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break up

posted Sat 23, Aug 2014 at 1:31am

I would be very grateful for any advice anyone could give me-I have just broken up with my partner of 8 years. We have had some underlying problems for some time but it really didn't seem like anyt...

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Work, Housework, Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment, Communications in relationships

I shouldnt have done it but how do I make amends

posted Fri 22, Aug 2014 at 10:43pm

To cut a long story short when I first got with my boyfriend I couldnt believe I was lucky enough to be with someone as wonderful as he is and I used to do some crazy things, such as go on his face...

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cheating

posted Fri 22, Aug 2014 at 9:45pm

How do you know if your boyfriend is cheating on you without checking his phone etc? I dont want to cross that personal boundry or rooting through his things, but things have changed in our relatio...

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curveball

posted Fri 22, Aug 2014 at 9:07pm

my head is spinning. I'm a 30 year old guy who until about a month ago, was in a perfectly happy relationship of three years. On a recent holiday abroad I proposed to my girlfriend who, amongst ...

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Work, Finding Time for Each Other, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment, Communications in relationships, A Psychologist's Perspective

Problems meeting your partner at work...

posted Fri 22, Aug 2014 at 7:39pm

Over four years ago now, I met my partner at work. He is my best friend and I love him to bits. We both have successful careers and are high-achievers... However... A year ago I went through ...

Tags: PTS,Post-traumatic stress,Work,Money
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Work, Getting on Better with my Partner, Life transitions, Communications in relationships

My partner and my best friend hate each other

posted Fri 22, Aug 2014 at 12:13pm

My partner and I are about to celebrate our 7 year anniversary of the day we first became a couple, and are both really excited about it. Our relationship is great, close, loving - she's my world a...

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Friends & Family

Female 41, in a loving but sexless long term relationship, had a fling - do i end it now and how?

posted Thu 21, Aug 2014 at 2:53pm

I am 41 and have been with my partner 53, for about 14 years. There has been no actual (penetrative) sex for about 5 years now - just a very occasional comforting mutual masturbation orgasm or I w...

Tags: lack of sex,long term relationships,affair,female midlife crisis,communication difficulties
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Life transitions, Communications in relationships, Sex and Affairs

Internet dates

posted Thu 21, Aug 2014 at 1:11pm

My partner and I have been in a relationship for 16 months. We have reunited 3 weeks ago after a break of 10"weeks. During this time my partner met with other women whom were on an internet dating ...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Communications in relationships, A Psychologist's Perspective

should i leave or should i stay

posted Thu 21, Aug 2014 at 7:37am

been with my boyfriend for two years both very young and i love him very dearly. he recently said to me that he loves me, he loves spending time with me and that he wants to enjoy what we have no...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment, Life transitions, Communications in relationships, Sex and Affairs

Do i be honest, or skip the truth?

posted Wed 20, Aug 2014 at 7:50pm

I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years at the end of May, it was a dramatic break up and took everything out of me to come to the decision.. To cut a long story short, the break up happened as he ...

Tags: lies,liar,truth,deception,relationship,ex,partner,sex,romance,love,hate
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment, Communications in relationships, Sex and Affairs

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Jealousy issues with bf

posted Tue 1, Nov 2011 at 6:45pm

Ive been with my bf for almost 9 years, and although i've always been a jealous person i feel like its now getting out of hand. Just some background info... Years ago I found out he was having an i...

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Affairs and Jealousy

Is He Leading Me On? I Really Care About Him ...

posted Fri 25, Nov 2011 at 12:15am

Hi all, I'm in need of some relationship advice. I'm feeling really blue about this. So here it is: I've known this wonderful guy for over a year, and was previously with another guy but knew hi...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Making a Commitment

help - we just cant talk without arguing

posted Wed 24, Sep 2008 at 1:12pm

My fella and I have been together for 8 years and have children together. Over the past 4 years we have be gradually been drifting apart with issues from work , neighbours from hell and me not sle...

