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My boyfriend cheated, what do I do?

posted Sat 23, Aug 2014 at 3:14pm

I'd be greatful for any advice. I've been with my fiancé for 6 years we have 2 children now a girl age 3 and a boy 3 months. When my son was 2 months old I found out he was having an affair ...

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break up

posted Sat 23, Aug 2014 at 1:31am

I would be very grateful for any advice anyone could give me-I have just broken up with my partner of 8 years. We have had some underlying problems for some time but it really didn't seem like anyt...

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Work, Housework, Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment, Communications in relationships

I shouldnt have done it but how do I make amends

posted Fri 22, Aug 2014 at 10:43pm

To cut a long story short when I first got with my boyfriend I couldnt believe I was lucky enough to be with someone as wonderful as he is and I used to do some crazy things, such as go on his face...

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cheating

posted Fri 22, Aug 2014 at 9:45pm

How do you know if your boyfriend is cheating on you without checking his phone etc? I dont want to cross that personal boundry or rooting through his things, but things have changed in our relatio...

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curveball

posted Fri 22, Aug 2014 at 9:07pm

my head is spinning. I'm a 30 year old guy who until about a month ago, was in a perfectly happy relationship of three years. On a recent holiday abroad I proposed to my girlfriend who, amongst ...

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Work, Finding Time for Each Other, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment, Communications in relationships, A Psychologist's Perspective

Problems meeting your partner at work...

posted Fri 22, Aug 2014 at 7:39pm

Over four years ago now, I met my partner at work. He is my best friend and I love him to bits. We both have successful careers and are high-achievers... However... A year ago I went through ...

Tags: PTS,Post-traumatic stress,Work,Money
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Work, Getting on Better with my Partner, Life transitions, Communications in relationships

My partner and my best friend hate each other

posted Fri 22, Aug 2014 at 12:13pm

My partner and I are about to celebrate our 7 year anniversary of the day we first became a couple, and are both really excited about it. Our relationship is great, close, loving - she's my world a...

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Friends & Family

Female 41, in a loving but sexless long term relationship, had a fling - do i end it now and how?

posted Thu 21, Aug 2014 at 2:53pm

I am 41 and have been with my partner 53, for about 14 years. There has been no actual (penetrative) sex for about 5 years now - just a very occasional comforting mutual masturbation orgasm or I w...

Tags: lack of sex,long term relationships,affair,female midlife crisis,communication difficulties
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Life transitions, Communications in relationships, Sex and Affairs

Internet dates

posted Thu 21, Aug 2014 at 1:11pm

My partner and I have been in a relationship for 16 months. We have reunited 3 weeks ago after a break of 10"weeks. During this time my partner met with other women whom were on an internet dating ...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Communications in relationships, A Psychologist's Perspective

should i leave or should i stay

posted Thu 21, Aug 2014 at 7:37am

been with my boyfriend for two years both very young and i love him very dearly. he recently said to me that he loves me, he loves spending time with me and that he wants to enjoy what we have no...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment, Life transitions, Communications in relationships, Sex and Affairs

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PLEASE help, got no replies last time and I so need advice x

posted Fri 6, Nov 2009 at 10:51am

ADVICE NEEDED PLEASE I used to date this guy, was at a low time in my life and not been in a relationship really for 12 years, when I finally had the guts to go out in town, I met this guy on th...

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Affairs and Jealousy

Cheated on - follow up to Boyfriends loss of interest in sex

posted Sat 7, Nov 2009 at 8:33pm

Update. Last night I found out the guy I loved, who supposedly loved me has been having sex with someone he found on the internet off a dating website for about a fortnight. So basically instead of...

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Affairs and Jealousy

He doesn't know that I know about the other woman

posted Sun 8, Nov 2009 at 6:41am

I found out my husband has been emailing/ texting/ chattng and talking to another woman! The thing is he doesn't know that I know. We've been married for 3 years. We had just got back from a weeken...

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Affairs and Jealousy

I dont know which way to turn ??

posted Sun 15, Nov 2009 at 7:31pm

I have been with my now wife for nearly 5 years and when I met her I felt she was the one. We had a fantastic relationship and went out regularly built a great life together, had a nice house holid...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Making a Commitment

I think i made a mistake with someone at work

posted Wed 18, Nov 2009 at 9:17am

Ok ive got a bit of a problem and its really bothering me. I been good friends with someone at work for about a year, and at work we got the same group of friends and usually do things together. Ab...

