a huge difference :)

Think of ways to earn his trust again. Start by being honest with both your feelings, and why you lied, and he might start to trust you again.

If she really saw herself with this person it's unlikely she would still be with you. Try not to get too worried - okay she thinks they're great, but she must think you're better to stick with you.