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'useless, incompetent girlfriend' he said.

posted Mon 22, Sep 2014 at 1:16pm

Myself and my live in partner had a massive row last weekend over how to cook the dinner. Long story short I added boiling water instead of cold to the mix and my partner reacted like a just kille...

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Communications in relationships

Will she or won't she? It's complicated!

posted Mon 22, Sep 2014 at 12:09am

Looking for your help folks. There's a girl who, up until a month ago, had been a work colleague of mine for almost 12 years. We've always been close friends but never had any romantic interludes. ...

Tags: Dilemma,relationship,help.
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment

I'm his best friend's ex-girlfriend

posted Sun 21, Sep 2014 at 10:11am

Hi, I just wanted to ask people's opinions of the current situation... Here's a brief look of it: - dated and lived with (at his house) my ex boyfriend around 2007 till 2010. This ex boyfriend i...

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Friends & Family, Making a Commitment

My relationship is hanging on a thin thread

posted Sun 21, Sep 2014 at 8:06am

my boyfriend and i arent seeing each other as often anymore we were so used to seeing each other during high school but everything changed now we are both in college and we have different days and ...

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Getting on Better with my Partner

What does all this mean

posted Sun 21, Sep 2014 at 1:14am

I have known this guy since I was 17 we were always just friends and nothing more than that. We are now 27 years old.A month ago he found me on tinder and we went on a date to a bar so I can drink...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Friends & Family, Making a Commitment, Life transitions, A Psychologist's Perspective, Sex and Affairs

Seems to be no passion or itimacy left in partner

posted Sat 20, Sep 2014 at 11:28pm

I will try to keep this short. I have a partner of 16 years, in which I have 3 kids with, not married. About 5 1/2 months ago we had a fall out that nearly ended our relationship over the issue of ...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner, Sex and Affairs

Both married but just seen each other again, after 16 years. Just so confused by his behaviour!!!!

posted Sat 20, Sep 2014 at 5:25pm

I was 35 just about to go thru a divorce and he was 29. We hooked up into a pretty turbulent relationship and I wasnt always the most reasonable person. His patience with me was incredible and, l...

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Long term boyfriend or crush?

posted Sat 20, Sep 2014 at 12:55am

I have been dating my boyfriend (name removed by moderator to protect anonymity) for about 3 years, since we were in college. He was my first relationship, kiss, everything. For the past 6 months o...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, A Psychologist's Perspective

I need your help & advise please! I'm so confused! :(

posted Fri 19, Sep 2014 at 12:58pm

Hi, here's my story. I am with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now and we are currently living together, we had a child but he died when he was still in my tummy and It really broke my heart but I ...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Sex and Affairs

My actions are in excuseable what to do now?

posted Fri 19, Sep 2014 at 11:21am

hi all my bf has a son who tries to commit suicide and has done self harming to a point where he slashes his wrists in front of the entire class in school. he did it on my birthday too. i am havi...

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Bringing up Children Together, Mixed Families

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Wife doesn't love me anymore

posted Tue 27, Oct 2009 at 5:14pm

My wife needs time to think because she thinks she doesn't love me anymore. I'm so unhappy. It all started to go wrong when her father died earlier this year of a heart attack and she became really...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner

Help on a specific subject

posted Wed 28, Oct 2009 at 2:43pm

Hi there, I need to create a post but don't know really where, my situation does not really fit in... Basically, I have been in a relationship with my partner for a year now and things are fine ...

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Making a Commitment

Have reposted again as am desperate for advice

posted Sat 31, Oct 2009 at 9:31am

I have been with partner for several yrs and now and we living together. we met whilst my partner was married, he left his wife after 6 months, although turbulent as he returned to her for 3 weeks ...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Friends & Family

Pre marriage worries

posted Mon 2, Nov 2009 at 2:39pm

Ive been with my partner now for 4 years and its had both its good and bad times. Were meant to be getting married next year but just recently Ive been having huge doubts about whether im ready for...

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Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment

need help

posted Mon 2, Nov 2009 at 7:42pm

hi i am new to here but am willing to try anything to save my marriage! my wife and i have been married for 7 years and have never prviously had any problems with our relationship. but for the las...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

Stress generally with married life and life in general

posted Wed 4, Nov 2009 at 8:42am

I have been suffering from what you might call "foot in mouth" disease for the last 11 years I have been with my other half. I can't seem to get it right, I always pick the wrong time to have "cha...

