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Advice needed

posted Wed 27, May 2015 at 5:24pm

Me and my partner just went through a trial seperation. So today after 17.5 years we mutually agreed to end our relationship. Its hard to accept but we really had no choice. Reasons for break up in...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Friends & Family, Getting on Better with my Partner, Bringing up Children Together, Mixed Families, Life transitions, A Psychologist's Perspective, Living Apart Together, Sex and Affairs

Advice needed please - bloke I was dating fell out with me! So gutted :-(

posted Wed 27, May 2015 at 2:56pm

Hi, any tips or advice would be appreciated. I been seeing a guy since march - we met online and have been on lots of dates. It was all going great until I messed it up! My past relationships h...

Tags: Argue,men,confused,guarded,upset,please,help
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Getting on Better with my Partner

Commitment or not commitment

posted Wed 27, May 2015 at 2:08pm

Hi All, My bf and I are both 29 and live apart. He has a crazy jet setting career and I am his first serious relationship. We have been together 18 months and for the past 6 I spent about 40% of my...

Tags: commitment,emotions,moving forward,long distance
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Making a Commitment, Life transitions, Living Apart Together

Advice please?!?

posted Wed 27, May 2015 at 1:26pm

Okay so I'm 22 and I met my ex boyfriend when is was 20 nearly two years ago, we started talking on an online dating website, he was in afghan (he's a infantry soldier in the British army) although...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

Need some advice please...

posted Wed 27, May 2015 at 12:41pm

Hello, my partner and I have been in a relationship for 2 and a half years now. We split up 8 months ago which resulted in me moving out. We where seperated for just over a month before we got back...

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Making a Commitment, Communications in relationships, Living Apart Together

What to do. How to entertain the guy?

posted Wed 27, May 2015 at 7:32am

I have been in relations for 10 years. We had been best friends, lots of trust, went via hardship together, even started a business. We decided he takes a consulting job on the side. What happened,...

Tags: love
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Sex and Affairs

Help please!

posted Wed 27, May 2015 at 6:24am

My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years and things are really good. The only issue - sex. He has an issue with his weight and so says that a lot of it is self esteem issues. My worry is that ...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Sex and Affairs

Need advice on what to do

posted Wed 27, May 2015 at 4:19am

Hi Guys sorry for the long post but i think you should hear as much info as possible to get the best picture. i am 25, and my gf is 20. We met by complete accident and we had a strong attraction to...

Tags: break,leaving,time apart
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Work, Finding Time for Each Other, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment, Communications in relationships, Living Apart Together, Sex and Affairs

Posted 5 minutes ago Hi, I have been with my partner for 3 years now, durng the 3 years our sex life has been fantastic and problem free. It was only a few weeks ago when we had sex upon waking up and for pretty much the first time I didn't last very long at all as I lost my erection (this has only ever happened once or twice whilst iv been with her) and she was very open about how upset she was by this, which I can fully understand. Since then, I let it get in my head far too much, and as a result it happened a few times more. I resaearched Erectile dysfunctiuon and why this happened to me, I even went to the Drs who told me that there is no physical reason its happeining, and its just a pyschological block (i.e anxierty of perfomrance as it has happended a few times i am worrying it might happen again) - so I spoke to my partner properly about it which seemed to help, things didnt go away over night but they got better over the course of the next 2 weeks, to the point where during those 2 weeks we fell pregnant :-) which I am over the moon about, and is evidnece that I dont have anything wrong with me. I love this woman unconditionally and want to spend the rest of my life with her, her children (my step-children) and our child (to be biggrin I find her very sexually attracitve, she does everything for me, however, sill to this day, I cannot fully forget about that fact that my penis has not worked in the past (because of those few times) and it still finds its way to the front of my head when we engage in sex. How on God's green earth do I get rid of this horrible, destroying thought from my head? The last thing I want is for this to persist, I want to enjoy my sex life without having to worry about it possibly happening again!

posted Tue 26, May 2015 at 10:56am

Hi, I have been with my partner for 3 years now, during the 3 years our sex life has been fantastic and problem free. It was only a few weeks ago when we had sex upon waking up and for pretty much ...

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posted Tue 26, May 2015 at 3:04am

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Jealousy issues with bf

posted Tue 1, Nov 2011 at 6:45pm

Ive been with my bf for almost 9 years, and although i've always been a jealous person i feel like its now getting out of hand. Just some background info... Years ago I found out he was having an i...

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Affairs and Jealousy

Is He Leading Me On? I Really Care About Him ...

posted Fri 25, Nov 2011 at 12:15am

Hi all, I'm in need of some relationship advice. I'm feeling really blue about this. So here it is: I've known this wonderful guy for over a year, and was previously with another guy but knew hi...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Making a Commitment

help - we just cant talk without arguing

posted Wed 24, Sep 2008 at 1:12pm

My fella and I have been together for 8 years and have children together. Over the past 4 years we have be gradually been drifting apart with issues from work , neighbours from hell and me not sle...

