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    10. My boyfriend chats to other girls on Facebook and hides it from me, then tells me I'm paranoid. Is this normal or is he up to something?

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      I've had a similar situation. You should definitely request answers from him. If he is just speaking to them because he is i.e. bored at work it is less worrying than if he does that during the time you and him are meant to spend time togehter.

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      he's up to something, if you just ignore this and carry on, he'll do it again and again ans one day you may up reading something you dont want to read. Dont let him do this to you, your dont deserve that, no-one does. Talk to him, dont moan or argue, make it clear that its you or he has change.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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      ofc he is up to somehing

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      • User-anonymous ponderingpolly Flag

        maybe its an ego thing, he may be upto something, or maybe he just likes the buzz of having a secret, however if he is dishonest generally and secretive about many things, then maybe that might be a worry. My husband before he passed away was very protective about his phone, it was his, not mine, I found that difficult to deal with, I felt there should be no secrets between us, and that it must mean there was something untoward in there, however he left his bill lying around (on purpose) for a kind of safety net for me, if I felt the need to check on him, He wasnt upto anything, just felt his privacy was invaded if I checked his phone. He was probably right too!

        Fri 6, Feb 2015 at 9:28pm
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    My fiancée isn't very sexual. I tried to tell myself it doesn't hurt, but it's starting to really bother me that he never initiates anything. Help?

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      Try talking to him about it. But remember he can change a bit but people usually don't change their sex drive, this is something that is in each person's nature. But do talk it out before making any decisions as you are engaged, you don't want to feel this way after getting married! now is the time to make changes before you continue suffering!

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      It can be difficult when our partner's sex drive is different to our own. You seem to have been very patient with your partner but are now finding it really is beginning to cause you concern. I'm wondering if you have tried to discuss this with your fiancee because I guess you are considering settling down for a long term commitment. If this is the case then trying to resolve this issue in your relationship now will really bring benefits for you both in the future. Once you have had a chance to talk to you partner maybe a check up with his GP maybe a good start and then possibly a therapist. If there is some underlying problem that your fiancee needs help with, with you being a supportive and understanding fiance, it will have an impact that moves you towards a better relationship. Perhaps posting on the Forum may help with additional support from the wider community or maybe some counselling with either Marriage Care or Relate to enable you both to discuss your relationship in a confidential and supported way. I wish you and your fiancee well.

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      It can be difficult when our partner's sex drive is different to our own. You seem to have been very patient with your partner but are now finding it really is beginning to cause you concern. I'm wondering if you have tried to discuss this with your fiancee because I guess you are considering settling down for a long term commitment. If this is the case then trying to resolve this issue in your relationship now will really bring benefits for you both in the future. Once you have had a chance to talk to you partner maybe a check up with his GP maybe a good start and then possibly a therapist. If there is some underlying problem that your fiancee needs help with, with you being a supportive and understanding fiance, it will have an impact that moves you towards a better relationship. Perhaps posting on the Forum may help with additional support from the wider community or maybe some counselling with either Marriage Care or Relate to enable you both to discuss your relationship in a confidential and supported way. I wish you and your fiancee well.

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    My husband beat me day before yesterday and he abuse me as well i dont know what should i do now weather to stay with him or leave him

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      Get some help. Seek advise on the internet. Try www.womensaid.org.uk

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      • User-anonymous Jackiesykes Flag

        I think you should leave, no one should treat you like this, ive been in your situation a few years ago, and it never stops, i left a man that i loved very much, but it was the best thing i done, at the time when i left with my two children, i thought id done the wrong thing as it was so hard, and couldnt see light at the end of the tunnel, but i wasnt wrong within a couple of months i became so happy and a strong person, never think you cant get over him as you will, but its not easy but you will get there promise

        Sat 28, Jul 2012 at 8:30pm
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      If you know he abuses you, get out from there! Leave him. If you still love him, remember that he's not wothy of your love, staring from the day that he abused you, until now. You are worth taking care of, not to be battered. If you want, go to the police station and go to the women's desk to call for help and support as well. This has happened to my mother, who was abused by my dad. And one day, they were fighting and my dad turned his irk from me and beat me as well. Then, when my mother saw that my dad is almost killing me, even though she, too, was nearly killed, she decided to call the police. The women's desk helped us since from the beginning until the end of the case. But if you're worried about the financial thing, if you have kids, there are legal agreements that can be done about the financial support. And you can file a temporary protection order which includes the court order that your husband can not come close to you (and your kids.) For a period of time.

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      If you know he abuses you, get out from there! Leave him. If you still love him, remember that he's not wothy of your love, staring from the day that he abused you, until now. You are worth taking care of, not to be battered. If you want, go to the police station and go to the women's desk to call for help and support as well. This has happened to my mother, who was abused by my dad. And one day, they were fighting and my dad turned his irk from me and beat me as well. Then, when my mother saw that my dad is almost killing me, even though she, too, was nearly killed, she decided to call the police. The women's desk helped us since from the beginning until the end of the case. But if you're worried about the financial thing, if you have kids, there are legal agreements that can be done about the financial support. And you can file a temporary protection order which includes the court order that your husband can not come close to you (and your kids.) For a period of time.

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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      Leave him at once! Your life is in danger! Go to a close relative's house or a friend's house and call the police. Think DO you love yourself MORE than you love him?

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    I love my partner but can't stop thinking about this other guy at work. Is it possible to forget him, or should I leave my partner for him?

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      Get to know the guy at work and you’ll probably realise your partner has many good qualities you have forgotten about.

