Hi, really sorry to hear a bit about your situation - would you think about posting on the Relationship Forum and telling us a bit more about what is going on so we can try to help?

It is always difficult when we live in close proximity to our ex when our relationships have broken down and we have moved on. You sound a reasonable person and is it possible to have a reasonable conversation with yr ex to discuss the difficulties and the impact these problems are having on you and your life now? Sometimes it can work to clear the air, because people do not always realise the impact they are having on others. I hope you can work it out with yr ex but if you find its still causing more difficulties please feel free to use the Forum on this site to get support and input from the community. Good luck

I wonder if you have discussed this with your GP. Since it is not that unusual for men to be circumcised and they go on to have good sexual relationships it may be you need to be checked out physically as a start. Your GP can then direct you to other safe treatments.

It's tough! It depends on the reason...if the talking partner is criticising the non talking then it may be a reaction to that....in which case stopping the criticism may be the answer ..or at least part of it. It could of course be depression, in which case seeing the GP might be the answer. Why don't you post on the forum and see what others think?

What stops you asking him? Sometimes it means he is lacking in confidence, oddly enough,and is just trying to support his vulnerable ego. Of course there is also the possibility that he thinks he is the best! Why not say a bit more on the forum and get other responses?

Part of being involved in a loving relationship is about being honest and open in your communciation with one another. Maybe you have both got caught up in the excitement of falling in love and now you are moving into the finding out about each other stage and sometimes
we get surprised by what we find. It seems to me that you both need to talk about how this past history may or may not affect your future together. We all have a past, including good and bad parts, and sometimes it is difficult to discuss this with our partners. So I wish you luck in talking this through with your gf and you can always discuss things in more detail on the forum side of this site.

It sounds like you feel uncomfortable with this and you don't think it's right. Being very jealous can be part of controlling behaviour. He says it is his way, it maybe his way but you don't have to accept it. What do you think?

If you miss them even slightly, i'd at least agree to meet up a few times and see if you have that connection still. They must obviously want to work at it and be prepared to compromise. Aything worthwhile deserves a proper go, no holding back. Thats what I hope would happen for me if I asked. Hope this helps

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and? its not important. it shows your partner feels secure

Does it really matter if you love each other?
You both have a past it's no big deal. What matters is your the present and you have a future together!
Gently bring it up in conversation if you have to. But see how it affects you first, you don't want it hurting either of you. Discuss it, tell your partner that you want to know more about their background, and have it as a one question one answer game. You ask a question they answer then they ask you a question based on your past experiences with ex's.

Good luck and congratulations!

Try to see if you can choose things on occaision, he might not realise how controlling he is.
Does he control everything? Such as what food items to buy for the house? Does he enforce a strict schedule? If he has to have things organised in a particular way or arranged things like books or cd's a lot he may just have a compulsion or something.
If he is overbearing or arrogant with his desicions the it may be he is just too controlling and likes the power over you.

Hi :) having been in a 20yr relationship where I had discovered the same but was reticent to assume that there was any manipulation going on, the best advice that I can give you is to listen to, trust and act on your gut. If you feel that he is controlling a situation, it is most likely because he is controlling the situation. Whatever explanation or rationale is thrown on the table, it has to resonate with you because 'this is your life too' and it is your husbands job to reassure your concerns, not dismiss or deny your view/feelings. If it leads to too many arguments, then there is something wrong and you may have to look more closely at things. A marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship. He may be better at fixing shelves, you may be better at cooking (please excuse the blatant role models), but that doesn't mean you don't have any opinion on or input in DIY. It's easy for bad habits to creep in, to let things slide because they seem petty but ultimately, that's all they are unless there is something more serious that needs to be addressed, so discussing them should not be a problem. Good luck, J

No way is it normal for someone to text anyone else during sex, let alone other women! This should be time for you, and should be respectful as well.

I suppose it depends on what he is texting ?? To be honest if you cant trust him it will never work as it will always play on your mind , always remember the saying a leopard never changes their spots , so if he has done it in the past he will do it again.
Good Luck Babe , in what ever you decide. x

i think it could. because if youve been married for a long time, you both just might need the space. and having that, you both might relise how much your marrage means to eachother.

One partner wanting a relationship break, especially if no communication is a condition, usually means that they want to end the relationship. The possibility exists that they might miss the connection so much that they will ask to return. A break can work if communication can be agreed at specific times on specific days by telephone/face to face, whatever. This can give some space for reflection and for angers to die down and facilitate more harmonious communication.

It really sounds as though your boyfriend is not ready for a committed live-in relationship. You do not say that he wants to end the relationship so he must enjoy spending time with you. It may be the case that he does not want to change what you already have together.

It really sounds as though he is not committed to moving this relationship on to a more permanent basis and that his space and hobbies are more important than a live-in relationship. You do not say that he wants to end the relationship, so he must enjoy spending time with you, but he does not want to change what you already have together.

If he is married and still lives with his wife then he has no right telling you anything about what you can and can't do. But also you have no right sleeping with a married man find your own man one that is single and stop sleeping with somebody else's I am sure you wouldn't like it if it was you who got cheated on. Also if he can do it with you he can do it to you wake up

Does this really sound like love to you? "Only me - or else!" Apart from this married lover - do you have a wonderful life, full of friends and and sociable times with a friend or family member? Plenty of interests which you engage in regularly? A job that is really fulfilling for you? I do wonder if you spend a lot of your time daydreaming about what MIGHT be - instead of making some wonderful things happen for yourself. Go on - enjoy your life. Don't wait around for someone else to disappoint you. Best of luck.