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Getting on Better with my Partner

Shoul I Leave Him?

posted Tue 1, Nov 2011 at 10:09am

Hi Guys Im Kinda New To This Site... Okay So Im 16 And Going out with a guy who is 25 ( Yes 9 Years InBetween Us.) 3 Days Ago Was His Birthday, so as usual he picked me up from school with his car...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

I met another guy during a break up, but now my bf and I are back together, help!

posted Mon 21, Nov 2011 at 5:37pm

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 5 months now. The majority of that time we have lived together also. We've had ups and downs that have led us to break up several times (his fa...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment

confused

posted Thu 8, Dec 2011 at 2:31pm

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 and a half years, we are both only 20 so started dating when we were 16. 10 days before we got together my boyfriend broke up with me and we had been to...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Making a Commitment

Boyfreind caught masturbating in bed while I'm asleep

posted Mon 23, May 2011 at 11:40am

Hi new to this! But just wondering. Iv been with my boyfreind for 6months now and we live in our own flat. Everythings great etc and Yesterday we had sex during The day, and I fell asleep in bed ...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

webcam

posted Sat 28, Jan 2012 at 10:12am

I have been in a relationship with my partner for a year and moved in with him 3 months ago. I have just discovered that he is a member on a swinging website and that he masturbates online over a w...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

Is it him or me???

posted Tue 13, Mar 2012 at 10:51pm

I've been with my partner for over 7 years and we have a young baby now and I'm back at work, I went back only weeks after her birth and I'm trying to juggle home work and baby. We have exchanged ...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

Partner has fallen out of love with me

posted Wed 11, Apr 2012 at 12:30am

I was with my partner for 3 and a half years. We split up 3 weeks ago. Things weren't going well for a while and I could feel that we were going to break up but it just doesn't feel real at the mom...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

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Damned if I do Damned if I don't

posted Mon 4, Mar 2013 at 6:43pm

Hi, I'm new to this forum but I could really use some help. I have been dating my Girlfriend for about 3 years and last September we got engaged while on a trip to New York City. She said yes an...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Getting on Better with my Partner, Making a Commitment

I am so confused about everything, I don't know if it's about her?

posted Mon 4, Mar 2013 at 9:19pm

I'll start at the beginning, I met my now ex girlfriend over two years ago. She was (and still is) perfect, and she's two years older than me. Even though I was going out with someone else at the t...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Making a Commitment

I don't like that he did this?

posted Mon 4, Mar 2013 at 10:43pm

So my boyfriend has/gets a lot of tattoos, and a while back when we first started dating he allowed his female best friend to come to one of his appointments. I had never been to one before, but I ...

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Affairs and Jealousy, Friends & Family

Is he really too busy or am i being insecure?

posted Sat 9, Mar 2013 at 6:09pm

I've been in a relationship with my bf now for just over 1 year which is the longest I've ever had. Everything was going really well but suddenly over the past couple of weeks I've been feeling rea...

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Finding Time for Each Other, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

Why can't I forget the past???

posted Sun 10, Mar 2013 at 11:59am

ok, where do I start? My partner and I are both divorced and got together 5 years ago. He was honest about his past and told me that his ex-wife had many affairs both before and during their marria...

Tags: lapdancing,insecurity,confidence,sex,Goldfingers,Weymouth
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

On and off again

posted Mon 18, Feb 2013 at 1:26am

Hello everyone. Please bear with me as this is long. I do not know where to turn as all my family and friends are tired of hearing my story. I am sure I am over analyzing it but please help if y...

Tags: love,emotional,abuse,yo-yo,best friend,cheating,breakup,same-sex
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Affairs and Jealousy

Jealous of my guys Ex

posted Mon 11, Mar 2013 at 11:47am

So I found some pictures of my boyfriends ex- naked pictures some were really dirty and i cant get it out of my mind!! Its driving me insane i cry every day i feel sick thinking of it, I cant be in...

Tags: jealousy,romance,intimacy,relationship
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy

Trying to make our marriage work a second time (sorry this is a bit Jeremy Kyle)

posted Wed 13, Mar 2013 at 2:37pm

Sorry I will keep this as short as possible but its been a terrible few years. I have been married to my husband for 10yrs now and we have 3 children aged 11, 8 & 6. We seperated 3yrs ago mainly ...

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Affairs and Jealousy

how to live like this 4ever ?

posted Tue 12, Mar 2013 at 3:10pm

I have been going to sleep and waking up thinking of the same issues all over and over everyday for months... I am trying to make myself get use to it, trying to accept the fact that is too late an...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance

Old age affair for my partners grandparents

posted Wed 13, Mar 2013 at 5:24pm

It will probably sound insensitive of me to write this post but I'm asking whether my attitude makes sense to other people, it undoubtedly doesn't to my boyfriend. Ok, My boyfriend's grandfather...

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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Affairs and Jealousy, Friends & Family, Making a Commitment

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