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My wife is a control freak and it's pushing me away...

posted Thu 18, Dec 2014 at 10:03pm

I apologize in advance. This may get lengthy.. So just over a year ago I moved to the states. Long story short my wife and I have known each other for about 12 years. Talked on and off. We've al...

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Money, Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment, Bringing up Children Together, Life transitions, Communications in relationships, A Psychologist's Perspective

boyfriend cheated but I still want him

posted Thu 18, Dec 2014 at 8:54pm

So I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. It took him almost 1 year to win me over. I didn't love him at first but now I do deeply. and I know clearly he has loved me deeply too. We have had am...

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boyfriend is with someone else but still loves me

posted Thu 18, Dec 2014 at 8:25pm

So I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. It took him almost 1 year to win me over. I didn't love him at first but now I do deeply. and I know clearly he has loved me deeply too. We have had am...

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Letting go

posted Thu 18, Dec 2014 at 12:46pm

I am a married woman with 6 children . My husband is a great dad and husband, But not as affectionate or caring as I would Like. After a 2 year friendship with a 22 Year old , friend of the f...

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i dunno if i want to continue with the relationship

posted Thu 18, Dec 2014 at 8:10am

i am in relationship with my partner for about 5 years now. we are not married nor do we are living together nor do we have kids. we were planning to get married next year and we are unofficially e...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Making a Commitment, Communications in relationships

My spouse does not show me any affection or intmacy

posted Thu 18, Dec 2014 at 2:51am

I lived with my wife for over 30 years with very little to no intimacy. People say why don't you leave her but she is a good person, good mother and a good friend. She just has a lot of trouble wit...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner, Communications in relationships, Sex and Affairs

is it wrong to want more?

posted Wed 17, Dec 2014 at 8:16pm

I've been with my partner for just over 4 years, we have a child together but 3 times every year he gets distant and I find out he's been talking to other girls wanting sex. The last time he did it...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Friends & Family, Getting on Better with my Partner, Life transitions, Communications in relationships, Sex and Affairs

Is it right to try and get back in contact?

posted Wed 17, Dec 2014 at 10:52am

OK, I was in a relationship for 5 years but it ended badly about 6 months ago-she cheated on me and then when I found out, wouldn't discuss it and just threw me out- She just wont talk to me and af...

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Life transitions

its not all bad

posted Tue 16, Dec 2014 at 11:48pm

So im kind of with this guy iv been with properly for nearly 5 years and things have fizzled to the point where we are kind of friends now so we have an agreement where i can see but not have sex w...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Sex and Affairs

Mother vs Wife???

posted Mon 15, Dec 2014 at 7:15pm

I'm not even sure where the fault lies with this one to be honest. We're a blended family, wife has a son, I have a daughter and we have an 8 month old girl together. My wife has battled depres...

Tags: Mother,wife,marriage,jealousy,blended,arguments
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Friends & Family, Getting on Better with my Partner, Bringing up Children Together, Mixed Families

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I don't know what to do! (My boyfriend and his family)

posted Tue 6, Oct 2009 at 2:01pm

I'm struggling with my boyfriend at the moment. He's very close to his parents and older sister (he's 25) His mum has has just been diagnosed with cancer and is starting chemo - it's 100% curable b...

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Money, Friends & Family, Making a Commitment

When do you say enough is enough ?

posted Thu 8, Oct 2009 at 3:43pm

I am a mid 40's bloke, married for 20 years, two kids at school, who is living in a marriage where my wife does not display any real affection or is prepared to share any intimacy with me. This is...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Sex/Intimacy and romance, Having a Child with Additional Needs, Getting on Better with my Partner

Please help. Its breaking me

posted Fri 9, Oct 2009 at 8:48am

My partner and I have been together now for five years. For the first two years or so things were great. She then got pregnant in 2005 and we were both excited. Anyway, without going too much int...

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Getting on Better with my Partner

help sought for a friend

posted Sun 11, Oct 2009 at 9:07am

My friend and her boyfriend bought a house together last year after a few years together. She's got one child and he's got 2 children. She could not sell her house at the time, so is renting it out...

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Money, Friends & Family

When the flirting gets serious

posted Sun 11, Oct 2009 at 6:19pm

We met last Wednesday 30th September after contacting on a dating website and have four dates since then. We've been texting each other everynight (he starts the texts and he works nights). The la...

