You sound quite confused over the new guy. If you really love your boyfriend perhaps you should stop talking to the new guy. Why not post on the forum with more details so you can get more opinions?

Sometimes people are jealous because they feel insecure in their relationship. I wonder if you can ask your boyfriend how you can help him to feel more secure. It may have nothing to do with his relationship with you...but be rooted in his past experience. However, if you can talk about it as a couple, it may be that you can help him overcome this and begin to trust. There are articles on the site about building trust and little relationship insights...videos that might help. Try the 'cycle of happiness' to begin with...and see waht you think.

There is no comparison to be made in making love with the person you love and any other experience. It stands on its own as new and very special because it is not just sex, it is the giving of your whole self. Why not post on the forum and see what others think?

It sounds like something that needs to be dealt with between you so that you can move on and be free of it. Is it possible for you to share the hurt you feel with your boyfriend? Why not post on the forum and say a bit more about what happened and the impact it had on you, you may get responses from others who have been through something similar.

Why not ask her out for a coffee after work. If you have enough in common you can then ask her to go to cinema, pub, out for lunch or whatever you would both enjoy and gradually get to know each other.

It is really hard for most couples to rebuild trust after an affair One of the ways forward is to try to understand why it happened and even though sometimes it means facing up to your part in how it came about this can be a way of taking power back so that you as a couple can avoid the same thing happening again. The following article might help...as well as following the links it gives you to relationship insights that should help you in the future. http://thecoupleconnection.net/articles/understanding-affairs-and-jealousy

I wonder why you are having trouble beleiving her that no one else has touched her? It's a compliment to both her and you (your wife and your choice of partner) that other men find her attractive too. There might be something odd if they didn't! Have you any reason to doubt that she's telling you the truth? You're the one she's with after all. Maybe you're feeling a bit unsure of your relationship together - perhaps it's time to put the spark back into things. Ask her on a date, plan a romantic evening, do something fun together that you haven't done in a while.....choose something to give you a buzz again. I hope that helps.

now before it gets worse and there is more hurt and upset

It does sound as if neither of you is listening to the other. Stop arguing and have conversations. Learning about each other can be a lifelong adventure. If you don't find each other interesting, why are you together?

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It depends on what your whole relationship is like. Is he still attracted to you? What are the other things in your relationship that have kept you together for this long?

Could you talk to him about this? It might be that he is tired, or depressed, or has a medical problem, if he doesn't know why he doesn't want sex it would be good for him to talk to his GP. Of course it is possible there is someone else, you really need to talk to him and find out what is going on for him. Hope things improve for you.

maybe he wants to take it slow. otherwise he's not sexaually interested in you anymore.

Whoever took the mortgage out is responsible for the payments - so if you took out a joint mortgage you are jointly responsible. If it is in the name of one or the other of you then that individual is responsible. If you need to get your partner off the mortage, you need to talk to the Building Society or wherever you got the mortgage from, probably also to a Solicitor to get some advice.

the names on the mortgage is responsible... i would think

I am not sure whether you are not sure if you have moved on from past cheating on him, or whether you have not moved on from his false accustion of you cheating on him? Or perhaps you are not sure whether this is the guy for you? Doubts are good things, aren't they? They make you stop and think.

I am not sure whether you are doubtful if you have moved on from past cheating on your partner or whether you are not sure you can move on from his false accusation to you of cheating on him? Perhaps you are just not sure if he is the right guy for you? Doubts are good, aren't they. It makes you stop and think?

The only thing I can think of is that she was being sarcastic if she though that she had already been trying to fix things with you. But I suppose that conjecture is pretty pointless until she can bring herself to begin a calm and rational dialogue with you. Good luck with this.

It does sound irrational, doesn't it? I hope you asked her what she meant? The only thing I can think of is that she was being sarcasatic - perhaps she has been trying to fix things with you for some time? Only you would know if that suggestion had any merit. I suppose conjecture here is pretty pointless and I do hope you get some calm, rational dialogue with her. Good luck.

How distressing for you - looks like you're going to have to wait this one out. It's not easy though is it? You tried txting and she doesn't respond. I wonder if you could just send a brief txt explaining how you feel - or what you want to hear from her. Is she OK? Does she want time? Or whatever message you wish to send. I suppose if you just let her know that you're concerned for her and ask her to contact when she's ready that might be all you can do for now. Could you manage that or would it be too hard?

How distressing for you - looks like you're going to have to wait this one out. It's not easy though is it? You tried txting and she doesn't respond. I wonder if you could just send a brief txt explaining how you feel - or what you want to hear from her. Is she OK? Does she want time? Or whatever message you wish to send. I suppose if you just let her know that you're concerned for her and ask her to contact when she's ready that might be all you can do for now. Could you manage that or would it be too hard?