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Making a Commitment

Broken Hearted and need advice

posted Fri 20, Nov 2009 at 1:51am

Hi, I am 26 yrs old and deeply in love with my son's father.We have had a very rough year as far as our relationship goes. He believes that I cheated on him and he is doing all he can to hurt me an...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment

Please help

posted Fri 20, Nov 2009 at 11:38pm

Hello, I have been with my wife for 12 very happy years (married for 8) we have two lovely boys 3 and 5. I can honestly say that my family means everything to me and to sum it up is my life. I ha...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

drank to much then hit me

posted Sat 21, Nov 2009 at 2:33pm

hi firstly any comments would be lovely im in a pickle im goin to clip note as i would be hear all night Baisicly my other half drinks alot 2 to 4 cans everynight even if he has been the pub he w...

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Getting on Better with my Partner

What can I do

posted Mon 23, Nov 2009 at 9:06am

I am a 38 year old woman and been with my partner for 5 and a half years, we have a daughter who is 4. We have tried over the last 18 months to have another baby but it has ended in 4 miscarriages...

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Getting on Better with my Partner

i dont know what to do with my girlfriend and porn

posted Mon 23, Nov 2009 at 9:48pm

I've been seeing my girlfriend for about two years now, in the past couple of weeks we have been discussing porn. I've shown her the stuff that i watch and we've watched it together, however she ...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

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Having an affair but can't leave marriage

posted Sat 31, Jan 2009 at 9:57am

I really need someone to put my life back on track, to turn me back into the mother and wife I once was... a year ago, all that matters to me was my family whom I took pride in and would do a lot f...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

Trying to right my wrong but so unhappy

posted Mon 2, Dec 2013 at 4:45pm

Hi my marriage became very one sided and I ended up being a single mum whilst married. Friends and family told my husband how things were but his answer was " she's well trained " and " she's alrig...

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Affairs and Jealousy

What do I do now?

posted Wed 21, Apr 2010 at 4:17pm

I have just recently split up with my husband of 10 years, we have been together for 13 years in total. We are very lucky and have 2 wonderful children together. Throughout our married life we re...

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Affairs and Jealousy

7 months on and don't feel any better after betrayal....

posted Mon 16, Mar 2009 at 10:07am

.....if anything I feel worse as the more I think about it, the more deception I see! My husband had been seeing a friend of mine behind my back for months and he was also e-mailing a woman off ...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

Is sexual attraction and friendship enough?

posted Sat 15, Sep 2012 at 1:17pm

Hi everybody, ive been on here before in search of advice....im back again lol So im 23 male, and have been seeing/sleeping with a girl who i have alot of history with, we go back along way lots...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment

after all the posting, i just had to make my own thread... on-topic but not seeking advice

posted Wed 2, Jul 2014 at 8:25pm

This whole posting thing can be like a nightmare... this may get long... feel free to zip out at any point. I'm male 57 Synopsis: a little over a year ago a friendship with a co-worker went bey...

Tags: relationships,friendships
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Friends & Family, Word from the street

Newbie help please?

posted Mon 9, Jun 2014 at 10:50am

Not sure if anyone can advise but here goes. Brief history, married 34 years, 4 grown up kids, financially ok and seemingly happy. Wife had an affair 20 years ago but worked through it and stayed t...

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Affairs and Jealousy

My boyfriend doesn't initiate or want sex.

posted Wed 11, Mar 2009 at 6:19pm

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now. We love each other and get on amazingly well. However...he doesn't initiate sex with me. In the day he can be all over me, hugging and kissing m...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner

Found my boyfriend wanking

posted Mon 8, Dec 2008 at 10:18pm

<p>Help - I don;t know what to do.&nbsp; I just found my boyfriend wanking over a girl online.&nbsp; He was using his webcam and it eas obvious they were both at it.</p> <p>Please help, I feel so ...

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Affairs and Jealousy

My Wife's secret affair with her boss!!

posted Mon 10, Aug 2009 at 11:46am

Hi all..Ive just discovered my wife is having a sexual relationship with with her Ex boss, this has torn my world apart completely. When she started working for this company 5 years ago she was war...

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Affairs and Jealousy

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