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need some help please

posted Thu 11, Sep 2014 at 9:00pm

I am 38 yrs old and have been in a relationship for 5 yrs now. my boyfriend was in a 8yr relationship that ended about 7 months before we got together, she walked out on him with no explanation and...

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Who to Choose

posted Thu 11, Sep 2014 at 5:26pm

I am 35 yrs old and was in a 15 year relationship (living together) with a wonderful guy that was the marrying kind. He was my best friend I loved an still love him more than anything. Everything ...

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Becoming a Parent, Sex/Intimacy and romance, Life transitions, Sex and Affairs

What should I do?

posted Thu 11, Sep 2014 at 5:22pm

Hello, I have been in a relationship now for just over a year and a half. We went out for a month or so before she moved in with me. When we first started our relationship she was leaving a fail...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment, A Psychologist's Perspective

Girlfriend and mutual friend

posted Thu 11, Sep 2014 at 4:53pm

Hey, this if my first post on these forums! I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 7 years, we're extremely close and spend a great deal of time together. She has another friend with...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Friends & Family, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment, Communications in relationships

Love of my life blowing hot and cold in long distance relationship

posted Thu 11, Sep 2014 at 12:53pm

My girlfriend and I have been together for over eighteen months. The first year was the most fantastic year of my life. However, we both lived in a foreign country and after that year, my girlfrien...

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Getting on Better with my Partner, Communications in relationships, Living Apart Together

Her Ex haunts me in the bedroom

posted Thu 11, Sep 2014 at 6:04am

Hi, so I've been with my current girlfriend for a year now. I'm so in love with her, she's perfect for me. I'm actually going to propose to her this month on our anniversary and I'm super excited a...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Life transitions

In a long term relationship, but cannot stop thinking about someone else

posted Thu 11, Sep 2014 at 5:19am

I have been in a long term relationship for over five years. There were really difficult patches, but I have managed to get through them. However, just recently I found that my bf may not be able...

Tags: dilemma,confusion,advice,love
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Life transitions

What to Say??

posted Thu 11, Sep 2014 at 4:43am

I guess I should start by saying that I am looking for advice on what to say...not for myself. My sister, whom I am very close with, and her husband are about to call it quits. They've been mar...

Tags: divorce,affair,miscommunication
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

help

posted Thu 11, Sep 2014 at 12:27am

I'm in a relationship with my ex husband but I'm not In love with him. I'm in Love with my ex-boyfriend whom my ex-husband does not like at all. The problem is I have 3 children and my Ex has custo...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

Unsure

posted Wed 10, Sep 2014 at 7:02pm

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and 8 months. I read the extracts on this website from the I love you but I'm not in love book and I think the best way to describe things is that we have ...

Tags: confused,long relationship,trust,lies
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Life transitions, Communications in relationships, Sex and Affairs

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Jealousy issues with bf

posted Tue 1, Nov 2011 at 6:45pm

Ive been with my bf for almost 9 years, and although i've always been a jealous person i feel like its now getting out of hand. Just some background info... Years ago I found out he was having an i...

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Affairs and Jealousy

Is He Leading Me On? I Really Care About Him ...

posted Fri 25, Nov 2011 at 12:15am

Hi all, I'm in need of some relationship advice. I'm feeling really blue about this. So here it is: I've known this wonderful guy for over a year, and was previously with another guy but knew hi...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Making a Commitment

help - we just cant talk without arguing

posted Wed 24, Sep 2008 at 1:12pm

My fella and I have been together for 8 years and have children together. Over the past 4 years we have be gradually been drifting apart with issues from work , neighbours from hell and me not sle...