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Becoming a Parent, Finding Time for Each Other, Sex/Intimacy and romance, Friends & Family, Getting on Better with my Partner

my husband always puts his family first.....~I can't take it anymore

posted Wed 4, Nov 2009 at 5:50pm

I am at my wits end, I really need some guidance as I have exhausted all of my own resources to no avail. I married my husband 2 years ago and we now have an 8 month old daughter. Our relationship ...

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Friends & Family

PLEASE help, got no replies last time and I so need advice x

posted Fri 6, Nov 2009 at 10:51am

ADVICE NEEDED PLEASE I used to date this guy, was at a low time in my life and not been in a relationship really for 12 years, when I finally had the guts to go out in town, I met this guy on th...

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Affairs and Jealousy

Cheated on - follow up to Boyfriends loss of interest in sex

posted Sat 7, Nov 2009 at 8:33pm

Update. Last night I found out the guy I loved, who supposedly loved me has been having sex with someone he found on the internet off a dating website for about a fortnight. So basically instead of...

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Affairs and Jealousy

He doesn't know that I know about the other woman

posted Sun 8, Nov 2009 at 6:41am

I found out my husband has been emailing/ texting/ chattng and talking to another woman! The thing is he doesn't know that I know. We've been married for 3 years. We had just got back from a weeken...

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Affairs and Jealousy

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Having an affair but can't leave marriage

posted Sat 31, Jan 2009 at 9:57am

I really need someone to put my life back on track, to turn me back into the mother and wife I once was... a year ago, all that matters to me was my family whom I took pride in and would do a lot f...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

Trying to right my wrong but so unhappy

posted Mon 2, Dec 2013 at 4:45pm

Hi my marriage became very one sided and I ended up being a single mum whilst married. Friends and family told my husband how things were but his answer was " she's well trained " and " she's alrig...

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Affairs and Jealousy

What do I do now?

posted Wed 21, Apr 2010 at 4:17pm

I have just recently split up with my husband of 10 years, we have been together for 13 years in total. We are very lucky and have 2 wonderful children together. Throughout our married life we re...

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Affairs and Jealousy

7 months on and don't feel any better after betrayal....

posted Mon 16, Mar 2009 at 10:07am

.....if anything I feel worse as the more I think about it, the more deception I see! My husband had been seeing a friend of mine behind my back for months and he was also e-mailing a woman off ...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

Is sexual attraction and friendship enough?

posted Sat 15, Sep 2012 at 1:17pm

Hi everybody, ive been on here before in search of back again lol So im 23 male, and have been seeing/sleeping with a girl who i have alot of history with, we go back along way lots...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment

after all the posting, i just had to make my own thread... on-topic but not seeking advice

posted Wed 2, Jul 2014 at 8:25pm

This whole posting thing can be like a nightmare... this may get long... feel free to zip out at any point. I'm male 57 Synopsis: a little over a year ago a friendship with a co-worker went bey...

Tags: relationships,friendships
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Friends & Family, Word from the street

Newbie help please?

posted Mon 9, Jun 2014 at 10:50am

Not sure if anyone can advise but here goes. Brief history, married 34 years, 4 grown up kids, financially ok and seemingly happy. Wife had an affair 20 years ago but worked through it and stayed t...

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Affairs and Jealousy

My boyfriend doesn't initiate or want sex.

posted Wed 11, Mar 2009 at 6:19pm

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now. We love each other and get on amazingly well. However...he doesn't initiate sex with me. In the day he can be all over me, hugging and kissing m...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner

Found my boyfriend wanking

posted Mon 8, Dec 2008 at 10:18pm

<p>Help - I don;t know what to do.&nbsp; I just found my boyfriend wanking over a girl online.&nbsp; He was using his webcam and it eas obvious they were both at it.</p> <p>Please help, I feel so ...

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Affairs and Jealousy

My Wife's secret affair with her boss!!

posted Mon 10, Aug 2009 at 11:46am

Hi all..Ive just discovered my wife is having a sexual relationship with with her Ex boss, this has torn my world apart completely. When she started working for this company 5 years ago she was war...

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Affairs and Jealousy

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