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Getting on Better with my Partner

Husbands betrayal

posted Sun 11, Oct 2009 at 7:08pm

We have been married for 43 years. The first 10 years were difficult as he was so jealous of me. He never showed these traits before we married, so his possessiveness was a shock to me. We had thre...

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Affairs and Jealousy

Need immediate help, please!

posted Mon 12, Oct 2009 at 1:53pm

Hello! I must start from the beginning as I truly belive the problems with my relationship come from different places. I am 20 years old. I met my fiance when I was 17 in 6th form and we started g...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

IS IT TOO LATE? PLEAASEE RESPOND =( URGENT HELP

posted Wed 14, Oct 2009 at 1:14pm

BEFORE I START I JUST WANT TO SAY THAT BEFORE YOU START READING THIS I REALISE MY WRONGS AND I WANT TO APOLOGISE IF I OFFEND ANYONE WITH MY SITUATION. I ALREADY FEEL EMBARRASSED AS IT IS. THANK YOU...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Making a Commitment

Am I missing something?

posted Wed 14, Oct 2009 at 10:20pm

I wonder if I can get some advice...simply put, I don't know whether to stay or go...I have been in a relationship for 21yrs with the same man. I do love him and have loved him since we met...he i...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

I don't know what to do....

posted Tue 20, Oct 2009 at 7:47am

I'm in my second marriage, we've been together for 10 years and married for 5 of those. Making love in the early days was OK but over the last 3 or 4 years it has gradually ceased altogether. I h...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner

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Having an affair but can't leave marriage

posted Sat 31, Jan 2009 at 9:57am

I really need someone to put my life back on track, to turn me back into the mother and wife I once was... a year ago, all that matters to me was my family whom I took pride in and would do a lot f...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

Trying to right my wrong but so unhappy

posted Mon 2, Dec 2013 at 4:45pm

Hi my marriage became very one sided and I ended up being a single mum whilst married. Friends and family told my husband how things were but his answer was " she's well trained " and " she's alrig...

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Affairs and Jealousy

What do I do now?

posted Wed 21, Apr 2010 at 4:17pm

I have just recently split up with my husband of 10 years, we have been together for 13 years in total. We are very lucky and have 2 wonderful children together. Throughout our married life we re...

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Affairs and Jealousy

7 months on and don't feel any better after betrayal....

posted Mon 16, Mar 2009 at 10:07am

.....if anything I feel worse as the more I think about it, the more deception I see! My husband had been seeing a friend of mine behind my back for months and he was also e-mailing a woman off ...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

Is sexual attraction and friendship enough?

posted Sat 15, Sep 2012 at 1:17pm

Hi everybody, ive been on here before in search of advice....im back again lol So im 23 male, and have been seeing/sleeping with a girl who i have alot of history with, we go back along way lots...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment

after all the posting, i just had to make my own thread... on-topic but not seeking advice

posted Wed 2, Jul 2014 at 8:25pm

This whole posting thing can be like a nightmare... this may get long... feel free to zip out at any point. I'm male 57 Synopsis: a little over a year ago a friendship with a co-worker went bey...

Tags: relationships,friendships
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Friends & Family, Word from the street

Newbie help please?

posted Mon 9, Jun 2014 at 10:50am

Not sure if anyone can advise but here goes. Brief history, married 34 years, 4 grown up kids, financially ok and seemingly happy. Wife had an affair 20 years ago but worked through it and stayed t...

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Affairs and Jealousy

My boyfriend doesn't initiate or want sex.

posted Wed 11, Mar 2009 at 6:19pm

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now. We love each other and get on amazingly well. However...he doesn't initiate sex with me. In the day he can be all over me, hugging and kissing m...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner

Found my boyfriend wanking

posted Mon 8, Dec 2008 at 10:18pm

<p>Help - I don;t know what to do.&nbsp; I just found my boyfriend wanking over a girl online.&nbsp; He was using his webcam and it eas obvious they were both at it.</p> <p>Please help, I feel so ...

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Affairs and Jealousy

My Wife's secret affair with her boss!!

posted Mon 10, Aug 2009 at 11:46am

Hi all..Ive just discovered my wife is having a sexual relationship with with her Ex boss, this has torn my world apart completely. When she started working for this company 5 years ago she was war...

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Affairs and Jealousy

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