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      • User-anonymous Anonymous Flag

        If you say that you love you boyfriend but keep thinning about a guy at work, you need to figure out why. What is going on at home? When we are either unhappy or avoiding issues at home, it can make us look at situations around us and remember how simple things were in the beginning. Take time to really figure out what is going on for you here. If you love you boyfriend, you owe it to him (and you) to figure out what is going on and to try to resolve things. I know it's wonderful to be seduced by the romance of this other guy...but think about what you have and what you want before you act. Good luck.

        Mon 30, Jan 2012 at 9:46pm
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      Get to know the guy at work and you’ll probably realise your partner has many good qualities you have forgotten about.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Ovs there's a problem in your relationship for you to be thinking about another guy maybe you should take sometime out for your self

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      imagine not being with your partner, would you be happy? you may be going through a bad patch with your partner and this other guy may seem like an angel, dont tell your partner about this guy, imagine if it was the other way around, think carefully, whatever will make you happy.

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      Don't leave your partner for this guy, it may just be a school girl/boy crush

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      Don't leave your partner for this guy, it may just be a school girl/boy crush

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      fyfd

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    My fiance sometimes goes in a mood and gives me the quiet treatment, he has now gone out in his car somewhere. Is this normal male behaviour?

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      • User-anonymous India Flag

        He should talk it out with you instead of acting like that.

        Mon 8, Jun 2015 at 5:33pm
      • User-anonymous vixi Flag

        He has come back now and says he just went to his sister's. I don't know if she has had a word with him because he's come back different and started to talk a bit. It's really tiring when he's like this.

        Sat 5, Jul 2014 at 10:46pm
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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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      Not really normal behaviour if he is not saying where he is going or why. I just wonder if he is afraid of your anger? You would know the answer to this. Do you have suspicions that he may be going out for a drink/smoke/drug? You could try disappearing yourself once or twice - not in any way as an aggressive reaction to his disappearance, but more for you to see what it is like to just disappear out occasionally.

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    I've just discovered my partner looks at porn on the internet. I'm hurt as he promised he never would. Should I consider it cheating?

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      its not cheating and tell him not to promise you if he cant keep it and explain how it makes you feel.

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      Guys look at porn. It's an unfortunate fact of life. Being allowed to fantasize also takes a degree of pressure off of the partner.

      With that said, there are some problems. First, he broke a promise. It was a promise he shouldn't have made, but he still should have talked to you before you found out yourself.

      What concerned me more than that is that he promised in the first place. He probably knew he wasn't going to keep it. It makes me wonder if he'll just tell you anything you want to hear.

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      • User-anonymous Anonymous Flag

        Ive found explicit pictures on my boyfriends phone a couple of times and I've just told him to delete them becuse I don't want to see that type of thing. I told him I don't care what he does in his spare time, but it's hurtful to see them still on his phone because I look nothing like these women and it dents my confidence! He explained it's just a guy thing and I believe him. I don't think it's anything to do with you, it's just something they enjoy..I agree with you though it's not nice to see and at first does kind of feel like you have been betrayed!

        Mon 2, Feb 2015 at 3:12pm
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      I am going through exactly the same with my partner. I first found out when i was nearly heavily pregnant with our daughter. he used to watch it before he went to work for 7am most mornings. i found the dvd he watched.another time i found his dirty tissue what he left under the coffee table! and then found out months later (after trying to regain my trust in him by never doing it again) that he watches it on the internet. I am always looking at his history on the computer to see what he has been looking at. sometimes he looks at sexy girls pics on facebook. I just dont know how to block feeling so betrayed by him, we are never close in the bedroom because of my mental issues with this

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      its not cheating and tell him not to promise you if he cant keep it and explain how it makes you feel.

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      It's horrible to discover but I wouldn't call it cheating. Tell him how it makes you feel and ask him why he feels the need to do it. He may be able to reassure you.

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        its not cheating and tell him not to promise you if he cant keep it and explain how it makes you feel.

        Thu 8, Dec 2011 at 10:03pm
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      A promise is a promise …isn’t it?

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      No, but you definitely need to speak to him and tell him how you feel about this and the impact it will have on your relationship with him.

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    my girlfriend is afraid of sex. we've been living together for a while.. been together for 2 years so far. she has a fear of penis but swears shes str

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      That sounds difficult for both of you. I wonder if your GP might help...he/she might be able to recommend someone who can help. Why not post on the forum where you will get responses from others?

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      That sounds difficult for both of you. I wonder if your GP might help...he/she might be able to recommend someone who can help. Why not post on the forum where you will get responses from others?

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        Get her to sleep with you but go easy on her and be gentle. Then you can show her that she doesnt have to be afraid.

        Mon 8, Jun 2015 at 5:34pm
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      That sounds difficult for both of you. I wonder if your GP might help...he/she might be able to recommend someone who can help. Why not post on the forum where you will get responses from others?

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      That sounds difficult for both of you. I wonder if your GP might help...he/she might be able to recommend someone who can help. Why not post on the forum where you will get responses from others?

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      That sounds difficult for both of you. I wonder if your GP might help...he/she might be able to recommend someone who can help. Why not post on the forum where you will get responses from others?

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      That sounds difficult for both of you. I wonder if your GP might help...he/she might be able to recommend someone who can help. Why not post on the forum where you will get responses from others?

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      That sounds difficult for both of you. I wonder if your GP might help...he/she might be able to recommend someone who can help. Why not post on the forum where you will get responses from others?

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