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Getting on Better with my Partner

Shoul I Leave Him?

posted Tue 1, Nov 2011 at 10:09am

Hi Guys Im Kinda New To This Site... Okay So Im 16 And Going out with a guy who is 25 ( Yes 9 Years InBetween Us.) 3 Days Ago Was His Birthday, so as usual he picked me up from school with his car...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

I met another guy during a break up, but now my bf and I are back together, help!

posted Mon 21, Nov 2011 at 5:37pm

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 5 months now. The majority of that time we have lived together also. We've had ups and downs that have led us to break up several times (his fa...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment

confused

posted Thu 8, Dec 2011 at 2:31pm

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 and a half years, we are both only 20 so started dating when we were 16. 10 days before we got together my boyfriend broke up with me and we had been to...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment

Boyfreind caught masturbating in bed while I'm asleep

posted Mon 23, May 2011 at 11:40am

Hi new to this! But just wondering. Iv been with my boyfreind for 6months now and we live in our own flat. Everythings great etc and Yesterday we had sex during The day, and I fell asleep in bed ...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

webcam

posted Sat 28, Jan 2012 at 10:12am

I have been in a relationship with my partner for a year and moved in with him 3 months ago. I have just discovered that he is a member on a swinging website and that he masturbates online over a w...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

Is it him or me???

posted Tue 13, Mar 2012 at 10:51pm

I've been with my partner for over 7 years and we have a young baby now and I'm back at work, I went back only weeks after her birth and I'm trying to juggle home work and baby. We have exchanged ...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

Partner has fallen out of love with me

posted Wed 11, Apr 2012 at 12:30am

I was with my partner for 3 and a half years. We split up 3 weeks ago. Things weren't going well for a while and I could feel that we were going to break up but it just doesn't feel real at the mom...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

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Having an affair but can't leave marriage

posted Sat 31, Jan 2009 at 9:57am

I really need someone to put my life back on track, to turn me back into the mother and wife I once was... a year ago, all that matters to me was my family whom I took pride in and would do a lot f...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

Trying to right my wrong but so unhappy

posted Mon 2, Dec 2013 at 4:45pm

Hi my marriage became very one sided and I ended up being a single mum whilst married. Friends and family told my husband how things were but his answer was " she's well trained " and " she's alrig...

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Affairs and Jealousy

What do I do now?

posted Wed 21, Apr 2010 at 4:17pm

I have just recently split up with my husband of 10 years, we have been together for 13 years in total. We are very lucky and have 2 wonderful children together. Throughout our married life we re...

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Affairs and Jealousy

7 months on and don't feel any better after betrayal....

posted Mon 16, Mar 2009 at 10:07am

.....if anything I feel worse as the more I think about it, the more deception I see! My husband had been seeing a friend of mine behind my back for months and he was also e-mailing a woman off ...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

Is sexual attraction and friendship enough?

posted Sat 15, Sep 2012 at 1:17pm

Hi everybody, ive been on here before in search of advice....im back again lol So im 23 male, and have been seeing/sleeping with a girl who i have alot of history with, we go back along way lots...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment

after all the posting, i just had to make my own thread... on-topic but not seeking advice

posted Wed 2, Jul 2014 at 8:25pm

This whole posting thing can be like a nightmare... this may get long... feel free to zip out at any point. I'm male 57 Synopsis: a little over a year ago a friendship with a co-worker went bey...

Tags: relationships,friendships
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Friends & Family, Word from the street

Newbie help please?

posted Mon 9, Jun 2014 at 10:50am

Not sure if anyone can advise but here goes. Brief history, married 34 years, 4 grown up kids, financially ok and seemingly happy. Wife had an affair 20 years ago but worked through it and stayed t...

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Affairs and Jealousy

My boyfriend doesn't initiate or want sex.

posted Wed 11, Mar 2009 at 6:19pm

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now. We love each other and get on amazingly well. However...he doesn't initiate sex with me. In the day he can be all over me, hugging and kissing m...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner

Found my boyfriend wanking

posted Mon 8, Dec 2008 at 10:18pm

<p>Help - I don;t know what to do.&nbsp; I just found my boyfriend wanking over a girl online.&nbsp; He was using his webcam and it eas obvious they were both at it.</p> <p>Please help, I feel so ...

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Affairs and Jealousy

My Wife's secret affair with her boss!!

posted Mon 10, Aug 2009 at 11:46am

Hi all..Ive just discovered my wife is having a sexual relationship with with her Ex boss, this has torn my world apart completely. When she started working for this company 5 years ago she was war...

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Affairs and Jealousy

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