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Telling a dark secret to him

posted Wed 23, Jul 2014 at 2:41am

I have known him for a long time (6 years) and we have liked each other for some time in between which turned to more loving side this past year. We get along great but something aways prevented us...

Tags: secrets,abuse,family,marriage,childhood,emotional issues,college
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Friends & Family, Life transitions, Communications in relationships

married boyfriend

posted Tue 22, Jul 2014 at 8:06pm


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Affairs and Jealousy, Sex and Affairs

desperately need advice

posted Tue 22, Jul 2014 at 7:44pm

first i want to say i want to make my relationship work. so i need any advice on how to. my boyfriend and i have been together 3 years. we have 1 daughter together and i have 1 daughter from a pre...

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Work, Finding Time for Each Other, Communications in relationships

Lost & confused

posted Tue 22, Jul 2014 at 4:09pm

I've been with my partner for 1.5 years. We moved in together at the start of the year & got engaged 3 months ago. I found out that he had told a work colleague that we had a dull sex life & he ad...

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Communications in relationships, Sex and Affairs

Don't know what to do anymore

posted Tue 22, Jul 2014 at 11:30am

I'm a 29yr old and my husband and I had been married for almost 5yrs and we dated for 4yrs before we got married. I caught him cheating several times and everytime I comfront him about it he tends...

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Sex and Affairs


posted Tue 22, Jul 2014 at 8:30am


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Finding Time for Each Other, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment, Communications in relationships, A Psychologist's Perspective

Am I really ready for this?

posted Tue 22, Jul 2014 at 3:38am


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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment, Sex and Affairs

Is this the beginning of a lifetime of abuse? Or is this a once off due to his short fuse?

posted Tue 22, Jul 2014 at 1:47am

My boyfriend and I have been arguing almost on a daily basis for a few weeks. I am 23 he is 20yrs old..we have been living together for over 2 years. Our most recent arguments were caused b...

Tags: abuse,violence,arguments
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Another bombshell

posted Mon 21, Jul 2014 at 7:38pm

My husband had an affair. We've been married 24 years. When I first approached him, he denied an affair. I made a lot of changes that he wanted mostly sexually. For the next 6 months, I thought our...

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Sex and Affairs

Falling apart

posted Mon 21, Jul 2014 at 12:31pm

Hi, i am new to this site but need help. I found out in March that my husband of 8 years (12 years together) had been having an affair. My world fell apart. I struggled to get over it and made so m...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Life transitions, Living Apart Together

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I like this girl i haven't long met and she likes me back but.....

posted Tue 24, Nov 2009 at 9:53pm

hiya, (my name is tom) if u have the time could anyone be patient enough to read this it is pretty long. sry just say a few things so u can understand:- i'm 16yrs old and i just started full-...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

not sure where to turn?

posted Wed 25, Nov 2009 at 9:27am

hi there guys, just joined today and was asking myself the question yesterday that I so need someone else's persepctive on this otherwise I feel I will go mad here. I have been with my partner o...

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Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment

feel like im in limbo

posted Wed 25, Nov 2009 at 1:01pm

Hello, im new here and just wanted to ask for advice on a situation i have. I have been married just 6 weeks and my husband has been having 'chats' with a female friend. She herself is married and ...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

Please Help Me I'm So Messed Up!

posted Thu 26, Nov 2009 at 12:05pm

This is the first time since I found out that I have posted on a website, but it has got to the stage where I can't go on any longer without help. I am 35 years old, married for the second time ...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner


posted Fri 27, Nov 2009 at 1:16am

Me and my partner met on a chat site over 3 years ago and I was his 1st serious relationship and he was my second. Two years prior I had just come out of a violent relationship and had a son with h...