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Getting on Better with my Partner

Shoul I Leave Him?

posted Tue 1, Nov 2011 at 10:09am

Hi Guys Im Kinda New To This Site... Okay So Im 16 And Going out with a guy who is 25 ( Yes 9 Years InBetween Us.) 3 Days Ago Was His Birthday, so as usual he picked me up from school with his car...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

I met another guy during a break up, but now my bf and I are back together, help!

posted Mon 21, Nov 2011 at 5:37pm

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 5 months now. The majority of that time we have lived together also. We've had ups and downs that have led us to break up several times (his fa...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment

confused

posted Thu 8, Dec 2011 at 2:31pm

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 and a half years, we are both only 20 so started dating when we were 16. 10 days before we got together my boyfriend broke up with me and we had been to...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment

Boyfreind caught masturbating in bed while I'm asleep

posted Mon 23, May 2011 at 11:40am

Hi new to this! But just wondering. Iv been with my boyfreind for 6months now and we live in our own flat. Everythings great etc and Yesterday we had sex during The day, and I fell asleep in bed ...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

webcam

posted Sat 28, Jan 2012 at 10:12am

I have been in a relationship with my partner for a year and moved in with him 3 months ago. I have just discovered that he is a member on a swinging website and that he masturbates online over a w...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

Is it him or me???

posted Tue 13, Mar 2012 at 10:51pm

I've been with my partner for over 7 years and we have a young baby now and I'm back at work, I went back only weeks after her birth and I'm trying to juggle home work and baby. We have exchanged ...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

Partner has fallen out of love with me

posted Wed 11, Apr 2012 at 12:30am

I was with my partner for 3 and a half years. We split up 3 weeks ago. Things weren't going well for a while and I could feel that we were going to break up but it just doesn't feel real at the mom...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

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being silly?

posted Mon 31, Mar 2014 at 6:53pm

well I've been with my boyfriend 8 years we get on great etc with the odd row but who doesn't? Anyway He's been talking to a girl online from a different country all the conversation are very i...

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Can he be Trusted?

posted Sat 20, Sep 2008 at 1:52pm

I have been with my partner for 5months now, i moved in with him after three and we were getting on really well and i thought maybe i had found the one, even in such a short space of time. However ...

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Affairs and Jealousy

Im heartbroken and need advice :-(

posted Sat 23, May 2009 at 9:37pm

Hi there, 2 years ago I fell in love with a married man. We initially started off as very good friends for around 6 months until are feelings grew. He was older than me and because Im such a bubbly...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

Festive end of the road?

posted Fri 31, Dec 2010 at 5:50am

This is, yet again, another argument over nothing. Last week was bad enough with an argument on Xmas day, followed by a series of arguments and me bobbing and weaving around different arguments and...

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How can i get my things back???

posted Tue 5, Aug 2014 at 3:43pm

My Ex of 5 years who left me out of blue...due to get married in aug...2 days after leavin me i find out he moved in with someone else from his work.. oh and now he is engaged to her....has my per...

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Life transitions, Communications in relationships, Living Apart Together

I am not trying to resolve a painful dilemma but have been confronted by something entirely new to me.

posted Sat 30, Aug 2014 at 10:57am

*** up front, please do not respond to this with social or psychological opinion, particularly that of the current Western milieu *** I am a 32 year old American man living in the UK for a brief...

Tags: emotional bonding,impending marriage,physical punishment per her suggestion.
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He doesn't know that I know about the other woman

posted Sun 8, Nov 2009 at 6:41am

I found out my husband has been emailing/ texting/ chattng and talking to another woman! The thing is he doesn't know that I know. We've been married for 3 years. We had just got back from a weeken...

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Affairs and Jealousy

I AM IN DANGER...

posted Fri 29, Jul 2011 at 11:55pm

hi ..iam an indian girl of 27 years and iam in love with a guy of same age.. my problem is he is nt giving proper time to our relationship. we are having a long relationship from 5 years ago. from ...

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Affairs and Jealousy

Will we get back together?

posted Sat 9, May 2009 at 5:37pm

I have just said good bye to my partner this morning after a 3 year relationship, we both didn't want to and we love each other so much but he thought it was best as we had both been arguing some m...

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Getting on Better with my Partner

Advice on how to get my man to talk to me

posted Tue 18, Nov 2008 at 2:22pm

<p>anyone please got some tips on how to get my boyfriend of 3 years to talk to me? Sounds rediculous but its drving us apart. over the last 3 weeks we've spent time apart, in order to give each ot...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Getting on Better with my Partner

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