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Making a Commitment

please help, urgent, not much time

posted Mon 30, Nov 2009 at 2:19am

ive been with my girlfriend for 7 months, nearly 8. we met on bebo, by pure accident. we have always loved each other, and our relationship is very deep. we have never met, but talked on the phone,...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

why won't he meet my family and friends?

posted Mon 30, Nov 2009 at 4:18pm

Hi - don't know if anyone else has been in this situation and can advise? I have been with my boyfriend for 14 months, we met at work and still work together. We were friends for about 6 months...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Friends & Family


posted Thu 3, Dec 2009 at 10:28am

Hi, really not sure how to start this conversation but I met my boyfriend 3 years ago and hes a great guy. Completely different to wot ive had b4. I have 3 children from 2 different marriages the ...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

Advice am i being stupid

posted Thu 3, Dec 2009 at 11:43am

Hello everyone, like all the posts on here i am after some advice. I have been with my partner for 7 years and we have a little girl who is 2. We met on a chat site. 5 months ago he had an af...

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Affairs and Jealousy

How can I stop these feelings?

posted Sat 5, Dec 2009 at 2:36pm

My husband and I have been together for 21 years. It's always been a close knit relationship and everythings been great. Hubby had a career change and now works with mainly women. Felt slightly ins...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

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Having an affair but can't leave marriage

posted Sat 31, Jan 2009 at 9:57am

I really need someone to put my life back on track, to turn me back into the mother and wife I once was... a year ago, all that matters to me was my family whom I took pride in and would do a lot f...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

Trying to right my wrong but so unhappy

posted Mon 2, Dec 2013 at 4:45pm

Hi my marriage became very one sided and I ended up being a single mum whilst married. Friends and family told my husband how things were but his answer was " she's well trained " and " she's alrig...

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Affairs and Jealousy

What do I do now?

posted Wed 21, Apr 2010 at 4:17pm

I have just recently split up with my husband of 10 years, we have been together for 13 years in total. We are very lucky and have 2 wonderful children together. Throughout our married life we re...

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Affairs and Jealousy

7 months on and don't feel any better after betrayal....

posted Mon 16, Mar 2009 at 10:07am

.....if anything I feel worse as the more I think about it, the more deception I see! My husband had been seeing a friend of mine behind my back for months and he was also e-mailing a woman off ...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

Is sexual attraction and friendship enough?

posted Sat 15, Sep 2012 at 1:17pm

Hi everybody, ive been on here before in search of back again lol So im 23 male, and have been seeing/sleeping with a girl who i have alot of history with, we go back along way lots...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment

after all the posting, i just had to make my own thread... on-topic but not seeking advice

posted Wed 2, Jul 2014 at 8:25pm

This whole posting thing can be like a nightmare... this may get long... feel free to zip out at any point. I'm male 57 Synopsis: a little over a year ago a friendship with a co-worker went bey...

Tags: relationships,friendships
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Friends & Family, Word from the street

My boyfriend doesn't initiate or want sex.

posted Wed 11, Mar 2009 at 6:19pm

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now. We love each other and get on amazingly well. However...he doesn't initiate sex with me. In the day he can be all over me, hugging and kissing m...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner

Newbie help please?

posted Mon 9, Jun 2014 at 10:50am

Not sure if anyone can advise but here goes. Brief history, married 34 years, 4 grown up kids, financially ok and seemingly happy. Wife had an affair 20 years ago but worked through it and stayed t...

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Affairs and Jealousy

Found my boyfriend wanking

posted Mon 8, Dec 2008 at 10:18pm

<p>Help - I don;t know what to do.&nbsp; I just found my boyfriend wanking over a girl online.&nbsp; He was using his webcam and it eas obvious they were both at it.</p> <p>Please help, I feel so ...

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Affairs and Jealousy

My Wife's secret affair with her boss!!

posted Mon 10, Aug 2009 at 11:46am

Hi all..Ive just discovered my wife is having a sexual relationship with with her Ex boss, this has torn my world apart completely. When she started working for this company 5 years ago she was war...

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Affairs and Jealousy

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